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Principium!

 

Hi there!

 

“ I don’t love you as if you were a rose of salt, topaz,
or arrow of carnations that propagate fire:
I love you as one loves certain obscure things,
secretly, between the shadow and the soul.

I love you as the plant that doesn’t bloom but carries
the light of those flowers, hidden, within itself,
and thanks to your love the tight aroma that arose
from the earth lives dimly in my body.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where,
I love you directly without problems or pride:
I love you like this because I don’t know any other way to love,
except in this form in which I am not nor are you,
so close that your hand upon my chest is mine,
so close that your eyes close with my dreams ”.

Cien Sonetos De Amor   1959   Santiago
Pablo Neruda
1904  –  1973

 

Two Couples

 

Brand Name

 

As we all know, nothing in life is perfect;
and the same goes about intimate relationships.

As simple human beings, not only we all make
mistakes, misjudge and misunderstand a
person or a situation;    but also we never
appreciate and recognise the worth of what we
have until we have finally lost it.

A strong, loving relationship can make you 
feel complete, full of life, happy, contented,
fulfilled and greatly satisfied.

A healthy, stable and lasting relationship is
only based on equality, mutual respect, deep
love and understanding.

You should always treat the other person
as you would want to be treated yourself
by them.
Here are the most important characteristics
of an ideal romantic relationship:

a)     Both parties are responsible for their
own
actions, and always they mean what
they say.

b)     They are able to communicate about all
issues, and find the best and most suitable 
solutions together.

c)     They are willing to understand each
other’s
opinions and views, and negotiate as
necessary.

d)     They discuss and share all financial
matters
between them, and ensure that they
both benefit
from all agreements and decisions.

e)     They are aware of each other’s needs,
they
use humour, and they do many things
together,
while maintaining their sense of self
at the
same time.

 

Couple in The Moon

 

f)     They value and respect their relationship,
as well as each other, feeling secure and
comfortable
between them.

g)     They support, accept and rely on each
other;

and they discuss their thoughts and feelings
in a
positive way.

h)     They show affection by holding hands,
kissing,
and embracing;
and they feel physically connected.

i)     They feel strong and optimistic about their
future
together, due to their love, friendship,
dedication,
commitment and closeness;
in thought, in word and
in deed.

j)     Certainly they share similar beliefs and
values,
and they trust each other fully.

k)     They are patient and forgiving, accepting
their
mistakes without being selfish.

l)     They use kind and affectionate words, as
well
as  compliments and praises between them
when they speak.

 

Bear Couple

 

The Key Points

 

The following are some vital actions for you
to consider, if you want to sustain a happy
and long lasting intimate relationship.

1)     You need to appreciate that in order to
have a healthy relationship, you will always
have to work hard and put a lot of effort to it.

2)     You certainly have to convey your thoughts
and needs to your partner clearly.
Otherwise he or she will never be able to
understand you, because nobody can guess
what is in anybody else’s mind.

3)     Make absolutely clear from the beginning
what you want from your relationship, in
order to avoid any misunderstandings later.

4)     You must always recognise that your partner
can not satisfy all your demands;
and you should never press him or her to change
in order to do so.
You will need to accept the reality of the situation
if you want your relationship to be successful.

5)     Always expect that sometimes you will
have to negotiate on any differences between your
partner and yourself.

6)     Always remember that you do not have to
agree on all issues, in order to show respect,
recognition and appreciation.
Just accept the situation as it presents itself.

7)     Always look each other in the eye, and listen
carefully when you talk.

 

You communicate your love with actions  —  and
not only words.

You will know that your love is real and lasting
only when you feel safe, secure, confident,
protected, satisfied and totally positive.

Lifelong  and eternal love will give meaning to
your life, and make it worth living.

 

 

 

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Cornerstone!

 

Hi there!

 

Davi was a middle aged man, who had quit his
well paid job in order to become an author.
He had been living alone in his beautiful apartment,
for some time now.

Davi was a very happy man, enjoying his quiet life.
” I’ve been living alone for the last fifteen years now,
and I truly rejoice in my independence.
I can wake up and take my breakfast every morning
any time I like, I can go to bed every night whenever
I wish, I can talk to whoever I choose;
and I can certainly pursue my interests and passions “,
he said smiling happily.

