Trepidatio!

 

Hi there!

 

During the Paleozoic era, in the Devonian period,
around 370 million years ago, the first amphibians
developed from the bony fish,  whose fins evolved
into extremities.
These creatures were able to live in the water, and
on land as well.

Later on, in the Carboniferous period, around 310
million years ago, the first reptiles evolved from 
the most dominant amphibians.
These reptiles were very primitive, and small lizard
type animals.

Since then and until now, the lizards still have a primeval
brain, which is only concerned with instinctual
behaviours.

 

Frog

 

The Reptilian Brain

 

The amygdalae ( Greek for almonds ), are two almond
shaped groups of neurons located deep in the temporal
lobe of our brain.
Their main concern is,  (a)  basic survival instincts like:
body growth and maintenance, food, reproduction and
fight-flight-freeze;   and  (b)  emotions like:   
fear, anger, memory and pleasure.

This is the most primitive part of our brain  —  and
although it has been developing for almost 280 million
years, it is still similar to the total brain of a Lizard, as
far as its capacity and perception are concerned.

Unfortunately, this Lizard brain’s education is still 
based on the many million years of evolution, without
developing and adjusting    and it 
is most irrelevant to
our modern way of life. 

As a consequence, we choose to behave in such primal,
savage and crude ways, that cause us thousands of
problems during our life.
Those primitive threats of the past do not exist any more,
for us to react in the same way as those prehistoric times.
Therefore, our survival instinct instead of helping us, it is
doing exactly the opposite    hurting us.

Fear, one of the strongest emotions, is an extremely
uncomfortable feeling.
Fear can paralyse you by triggering the fight or flight
response, and actually make you ill.

 

Wild Waves

 

Come Out On Top

 

The physical feelings of fear are very scary, because
your Lizard brain keeps on sending danger signals
to your body;    even though you, yourself, can see that 
there is nothing life threatening, and your fear is 
obviously out of balance.

So you do need to use mental and physical ways to 
overcome this extremely disturbing feeling:

 

M o d u s

 

a)     Realise that fear is only a primeval feeling 
that exists merely to save your life    and most 
likely you are not in a life threatening situation.
Therefore, do not give it any priority, and dissociate
yourself from it.

b)     Decide whether your fear is justified and valuable
in any way at all, or you are simply disrupting and
obstructing yourself from succeeding in your goals.

c)      Know  deeply within yourself that you really are
capable
of handling everything;   and do trust yourself.

d)     Recognise that when you take decisions with 
the attitude of  just in case , this again is your fear
disguised as protection.
So refrain from any Just In Case resolutions.

e)     Ask for spiritual guidance to assist you in fighting
your fear.
This will make you feel connected to an entity that
is greater than yourself.

f)     Always, try to surround yourself only with brave
and courageous 
people, who can make you feel positive,
strong and inspired.

g)     Always, try to stay active and exercise on a daily 
basis to take your mind away from your fears.

 

Clouds

 

Bring To Pass

 

Overcoming your fears is very difficult and challenging;
but when you have finally managed to conquer them,
you will immediately feel relieved and free.

Defeating fear is a skill.
Learn it well, in order to live a peaceful, successful and
happy life.

” Men are not afraid of things, but of how they view them ”
  Epictetus   c. 55 AD  –  AD 135

” There is no illusion greater than fear ”
Lao-Tzu    6th – 5th century BCE  –  531 BCE

 

 

 

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The Companion!

 

Hi there!

 

It was Saturday evening, and she had already
started feeling restless, and so stressed to the point
of experiencing anxiety.

In a few hours she was going to meet him for the
first time;   and although she was so nervous, at
the same time she was feeling very excited to meet
that attractive man.

She double checked that everything was perfect on
her, and decided to start early enough because she did
not want to arrive feeling breathless.

She was mostly concerned whether the date would
go well or poorly;   but she managed to keep herself
under control at the end.

Arriving at the meeting place though, she was already
having jittery feelings and various sensations in her
body;   entering the café she noticed her palms were
extremely sweaty.

She ordered a drink, tried to think positively and
relax as much as possible.
The fun was starting now ……

 

Rocky Shore

 

Power Source

 

Eu ( meaning good in Greek ) stress is extremely
important for a healthy life.
This is a positive type of stress, either psychological,
like falling in love, or physical, like exercising.

