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Cornerstone!

 

Hi there!

 

Davi was a middle aged man, who had quit his
well paid job in order to become an author.
He had been living alone in his beautiful apartment,
for some time now.

Davi was a very happy man, enjoying his quiet life.
” I’ve been living alone for the last fifteen years now,
and I truly rejoice in my independence.
I can wake up and take my breakfast every morning
any time I like, I can go to bed every night whenever
I wish, I can talk to whoever I choose;
and I can certainly pursue my interests and passions “,
he said smiling happily.

Davi had decided to live alone the rest of his life,
and enjoy all the advantages this had to offer him.
His whole attitude to life was helping him to feel
very excited about everything.

He was the king of his castle;    and he didn’t even
have a dog, or any other pet, to keep him company.
It was him, his computer, and his mobile.
Absolute freedom  —  and a huge fun experience.

 

The Buddha

 

” No one saves us but ourselves.
No one can and no one may.
We ourselves must walk the path “.

Siddhartha Gautama
c. 563/480  –  c. 483/400 BCE

 

The word alone has different meanings,
and a number of implications, not necessarily
positive.
For many people being alone means negative
things altogether.

Yet nowadays more people increasingly, 
easily prefer to live alone    especially
adult women.
Actually, it seems that living alone may be one
of the most pleasant experiences one can have.

Also, in our today’s society most people have
become egocentric, caring only about themselves;
their need to be free and totally flexible in their
life, without bothering about greater issues.

Obviously, since human beings are social
animals, they enjoy being in the company of
other people, for the many benefits and pleasures
this has to offer.

Being alone can offer a quantity of surprising
advantages.
But although embracing solitude can be very
enriching and beneficial to your health;
certainly at the same time, you have to be 
extremely careful not to go to extremes.

Because, too much isolation will definitely have
negative repercussions to your physical and
mental health.

 

Swimming by the Boat

 

The Gold Bricks

 

Here are the disadvantages of living alone:

1)     You can develop self-critical and fault
finding thoughts, that make you feel you are
a loser and a failure;
so you do not belong to be around other people.

2)     You can start feeling lonely and socially
isolated, leading to anxiety and depression.

3)     You can start neglecting your physical
health;    by adopting an unhealthy diet, by
leading a sedentary lifestyle, and by living
in a dirty environment;
and this will certainly lead to a shorter life.

4)     You can start feeling the lack of company,
and begin to be seriously bored.
This distressing state of mind will force you to
start seeking the company of other people,
whoever, in order to feel more comfortable.

5)     You can feel insecure and unsafe, in general;
and especially whenever you are sick, or you
need to see a doctor, or if you have a sudden
illness, and there is no one to help and support you.

6)     You do not have anyone to help you with your
every day house chores and other tasks, inside
and outside the house.

7)     You have no one to talk and share your fears,
laughs, feelings and emotions;
and this will contribute to overuse of the telephone
and the internet, with various consequences.

 

Lavender

 

Primrose Path

 

Enjoying living alone is a habit that can be learnt;
and you can be totally happy, and actually take
pleasure in solitude.
Adopt the following steps, so you can start loving
living alone:

a)     Start by feeling comfortable being alone.

b)     Develop a positive mental attitude, and have
an optimistic viewpoint.

c)     Reflect on yourself, and your whole life by
considering and acknowledging your goals.

d)     Do not be critical, demanding, analytical, or
looking for perfection.

e)     Live your life as you would if you had company.
Do all the same things like, eating out, going to the
cinema or theatre, etc.    but alone.

f)     Walk in nature, listen to the music, take any
sport you like, or attend to plants and flowers.

g)     If you do need some interaction, get a pet.

h)     Use social media to connect with other humans,
and share interests.

i)     Develop various activities, and different hobbies:
read, write, learn, blog, draw, paint, play computer 
games, or start any craft projects.

j)     Talk to the various people you meet every day,
either
you know them or not.