Davi had decided to live alone the rest of his life,
and enjoy all the advantages this had to offer him.
His whole attitude to life was helping him to feel
very excited about everything.

He was the king of his castle;    and he didn’t even
have a dog, or any other pet, to keep him company.
It was him, his computer, and his mobile.
Absolute freedom  —  and a huge fun experience.

 

The Buddha

 

” No one saves us but ourselves.
No one can and no one may.
We ourselves must walk the path “.

Siddhartha Gautama
c. 563/480  –  c. 483/400 BCE

 

The word alone has different meanings,
and a number of implications, not necessarily
positive.
For many people being alone means negative
things altogether.

Yet nowadays more people increasingly, 
easily prefer to live alone    especially
adult women.
Actually, it seems that living alone may be one
of the most pleasant experiences one can have.

Also, in our today’s society most people have
become egocentric, caring only about themselves;
their need to be free and totally flexible in their
life, without bothering about greater issues.

Obviously, since human beings are social
animals, they enjoy being in the company of
other people, for the many benefits and pleasures
this has to offer.

Being alone can offer a quantity of surprising
advantages.
But although embracing solitude can be very
enriching and beneficial to your health;
certainly at the same time, you have to be 
extremely careful not to go to extremes.

Because, too much isolation will definitely have
negative repercussions to your physical and
mental health.

 

Swimming by the Boat

 

The Gold Bricks

 

Here are the disadvantages of living alone:

1)     You can develop self-critical and fault
finding thoughts, that make you feel you are
a loser and a failure;
so you do not belong to be around other people.

2)     You can start feeling lonely and socially
isolated, leading to anxiety and depression.

3)     You can start neglecting your physical
health;    by adopting an unhealthy diet, by
leading a sedentary lifestyle, and by living
in a dirty environment;
and this will certainly lead to a shorter life.

4)     You can start feeling the lack of company,
and begin to be seriously bored.
This distressing state of mind will force you to
start seeking the company of other people,
whoever, in order to feel more comfortable.

5)     You can feel insecure and unsafe, in general;
and especially whenever you are sick, or you
need to see a doctor, or if you have a sudden
illness, and there is no one to help and support you.

6)     You do not have anyone to help you with your
every day house chores and other tasks, inside
and outside the house.

7)     You have no one to talk and share your fears,
laughs, feelings and emotions;
and this will contribute to overuse of the telephone
and the internet, with various consequences.

 

Lavender

 

Primrose Path

 

Enjoying living alone is a habit that can be learnt;
and you can be totally happy, and actually take
pleasure in solitude.
Adopt the following steps, so you can start loving
living alone:

a)     Start by feeling comfortable being alone.

b)     Develop a positive mental attitude, and have
an optimistic viewpoint.

c)     Reflect on yourself, and your whole life by
considering and acknowledging your goals.

d)     Do not be critical, demanding, analytical, or
looking for perfection.

e)     Live your life as you would if you had company.
Do all the same things like, eating out, going to the
cinema or theatre, etc.    but alone.

f)     Walk in nature, listen to the music, take any
sport you like, or attend to plants and flowers.

g)     If you do need some interaction, get a pet.

h)     Use social media to connect with other humans,
and share interests.

i)     Develop various activities, and different hobbies:
read, write, learn, blog, draw, paint, play computer 
games, or start any craft projects.

j)     Talk to the various people you meet every day,
either
you know them or not.

 

Post Box

 

Good Fortune

 

The following are the main benefits of living alone:

a)     Time alone will give you the opportunity to clear
and refresh your mind, reflect and realise who you
really are and what you want from your life;
and make better decisions accordingly.

b)     You will be able to concentrate and focus more
efficiently to your work, becoming more creative
and more productive.

c)     You will certainly feel more independent and
absolutely free to do all the things you want, whenever
you wish;
you will be able to develop your own personal routines.

d)     You will find that you enjoy all your relationships
much more, and appreciate all the advantages you 
get from them.

e)     As the time goes, you will be feeling more
confident,
self-assured, satisfied and positive about
living alone;

and you will learn to trust your instincts.

f)     You will know that you are responsible only for
yourself, and that the only person’s happiness you will
need to worry is your own.

g)     You will definitely have all the time to relax and
feel in peace, without any external distractions.

h)     You will be able to develop a great variety of
friends, acquaintances and other contacts;
as a consequence, you will be feeling more comfortable
and connected.

i)     You will have total and absolute control over your
own life, on your own terms, in your own privacy,
without interference or intervention.