You usually feel this good stress when you are
excited about something new happening in your life.
You perceive it as a positive challenge, and it keeps
you feeling vibrant, energetic and lively.

Consequently, to feel this way, you need to choose
only whatever makes you feel good, pleasant,
satisfied, joyful and happy in general.
At the same time, you do need to eliminate everything
else that has the opposite results.

However, although this good stress is greatly beneficial
to your health, you must make certain that you do
do not experience excessive amounts of it;
because it is still accumulative stress with consequences.

In order to keep all stress in your life under control,
you must change your perception towards it.
You should feel challenged by the situation and not
threatened by it in any way.

 

Pink Plant

 

Manna From Heaven

 

Stress offers a good amount of benefits, as follows:

a)     Motivation

It encourages you to work harder to accomplish
your various tasks, to fulfil your duties and obligations,
and to reach your goals.

b)     Resiliency

It assists in your building up resistance to all future
stressful situations, and helps you adjust better to any
different 
conditions in your life.

c)     Mental Performance

It generates new nerve cells in the brain;
therefore, you perform much more efficiently
in all aspects of your life.

d)     Physical Body Function

It supports the body’s antioxidant and immune
operations.
It restores any cellular damage.

 

The most vital task for you is to keep your stress
under control, so that it does not become harmful.
In order to get all the health benefits, your stress
should be in short bursts  —  not for long periods
or chronic.

 

Rocks and Blue Sea

 

Primum Mobile

 

It is very important to get enough good stress in
your life to keep you motivated and full of spark.
Here are some ways to achieve this:

1)     Develop hobbies to provide you with meaning,
fun and pleasure like;
Photography, Painting, Studying and Writing.

2)     Set goals to feel pleased, satisfied and happy like;
Removing clutter from your home, Organising your time and
Looking after yourself  ( diet, exercise, sleep ).

3)     Develop relationships, maintain your sense of
humour and have fun.

4)     Embrace all situations that cause short term
stress like;
Going on a first date, Attending a celebration, Giving
a speech, Riding a roller coaster.

5)     Train your brain to view stress positively, and
find ways to use it to your advantage.

6)     Attach a purpose to a stressful situation in order
to see its benefits and handle it properly and efficiently.

 

Remember that brief episodes of stress, with time of
recovery in between, are extremely beneficial to
your health.

Make stress your friend, and accept it as part of your
life’s journey.

 

 

 

 

Predator!

 

Hi there!

 

C.J.R. was the general manager of his company for 
the last twenty two years now.
He was enjoying a very high salary, lots of financial
benefits, and a huge business social life.
He could never wish for anything better or more.

C.J.R. had it all.   He was the big boss.
Then suddenly things started changing:   new rules,
different people,  fresh policies.
He started feeling under pressure, and did not exactly
know how to handle all those new developments. 

Before too long, one morning, his president called
him in his office and announced that the company
was changing face.
Under the new circumstances, he was not necessary
any more, so he was going to become 
redundant.

C.J.R. felt shocked, overwhelmed and offended.
Although he was going to receive a very decent
severance pay, he still had to face the loss of an
extremely good income;   not to mention all his
financial advantages as well as his health insurance.

He really felt devastated and completely ruined.
He did not know what to do  —  and especially about
all his large financial commitments ahead ……..

 

 

Bird Of Prey

 

In our modern world millions of people can barely
cope financially.
Most have to try extremely hard to handle their 
growing debts, even if they have a job    never
mind having become redundant or left their job for
something better that did  not succeed.

If you are in such difficult situation, having to handle
a mountain of debts, you must not be afraid  and
distressed;    but just realise that there are too many
people in similar situation like you.

Work hard to stay on top of things by being determined,
decisive and persistent.
Losing your job can be an intolerable and hopeless
thing, even if you have received a redundancy pay out.

It will take you a good number of months to find another
similar job;    and if you have a lot of financial obligations
like, personal loans, credit cards, a car to maintain,
rent or a mortgage, you will go through a very hard and
stressful  period.

Debt is something that will certainly make you feel
depressed and discouraged;     and you will really stretch
your finances to the absolute limits if you are not able
to keep up with your payments and repayments.

