Hi there!
All human beings want to love, connect, and enjoy different experiences together with other human beings;
either they happen to be single, or divorced, or widowed, they all want to bond and find a partner to share their life with.
Online dating is modern and easy, but you must choose the right sites according to your age.
Online dating can be really dangerous, if you do not know the most suitable way to handle it in order to protect yourself.
Many people, and especially women, are afraid that they may have to live alone forever;
so they turn to online dating, and if someone responds positively they feel needed and appreciated again.
Unfortunately, many times they fall victims of deceit, deception, and perhaps, even blackmail.
Consequently, you do have to be extremely aware, and very clever and alert, in order to protect yourself, no matter what they say to you.
Modus Operandi
Online dating takes a lot of hard and careful work, and it needs to be very well planned and organised in the most proper way.
Before you start anything online, make a written list with all the following details:
a) Your short term and long term targets and goals.
b) Your very personal values, principles, and beliefs.
c) Your personal influences in life:
Your parents and relatives, the church you belong to, the society, etc.
d) Your personal choices in life:
Your work, your housing arrangements, the city or country of living, etc.
e) Examine and analyse your personal preferences:
Single life or in a relationship, either long term or short term.
f) Your expectations from the other person:
Drinking, smoking, entertainment, education, financial status.
Now, create your profile which must be reasonably short, clearly and correctly written, and to the exact point.
Only mention the vital information necessary, and place a few recent pictures of yourself.
At the same time, maintain your real life connections.
Adopt the following recommendations:
1) Date people only close to your own area of living.
2) Keep your emails clear and short, and write only a few.
3) Avoid speaking on the telephone or other means more than a couple of times, and try not to be too long.
4) Arrange to meet the person in couple of weeks or so.
5) Check online the person’s profile as well as any other information relating to them.
**** Examine carefully their pictures, the background and where they are taken.
**** The person’s face and expressions.
**** Are they alone in the pictures, or together with other people.
**** The person’s body and skin for any tattoos.
6) Read through all the details in their profile, and ask them for more explanations.
**** Is there anything missing.
**** What is vague, ambiguous, unclear, and dubious.
**** Are there grammar mistakes.
**** Do you notice any humour, kindness, excitement, friendliness, and good feelings.
7) Before your first ever call do the following:
Put on some make up, an attractive top, keep on smiling, and show interest.
8) Do enjoy the connection, flirt, laugh, and have fun;
but do not have any high expectations at any time.
When you reach the stage to meet, do as follows:
a) Arrange to meet ONLY in a large public place, and go alone.
b) Do not give them your private telephone number, and your address details.
c) Do not reveal any very personal details:
Your health details, your financial situation, family details.
d) Always pay attention to the warning signals.
**** Too aggressive, selfish, sharp, and hard.
**** Asking for money.
**** Telling you sad stories about their life.
**** Asking you personal information.
**** Hiding things from you.
e) If you find you do not fit well, just pay the bill and walk away.
f) If you find you fit well, still, take it slowly so that you can find out their real character.
g) If you want to take even further, you can employ a detective to investigate them.
Also, always be very careful and aware of all the Safe Dating tips on the sites you pursue.
Finally, keep in your mind that:
(1) Rejection is always a part of the online dating.
(2) There is NEVER any guarantee for anything.
Take control of your own life.