 

Boats in Harbour

 

End Of The Line

 

Remember, it is absolutely vital for you to know
the difference between healthy and negative
time alone.

You do need to feel creative, reflective, pleased,
fulfilled, and happy altogether.
You do need to find the right balance in order to
enjoy your life.

Never forget    Being Alone does not mean
Being Lonely, which is a completely different
and sickening thing.

” In Solitude the mind gains strength,
and learns to lean upon itself “.

Laurence Sterne
1713  –  1768

” Seclusion is the price of greatness “

Paramahansa Yogananda
1893  –  1952

Good Luck!

 

 

 

Ausculto!

 

Hi there!

 

……..  It was last summer during my August holidays
when I agreed to meet my old friend Sia, after two
whole years.
We arranged to come together that evening at our
old cafe/bar we used to meet some years ago.

After our initial small talk, I started noticing that
she was not the happy person I used to know those
years back.
What’s wrong with you?  What is happening?
I asked her.
I’ve some troubles at home lately, that’s causing
me a lot of distress ”  she replied feeling very concerned.

At that moment I realised that she wanted to talk
to me about her problem;
so I decided to be a good friend and listener for her.

I just relaxed, emptied my mind for a while and sat
there quietly, showing my interest while she was
expressing her difficulty;    showing her my interest
without interrupting or advising in any way.

I did feel good and proud of myself, because I knew
I helped her not only to feel better but also to understand,
appreciate and accept her exact situation  ……..

” Listen to many, speak to a few “

William Shakespeare    1564 – 1616

 

On the Train

 

Lend An Ear

 

Listen means to hear by paying close attention
to somebody or something;
by focusing on without being distracted by external
or internal causes;

by giving all your concentration to whoever is
talking to you at the time;
and this should be done with your family, your
friends as well as various authorities.

Unfortunately, very few people know how to 
really listen.
Of course, this is only a matter of education    because
they 
have never been taught the art of listening.
Consequently, the majority of people are always
eager, impatient and selfish enough to keep on
talking ad nauseam.

Also on the one hand, we have our today’s frustrating
world with its high technological developments and
its high demands and numerous distractions;
and 
on the other, people being fully preoccupied, totally
absorbed and 
obsessed with themselves needing to
execute their 
own plans and ideas at all times.

Certainly a great number of people have this 
know-it-all attitude, and do not want to hear other
people’s opinions and thoughts;
which obviously is absolutely wrong, because we all
continue to learn with the passing of time from
various experiences.

The final result from all these, is that people keep on
speaking continuously all together at the same time,
(we can see this annoying thing everyday on the TV)
without anyone understanding what the other says,
or what exactly is the situation.

Listening is a very important and vital skill you
must learn in order to be successful in your personal
and professional life.
This is a conscious action you need to take if you 
actually want to enjoy all the benefits:

 

a)     Functional Benefits

By being a good listener you will be successful in 
your career, and you will excel in your studies.
It will be so, because you will understand and
absorb exactly 
what you are told, and perform
your duties correctly.

 

b)     Individual Benefits

By listening to others you will learn very many new
things and experience other knowledge.

As a result, you will think about all this new information
carefully;

this will help you grow as a person, be more confident,
solve problems more easily, as well as making better,

cautious, rational and more wise decisions.

 

c)     Relationship Benefits

When you listen to other people showing your
interest and respect for what they say, you make 
them feel important, honoured and flattered.
Also, you will be able to avoid and misjudgements,

mistakes, arguments, and fights.
As a consequence, all your relationships and 
connections will flourish and become more
meaningful.