 

 

Financial Health

 

If you have recently lost your job, and wonder how
you
will be able to pay your various debts, follow the
actions below in order to make your life easier:

a)     Apply for unemployment benefit;    which 
although lower than your salary, still it will help
you pay your bills until you find another job.

b)     Make a list of your priority debts:
your rent or mortgage, utility bills and tax bills.

c)    Make a list of your non-priority debts:
credit cards, store cards, unsecured personal loans,
bank overdrafts.

d)     Set up a budget:    what you already have and
how much approximately needs to be going  out
on a monthly basis.
This will help you calculate how long you can last
in your existing finances.

e)     If  you are seriously struggling to repay your
loans and credit cards, consider negotiating better
deals with your bank(s) and creditors.

f)    Investigate transferring your higher interest
debts to a 0% credit card.
This will give you plenty of time to sort out your financial
situation.

g)     If you have savings in the bank or any shares,
use these money to be paying off your monthly debts.
But always keep at least ten ( 10 ) months income
in an emergency account, to help you face anything
unexpected or a crisis.

h)     Aim to make more, if possible, than the minimum
payment on all your debts, so that they do not accumulate;
especially the ones with high interest rates.

i)     If  you own your house you can inquire about taking
a home equity loan to help you face your debts.

j)     If you have a private pension plan and you are 
above the age of fifty five ( 55 ) years, you should
be able to release the already accumulated funds.
If you are younger though, you can only inquire if you
can borrow up to half of your accumulated amount.

k)     Limit your spending to only the things you actually
need, and avoid wasting any money for anything unnecessary.

l)     Continue looking for employment by contacting old
colleagues, friends and acquaintances, sending your
updated C.V. to various companies and other businesses,
registering with employment agencies and connecting
online with different people on Linkedin. 

m)    In order to make extra money, undertake various
freelance jobs, do online work, sell any valuable items
you own, rent a room in your house or your drive, or
take different
odd jobs ( part time, full time, temporary )

n)     Consider borrowing money from your family,
relatives or close friends, if possible.

0)     If you have a mortgage on your house, and you
feel confident that you will be getting a job soon,
inquire whether you can increase your loan by a
specific amount.

p)     Discuss with your bank whether you can take
a cheap personal loan to cover your immediate debts.

 

 

Rain Or Shine

 

Whatever your situation, never get discouraged.
Although you are going through a really tough
and demanding stage, at the same time you do need
to be patient and learn from these circumstances.

Keep on hunting for jobs, and eventually everything
will turn right for you.
It is only a matter of time;    always remember that
you are not alone.
There are millions of people, who lose their jobs and
have to live in similar circumstances.

You just need to be extremely careful and take
the most useful, effective, appropriate, necessary
and certainly meaningful steps.
Only by doing so you will be in control of
your
finances during this extremely difficult and

challenging chapter in your life.

Good  Luck !!!

 

 

Rhapsody!

 

Hi there!

 

Lyd was a great author.
She usually wrote seated 
in her desk;
but today it was such a beautiful, 
warm and sunny
spring day, that she decided to 
finish her writing
in her regular cafe, not very 
far from her home.

She sat in her usual corner table on the balcony,
ordered her familiar drink and started preparing
her notes in order to finish her writing.

As she was sitting there writing, she started noticing
all these people walking past on the pavement.
She observed how many young people were hurrying
to work;  a number of youthful women carrying their
shopping and some mothers pushing their prams.

All these people seem as if they have a specific
purpose, and they seem pleased with it.
I wonder, when all these people pass the age of 50 and they
lose their life stage activities, how will they manage
to find happiness in their later years ………! “

 

Blue flowers

 

Moment Of Truth

 

Midlife, that is the twenty year period between the
ages of forty five (45) and sixty five (65) is a nerve-racking
time without a doubt.

Most people have to struggle with their personal and
social circumstances, and some of them with their
professional ones as well.

Many individuals feel disturbed, nervous, miserable
and worried about their future and health;
so it is very difficult 
for them to feel particularly happy.

All life transitions are mentally agonising.
You feel angry, sad, empty, lost, confused and frightened.
But they are a natural part of life, and you can never
avoid them.

Anything can happen;    from losing your job  or
retiring, from having to face a loved one’s illness or
death, from downsizing your house or moving to
a new city or even country.

Finally you may be feeling sick and tired or bored and
lost 
your purpose.
The secret is to be able to do whatever it takes to
find happiness and get the most out of your life at
any stage you are.

 

Yellow Rose

 

Turn Of The Tide

 

There are always a lot of things you can do to 
enhance and strengthen your satisfaction during
these life transitions, as follows:

a)     Acknowledge that circumstances are changing;
evaluate and determine what is going to make you
strong and happy from now on.
Follow what really matters to you most.

b)     Look after yourself physically and mentally in order
to be able to face all the new changes in your life.
Self-care must be your priority now.

c)     Follow a proper diet and exercise regularly
to keep your body and mind active and healthy.

d)     Develop a few interests and hobbies.
Be confident and follow whatever makes you feel
fascinated and enthusiastic.

e)     Socialise and connect with other people.
Doing this will make you feel mentally healthy
and much more pleased.
Try to maintain good relationships throughout
your life.

f)     Connect with your spouse as deeply as possible,
to keep your relationship and marriage solid and
strong forever.
How happy you are in your relationship will influence
your total health, in a similar way to self care.

 

Pink Bell Flowers

 

Zero Hour

 

The important thing is to recognise what you have
in your life now, and really feel very grateful about it.

Be most grateful you are alive and able to breathe,
and enjoy everything around you.

Take responsibility and create your own happiness;
find meaning and purpose in your life, and make
this new chapter a joyous one.

Make your personal contentment your priority now.
Believe you can, be patient, and always remember
that the biggest secret of well-being is just living
in the present.

Happiness and peace of mind are absolutely necessary
if you want to 
have good health and live a long life.

Enjoy your journey !!

 

 

 

Panacea!

 

Hi there!

 

Panacea was the goddess of all remedies.
In Greek mythology, she was the daughter of
Asclepius, the god of medicine, and Epione,
the goddess of soothing pain.

Panacea was always carrying a magical potion
with her, with which she used to cure all the sick.
She also had four sisters and four bothers, all
relating to health and medicine.

 

Dancing Girls

 

Philosopher’s Stone

 

Listening to music is one of the most important
things for me.
I have a favourite radio station, which I switch on
the moment I wake up every morning, and keep it on
until the moment I sleep at night;  
with quiet intervals only when I am out of the house.

Although I listen to all kinds of music, because each
has something different to offer, at this stage of my
life, I mostly prefer the popular and dancing kinds.

Music makes me feel more positive, better satisfied
and really pleased.
It gives me energy and uplifts my spirits.
I have cried repeatedly listening to a favourite piece.
I can never imagine my life without music.

Music is an extremely powerful tool, and a huge part
of our lives from the earliest times in human history.
All cultures since ancient times used music in their
rituals and ceremonies.

According to research, experiencing exciting music
releases pleasure chemicals in the brain similar to
eating your favourite foods or having intercourse.

 

Mini Stereo

 

The Good Things

 

Music is so powerful that it can influence your thoughts,
emotions, feelings as well as behaviours and attitudes.
Some of its most profound and potent physical and
psychological effects
are as follows:

a)     It reduces stress and anxiety similar to getting
a massage.

b)     It enhances endurance and assists during all kinds
of exercise.

c)     It reduces depression and elevates mood.

d)     It helps people have better quality of sleep .

e)     It stengthens learning and remembering information.

f)     It relaxes muscle tension all over the body. 

g)     It keeps the ageing brain healthy and youthful.

h)     It increases visual and verbal intelligence.

i)     It exhibits similar effects to meditation.

j)     It is a motivation and endurance enhancer.

k)     It improves concentration and focus.

l)     It helps managing and reducing pain overall.

m)    It aids memory, intelligence and performance.

n)     It helps speed up recovery from illness.

o)     It helps people eat less and lose weight.

p)     It improves blood vessel functioning and health.

q)     It improves visual and verbal skills.

r)     It improves the immune system’s functioning.

 

Radio

 

Lucky Break

 

Music has the ability to influence our brain waves,
our heart rate and breathing, as well as our total
state of mind.

It can make you feel happy and contented, sad and
pessimistic, excited, energised, confident and hopeful
as well as invigorated.

Listen to music in your every day life as follows:

1)      In the morning, as soon as you wake up switch on
your radio to your favourite station, and start your day
feeling awesome.