 

Couple Romancing

 

Hang On Words

 

” Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak;
courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen “

Winston Churchill    1874  –  1965

Develop the following habits in order to become
a good and effective listener:

a)     Keep the eye contact, watch the other person’s
body language, and pay attention to their tone of
voice when they speak, at all times.

b)     Keep all distractions away;   and this includes,
your own mind, mobile, computer, TV, radio, etc.

c)     Listen fully and completely without interrupting,
or changing the subject, or giving any solutions, or
talking about yourself.

d)     Follow the other person closely by reflecting back 
everything they express, communicate and show.

e)     Repeat back what you have heard from them, in
order to confirm your full 
understanding of the situation.

f)     Sit in silence and just listen;   respond only when
the other person has finished talking  —  and only after
you have left a few seconds to pass.

g)     Before you respond to anything, think carefully
what you want to say, so that your response is a 
valuable, beneficial and useful one.

h)     When listening, be curious to learn without 
pretending;   and always keep an open mind.

i)     Always be aware of your own personal emotions
as well as the other person’s, in order to have a 
better interaction and communication.

j)     Ask significant, appropriate and unrestricted
questions to encourage a good solution.

k)     Be concerned, caring, interested, attentive,
enthusiastic and understanding by using your own
body language.

 

Piano Player

 

The Know – How

 

” I like to listen.
I have learned a great deal from listening carefully.
Most people never listen “

Ernest Hemingway   1899  –  1961

Recognise that you should never judge what you
hear.
Obviously, you do not have to accept what the other 
person is saying;   you just need to be considerate.

Being a good and efficient listener is a skill;
and as such, it needs to be practised.
So, reduce your talking and start reading body 
language.
This way you will improve your personal and
professional life greatly.

Stop hearing passively and start listening actively,
involving your mind, heart and body.

” Silence is a source of great strength “

Lao Tzu     6th/5th Century BCE  –  531 BCE

Listen Well !!

 

 

 

Etiquette!

 

Hi there!

 

Allow yourself to think only those thoughts that
match your principles and can bear the bright
light of day.
Day by day, your choices, your thoughts, your actions
fashion the person you become.
Your integrity determines your destiny .

Heraclitus of Ephesus
535 BC  –  475 BC

All cruelty springs from weakness .

Lucius Annaeus Seneca
c.  4 BC  – AD 65
The Moral Epistles

Behaviour is a mirror in which every one 
displays his own image .

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
1749  –  1832

We create our fate every day….
Most of the ills we suffer from are directly
traceable to our own behaviour .

Henry Valentine Miller
1891  –  1980

Behaviour arises from the level of one’s 
consciousness .

Maharishi Mahesh Yogi
1918  –  2008

 

 

On  The Skids

 

We are all simple human beings;
and as such, we all act in damaging ways
from time to time  —  sometimes, not even
realising it.

But there is a great number of individuals,
who constantly push other people away
with their attitudes and behaviours.

All these people have a difficult life;
because, t
hey certainly have various problems
with 
their personal relationships, troubles
with their 
friendships and probably they
will be straggling 
in their jobs.

Every person who displays such negative,
destructive and very harmful behaviour,
must recognise their problem, and take all
the necessary steps to find an immediate
solution before it is too late.

Your personal attitude should never be allowed
to take over;     because you are jeopardising 
your happiness and success in your life.

 

 

Kiss Of Death

 

Here are the most common poisonous behaviours
individuals exhibit, and push other people away
as a consequence:

a)     Taking everything personally.

You need to disregard and ignore other people’s
opinions, attitudes and behaviours.
Because mostly and mainly this has to do only with
them, their mindsets, knowledge and experiences;
and not you.

b)     Hanging on to pain and loss.

You must leave behind all distress and bitterness, and
accept change, because life is changing all the time.
Be emotionally free and move forward.

c)     Lacking compassion and integrity.

You have to be kind, sympathetic, sincere and friendly
to other people.
It is only then that you will show how mentally
advanced you are.

d)     Thinking negatively all the time.

You should stop being a pessimist and embrace
optimism in order to have a successful life.
Be a positive thinker.

e)     Being a perfectionist.

You ought to keep an open mind and accept
mistakes and failures, either they are yours
or other people’s.
Perfection does not exist.

f)     Acting like a victim constantly.

You must stop complaining about everything
that happens to you and to the world.
Accept you are a powerful person, and find
solutions to all problems.

g)     Looking always for recognition.

You need to feel secure with who you are.
Do not talk about yourself continually or be
arrogant.
It shows low self-esteem, and it is absolutely
draining on other people.

h)      Losing control of yourself.