2)     In your car driving to work or shops, play your
preferred music to relieve stress and tension, and take
your mind off the traffic.

3)     During working hours, play some background music
to make you feel more creative and productive.

4)    In your kitchen cooking your meals, listen to your
favoured tracks to make the whole experience much
more enjoyable.

5)     When having lunch and dinner, put soft music on to
make you feel more relaxed and improve the atmosphere.
Not only you will eat less but you will also digest your
foods better.

6)     During the day when cleaning your house, listen to
your chosen music to feel more energetic and enjoy
your chores to a greater extent.

7)     At night when in bed, play your music to help you
drift off to sleep nicely and pleasantly.

 

Music is always a very individual preference, relating
to your influences and experiences in life.

So play only the kind of music that makes you pesonally
feel good and satisfied, no matter what the trends are.

 

 

 

Etiquette!

 

Hi there!

 

Allow yourself to think only those thoughts that
match your principles and can bear the bright
light of day.
Day by day, your choices, your thoughts, your actions
fashion the person you become.
Your integrity determines your destiny .

Heraclitus of Ephesus
535 BC  –  475 BC

All cruelty springs from weakness .

Lucius Annaeus Seneca
c.  4 BC  – AD 65
The Moral Epistles

Behaviour is a mirror in which every one 
displays his own image .

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
1749  –  1832

We create our fate every day….
Most of the ills we suffer from are directly
traceable to our own behaviour .

Henry Valentine Miller
1891  –  1980

Behaviour arises from the level of one’s 
consciousness .

Maharishi Mahesh Yogi
1918  –  2008

 

 

On  The Skids

 

We are all simple human beings;
and as such, we all act in damaging ways
from time to time  —  sometimes, not even
realising it.

But there is a great number of individuals,
who constantly push other people away
with their attitudes and behaviours.

All these people have a difficult life;
because, t
hey certainly have various problems
with 
their personal relationships, troubles
with their 
friendships and probably they
will be straggling 
in their jobs.

Every person who displays such negative,
destructive and very harmful behaviour,
must recognise their problem, and take all
the necessary steps to find an immediate
solution before it is too late.

Your personal attitude should never be allowed
to take over;     because you are jeopardising 
your happiness and success in your life.

 

 

Kiss Of Death

 

Here are the most common poisonous behaviours
individuals exhibit, and push other people away
as a consequence:

a)     Taking everything personally.

You need to disregard and ignore other people’s
opinions, attitudes and behaviours.
Because mostly and mainly this has to do only with
them, their mindsets, knowledge and experiences;
and not you.

b)     Hanging on to pain and loss.

You must leave behind all distress and bitterness, and
accept change, because life is changing all the time.
Be emotionally free and move forward.

c)     Lacking compassion and integrity.

You have to be kind, sympathetic, sincere and friendly
to other people.
It is only then that you will show how mentally
advanced you are.

d)     Thinking negatively all the time.

You should stop being a pessimist and embrace
optimism in order to have a successful life.
Be a positive thinker.

e)     Being a perfectionist.

You ought to keep an open mind and accept
mistakes and failures, either they are yours
or other people’s.
Perfection does not exist.

f)     Acting like a victim constantly.

You must stop complaining about everything
that happens to you and to the world.
Accept you are a powerful person, and find
solutions to all problems.

g)     Looking always for recognition.

You need to feel secure with who you are.
Do not talk about yourself continually or be
arrogant.
It shows low self-esteem, and it is absolutely
draining on other people.

h)      Losing control of yourself.

You have to manage your emotions, be patient
and do not explode at every turn.
No one wants to deal with your big dramas.

i)     Being jealous of other people.

Feeling envious and resentful of other people’s
life and accomplishments is catastrophic to you.
You only need to compete with yourself in order
to be able to grow    and no one else.

 

 

Hot Potato

 

There are plenty of people, who have harmful,
destructive and poisonous personalities.

They are everywhere:   at your work, in your
family, among your close friends and among
your acquaintances.

You need to become aware and wise.
You must recognise the problems in your attitude
and behaviour, and correct them immediately.

If you do not do this, people will very soon realise
what and who you are.
Not only they will try to avoid you and distance
themselves from you, but also they will definitely
remove you from their life completely;
and as a result, you will suffer the consequences.

Good luck!

 

 

 

 

Wellspring!