You have to manage your emotions, be patient
and do not explode at every turn.
No one wants to deal with your big dramas.

i)     Being jealous of other people.

Feeling envious and resentful of other people’s
life and accomplishments is catastrophic to you.
You only need to compete with yourself in order
to be able to grow    and no one else.

 

 

Hot Potato

 

There are plenty of people, who have harmful,
destructive and poisonous personalities.

They are everywhere:   at your work, in your
family, among your close friends and among
your acquaintances.

You need to become aware and wise.
You must recognise the problems in your attitude
and behaviour, and correct them immediately.

If you do not do this, people will very soon realise
what and who you are.
Not only they will try to avoid you and distance
themselves from you, but also they will definitely
remove you from their life completely;
and as a result, you will suffer the consequences.

Good luck!

 

 

 

 

Adam & Eve!

 

Hi there!

 

A human female is an organism that produces egg cells.
The first human female on earth was Pandora.

According to the Greek mythology, Pandora was moulded
from earth by the god of fire Hephaestus, the son of
Zeus, the king of gods, and Hera, the queen of heaven,
following his father’s order.

Pandora was then dressed by Athena, the goddess of wisdom,
daughter of Zeus, and given her name by the god Hermes,
the messenger and son of Zeus.

Pandora was the mother of all human females.

 

Eve (Temptation)
Pantaleon Józef Szyndler, 1846 – 1905

 

Drawing Power

 

Being a female offers a number of advantages.
Here are the most important ones to consider:

a)     Women live longer than men    a whole five ( 5 )
to ten ( 10 ) more years.

b)     Women have a higher pain threshold.
As a consequence, not only it takes more time for the pain
to register in their brain, but also they can tolerate it for
much longer.

c)     Women have a stronger sense of smell, because their
brain contains many more odour detecting cells.

d)     Women’s HDL cholesterol levels are higher than that
of men’s;   consequently, they are better protected against
cardiovascular disease.

e)     Women are much better at remembering various
things and information, while men are more forgetful.

f)     Women’s brain is releasing less quantities of the
neurotransmitter Dopamine.
Therefore, they are less addictive to any substances.

g)     Women develop most fat in their lower body, which
is more protective against heart disease, some cancers
and inflammation.

h)     Women are better communicators in all kinds of
conversations, due to using a larger variety of sentences
and words.

 

Pandora
Jules Lefebvre, 1834 – 1912

 

The Downside

 

Certainly, being a female has also the following disadvantages:

1)     In many large religions, as well as prehistoric civilisations,
women
have always been considered as property and inferior
beings, and
they have been judged negatively and treated badly.

2)     No matter how successful women have managed to
become 
in their life, they will always be referred as …. for
a woman .

3)     Women need time to try and look presentable in order
to 
attract the necessary attention and succeed in their
pursuits.

Their appearance has to be appropriate for the occasion, in 
order for them not to be ignored or judged unfavourably.

4)     Women suffer more mental and emotional problems
than men.
As a consequence, and through history, they have been
considered hysterical, neurotic and crazy, and managed
and treated accordingly.

5)     Women suffer monthly menstrual cycles, and go through
the hardest thing ever, which is giving birth.
Also they go through menopause, and lose their fertility.

 

Creation of Adam (detail)
Michelangelo 1475 – 1564

 

Line Of Work

 

According to the Bible, Adam was the first male created
by God, and he is the father of all humanity.

Being a male has a number of benefits, as follows:

a)     According to various studies, men are less likely to 
suffer from chronic stress and anxiety, in comparison
to women.

b)     Men possess much greater muscular strength than
women, and they are taller.
Consequently, they are more able to defend themselves
against various attacks and rape.

c)     In accordance with research, men are less likely to
suffer from depression and other mental illnesses.

d)     Men can continue being reasonably attractive in 
their later years, in comparison to women.
They do not go through menopause, and as a consequence
they can be fertile well into their eighties.

e)     During history, and across different cultures, men
were always more likely to be involved in politics.
Also even today, they can still get better and more well
paid jobs than women, in general.

f)     Men normally feel more confident, bold, fearless,
as well as more comfortable and relaxed doing what
they want.

 

Adam
Lucas Cranach the Elder
1472 – 1553

 

The Negative Aspect

 

On the other hand, there are also a number of disadvantages
being a male, as follows:

1)     Men die up to ten years earlier than women do, due to
various reasons.

2)     Males are more hostile, aggressive, destructive and violent.
They can attack each other easily, and be involved in many
criminal activities.

3)     Usually, men tend to act without thinking, so being more
frivolous.
Consequently, they can be drawn in to various difficult, challenging
and 
undesirable situations.

4)     Men are always very sex orientated, most of their life;
which often leads them to complications, problems, and unpleasant
and troublesome circumstances.

5)     Although men can achieve very high incomes due to their
hard and dedicated work, at the same time, they can be extremely
wasteful in very many aspects    and especially when they are
looking to attract mates.

There, you have it all.

 

 

 

The Doctrine!

 

Hi there!

 

Last week I met my friend Anj for tea, and again
we discussed the burning issue of dating at an
older age.
Anj is a divorced woman in her fifties, who does
not wish to remain single all her life.

At the same time, she has learnt over the years
to see men as competition and rivalry.
As a consequence, she has always had great difficulty
developing and holding a good relationship.

I do believe you need to change your attitude
radically, if you want to find a partner for yourself “,
I said to her, and continued;
You must make your man feel as if he is in control;
he does need to feel strong and powerful.
So, try to be caring and loving to him.
As I see, until now your manner has been pushing
all the men you meet away .

She looked at me feeling very sceptical, but she
promised to reconsider her beliefs and behaviour
and let me know the results soon ……..

 

Kissin in the wind

 

One On One

 

It is known that a number of middle aged people
wish to stay stuck in their past, and relive their
failures, due to their complete inability to handle
and control their emotions and fears.

But most people in middle age are very interested in
finding romance, and developing a loving relationship,
in a very
similar way to the younger generations.

Although dating can be a daunting experience
at any age, if you are above the age of fifty, this
is extra challenging.

According to research, as far as women is concerned,
most singles worry about dating a man who either
is in poor health, or someone who is in financial
need.
Also another issue they consider is the man’s physical
appearance, which is the first thing that will bring
them together in the first place.

On the other side, most men want to find a much
younger and good looking woman for themselves.

Certainly all these issues come in different degrees,
and they should be considered very carefully if
both sides really want to find love.

The first step though before you even start dating,
is to know yourself, indeed who you are, and
what exactly you want.
Your total attitude will need to be changed to fit
your current circumstances.

 

Couple Drinking Champaigne

 

Take Heart

 

There is a significant difference between young
people and grown up dating.
Older individuals are much more experienced,
they already know who they are and what they
want, and they will not be prepared to waste
their time with games.

Now, there are some things you will need to
forget about if you do want to find love again,
as follows:

a)     The old fashioned idea that the man must
always make the first move.
As an experienced adult person you should already
know how, when and where to approach a man.

b)     Your youthful years of very high expectations.
Realise that there will never be a perfect man or a
perfect woman;
that is, a very attractive and beautiful person with
plenty of money.
What really matters is the person’s character with
a reasonable background.
So lower your standards and be realistic.

c)     The outdated belief that people must accept you
exactly as you are.
Understand that if you want to attract people in your
life you do need to look after yourself physically and
emotionally, as well as taking good care of your
appearance.  

d)     All about your past experiences, either they were
good or bad.
Every person is different and you must give them the
benefit of the doubt    Never compare.

 

Woman with Feathers

 

Inside Information

 

Here is some useful advice for you to follow when going
on your first grown up date:

1)     Have no expectations at all, at this stage.
Have a positive attitude, feel alive and optimistic.

2)     Arrange to meet at a comfortable and cozy public
place for a drink.

3)     Dress smartly and comfortably to suit the occasion.
Try to look your absolute best.

4)     Wear a light make up on your face, mascara and lipstick.
Remember to look after your hair style, too.

5)     Feel relaxed and confident, be likeable and charming.
Have and show humour.
Always make eye contact and be a flirt.

6)     Be kind, loving, intelligent, strong, gentle, feminine,
and smile genuinely.
Be a person who can give and receive.

7)     Keep the conversation simple, easy, refreshing
and interesting.
Search for common passions like, books, films, hobbies, foods.

 

Stylish Couple

 

A Thou-Shalt-Not

 

Make certain you do not do any of the following.
Avoid,

1)     Disclosing your personal financial situation.