 

Hi there!

 

Juan Ponce De Leon lived between 1474 and 1521.
He was a Spanish conquistador and the first governor
of Puerto Rico.

De Leon led an expedition in the year 1513 to La Florida
searching for the Fountain of Youth, because he wanted
to regain his youthfulness.

He was later told by the natives of the area, that what
he was looking for existed only in the waters of South
Beimeni in the Bahamas.

The Fountain’s water was supposed to be so powerful
that it could restore youth and longevity to anyone
who drank it ……

 

Der Jungbrunnen
Lucas Cranach the Elder, 1472 – 1553

 

Open And Shut

 

During our youth years we all want to be older, to
dress better and to be taken seriously by the others.
When we actually grow older, we all desperately
wish we were younger and remained younger,  for
the rest of our life.

But as the years go, at some point, we just realise
that
we have eventually become that older person,
we always wanted
to be when we were young.

Consequently, we now have to accept that there is
no point in fighting this very natural process, but
accept and celebrate all changes it is bringing with
it, either physical, mental or emotional.

 

Voul-Fount-0013

 

The Fairy Stories

 

There are certain myths about growing older.
These myths should never be allowed to influence
your way of life in any way.
Take all necessary steps to avoid them at all costs.

a)     Mental and Physical downturn:
This is not necessarily a DNA destination;
but something that can be greatly reduced by
leading an active, healthy and creative lifestyle.

b)     Peace and Quiet:
Again this is not true for most people;   living a
miserable life is not what they want.
Instead many wish very much to develop relationships,
either of a romantic nature or various friendly
associations.

c)     Contribution Inability:
Today’s adults are very able to lead in business, support
various activities, assist in education or help with
charity and volunteer work.

d)     Youthful Appearance:
Although people’s external image changes over time,
they still want to look smart, attractive and important.

e)      Slow Down and Retire:
A great number of adults today, actually want to pursue
different and new projects, and develop special interests.

 

 

The Blessings

 

Growing older is the greatest and most fundamental
enemy for all humans.
Still, you should accept this course gracefully, because
according to several studies, it is bringing with it a good
number of benefits.

 

I.     Physical

 

a)    The immune system will be stronger due to having
been
through lots of epidemics during the years, and have
developed resistance to so many viruses.
As a consequence, you will be catching less colds and flu.

b)    The older you get the less allergy attacks you will
be suffering;   and whenever you do suffer an attack,
it will last for a much shorter time.

c)    Ageing establishes a more intelligent brain, due
to accumulated knowledge through the years.
You will be able to solve problems more efficiently
and take smarter financial decisions;   also you will
develop better understanding and wiser judgement.

d)    It is now established that older people have more
frequent, satisfactory and better quality sex.
So you will be enjoying yourself more.

e)    As you grow older you will be losing a number of
your sweat glands;   consequently, you will be sweating
much less than when you were younger.

f)    Older adults suffer less headaches and migraines.
If you happen to develop one, it will be much milder
and it will last for a shorter time, than the younger people.

g)    Ageing contributes to better sleep during the night;
therefore, you will be feeling less tired, sleepy and
drained during the day.

 

 

II.   Mental and Emotional

 

a)    You will be feeling grateful for all the experiences
you
have accumulated over time, and you will develop
the self-confidence you always wanted.

b)    You will view life from a different perspective.
Everything now will start falling into place for you,
and you will know what all the fuss was about all
the previous years.

c)    You will learn not to be influenced by other people’s
opinions and expectations, about how you look or how
you live your life or whatever else you do.

d)    You will become less emotional about various
happenings,
and you will worry to a lesser degree about
most things in life.

e)    You will learn that it is absolutely useless to compare
yourself to other people, and your expectations about
your productivity will reduce.

f)    You will finally start appreciating yourself much more,
and you will, at last, know who you really are as a person.

g)    You will understand that you need to focus on yourself,
your desires and passions, your purpose and your goals,
in order to achieve a happier and healthier future life.

h)    You will certainly and definitely realise that each and
every day of your life must be lived to the fullest.

Ageing is inevitable.
Since it is something that we can not avoid, it is better
to embrace it, and feel good about it.

Keep on learning and discovering.
Change your beliefs and the way you think, and live in
the present.

Move on and look forward to new things happening
all the time.

Be cool !!!