2)     Sharing details about your family history.
Only mention quickly if you have any children, and
forget all about your previous circumstances.

3)     Disclosing information about your medical history.

4)     Exhibiting any personal achievements and other
very private information.

5)     Being critical, superficial, frivolous, irrational
and bossy.

6)     Unloading all your emotional and mental issues.

7)     Drinking more than necessary.

8)     Having sexual relations until there is some emotional
attachment.

 

Woman with Fur Scarf

 

Watering Hole

 

It is absolutely improbable that the right person will
ever come to search for you.
Therefore you do have to get out into the world.
Here are some suggestions for you to follow:

a)     If you like travelling, start this as a hobby.

b)     If you like sports, register with a sports club.

c)     If you want to learn a specific skill, register in a class.

d)     Go to various events like, Museums, Bookstores,
Theatres or Galleries, and speak to people.

e)     Sit in coffee shops and talk to the regulars casually.

f)     If you like animals, buy a dog and walk in the park.

g)     Join a group of your choice like, Hiking, Walking,
Art, Photography, Dining, Cooking or Music.

h)     Register in a Gym/ Leisure Club/Country Club.

i)      Ask your friends whether they can introduce anyone
to you.

j)     Finally, register with various online dating sites.

Always remember that you can still flirt just as well as
the young individuals.
Do not forget that all people want the same things:
to be loved, to be appreciated, accepted and valued,
to be respected and complimented.

Finding romance in middle age and above is really tough.

If you do want to develop a good permanent relationship,
Act Young, Feel Confident, Make the Connection,
Be Flexible and Let your Man be the Star.

Wooing is only a game  —  Play it well ……

Happy Dating !!!

 

 

 

Onatopp!

 

Hi there!

 

Bo had everything he wished in his life:
the perfect job offering him a high income, a couple
of houses and cars to enjoy, a beautiful wife
and a huge bank account.

But Bo was not a happy man, because he was
feeling his control over everything in his life
was very limited.

In his business, he was always trying to make
people work according to the way which would
be acceptable to him.
Obviously, the real world disregarded him, and
his wishes never took place.

When he returned home, he was always struggling
to control his wife’s plans and actions.
Again, to no avail.   She still acted her own ways.

I must change my attitude;   I need to understand
and learn to do my best, and believe that things
will come out all-right .
He said to himself one morning.
Since then his life has changed completely.

 

Couple next to car

 

Driver’s Seat

 

Control happens to all humans instinctively.
But our control and mastery over the majority
of things in life are actually very limited.

For example, your financial situation, your friends,
your family, your job, your health, ageing and dying;
are these all really under your full control?

Certainly not;   because most of these situations can
change very quickly at any time, and others will
come naturally any way.

Most people have a great number of things they
manage in their every day life.
But in reality, there are only very few things, you
can truly control.

Life is very complicated, but if you manage to learn
how to command these
very few things under your
control, not only your
life will improve immediately,
but you will become
a powerful and happy individual.

 

 

Motocross Driver

 

Cause Celebre

 

Here are four important things that are actually
under your control:

a)     Focus

Prioritize your goals;   all the things that mean
most to you like, family, work, relationships.
Concentrate on making them work as best as
possible for you.

b)     Emotions

Realise that when other people or situations
upset you, this is happening only because you
personally have allowed them to do so.
Choose to keep your thoughts under control,
and you will feel much happier and in peace.

c)     Attitude

Stop being resentful and furious when something
goes wrong.
Instead give your utmost attention and improve
a difficult and demanding situation.

d)     Actions

Stop suffering and accept that you are not in
full control.
Stay committed to your targets, but do not be
attached to the results.
Do the best you can, but stay emotionally detached
because you cannot predict the outcome, and you
will feel angry if things do not come as you have
expected them to.

 

Luxury Yacht

 

Over And Above

 

There are also a few more basic things you can
actually control like,
your breathing, your self-talk and body language,
as well as your diet, exercise and sleep.

Never expect to have full control of everything;
because control is an illusion.

The clever thing to do is, to ignore everything
you can not control;
and  try to understand, learn
and handle well
the things you can.

Focus on your own existence.
Only then you will live your best life ever.

Believe in yourself.