 

Post Box

 

Good Fortune

 

The following are the main benefits of living alone:

a)     Time alone will give you the opportunity to clear
and refresh your mind, reflect and realise who you
really are and what you want from your life;
and make better decisions accordingly.

b)     You will be able to concentrate and focus more
efficiently to your work, becoming more creative
and more productive.

c)     You will certainly feel more independent and
absolutely free to do all the things you want, whenever
you wish;
you will be able to develop your own personal routines.

d)     You will find that you enjoy all your relationships
much more, and appreciate all the advantages you 
get from them.

e)     As the time goes, you will be feeling more
confident,
self-assured, satisfied and positive about
living alone;

and you will learn to trust your instincts.

f)     You will know that you are responsible only for
yourself, and that the only person’s happiness you will
need to worry is your own.

g)     You will definitely have all the time to relax and
feel in peace, without any external distractions.

h)     You will be able to develop a great variety of
friends, acquaintances and other contacts;
as a consequence, you will be feeling more comfortable
and connected.

i)     You will have total and absolute control over your
own life, on your own terms, in your own privacy,
without interference or intervention.

 

Boats in Harbour

 

End Of The Line

 

Remember, it is absolutely vital for you to know
the difference between healthy and negative
time alone.

You do need to feel creative, reflective, pleased,
fulfilled, and happy altogether.
You do need to find the right balance in order to
enjoy your life.

Never forget    Being Alone does not mean
Being Lonely, which is a completely different
and sickening thing.

” In Solitude the mind gains strength,
and learns to lean upon itself “.

Laurence Sterne
1713  –  1768

” Seclusion is the price of greatness “

Paramahansa Yogananda
1893  –  1952

Good Luck!

 

 

 

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Ataxia!

 

Hi there!

 

Matty was an executive manager, working hard
until early evening every day.
He enjoyed a lot of benefits and rewards, but
also plenty of troubles.

There was always something going on in his mind.
That voice inside his head would never become
quite;    all he could hear was his boss reminding
him of his many obligations.

He was feeling overpowered and utterly confused.
His mind was full of clutter that made him 
nervous, agitated, even anxious and unable to focus.

I know I need to find the proper means to fight 
this huge problem I have    and very soon!
he thought one day.
He certainly understood the situation, and he knew
he could be in control of his circumstances.

Finally he took all the necessary steps to change
that troublesome position he was in, and clean
some space in his head.

 

Cloudy Skies

 

Topsy – Turviness

 

The challenging combination of external and
internal demands, as well as your personal
expectations  can cause your mind to clutter
and be confused.

Most people are experiencing this unpleasant 
situation all their life.
They seem to forget that removing all litter from
their mind and heart, is the most important thing
they can do, in order to enjoy a balanced and
peaceful existence.

Their fast moving every day living together with
their survival basics, is full of various 
obligations
at home and at work
;
so they ignore their internal peace.

They fail to remember that if they wish to live a 
meaningful and rich life they will need to achieve
inner peace.

Obviously you can continue holding close to your
heart all emotions, feelings and experiences you 
have been and are going through, only because this
is much easier than clearing them all out.

But keep in mind that although getting rid of your
internal clutter needs you to be brave, fearless,
determined and powerful, this is actually the only
way you can transform your life.

 

Glittering Water

 

Smack In The Middle

 

Follow the below mentioned tips to clear some
of your internal clutter:

a)     Be decisive and solve your problems as soon 
as they arise, so they do not become massive.
If you are not able to find a solution, then accept
that your difficult situation is not a problem, but
a fact of life, which needs to be handled as such.

b)     Discard your desire to control everything and
everybody.
Live your life without demands and requirements
in order to feel free.

c)    Give the greatest gift to yourself :  Forgiveness;
because it is only then that you will feel relieved
and liberated.

d)     Be an optimist, and think positively.
Do not worry about the wrong things around you,
and non existent situations
.

 

Clear Skies

 

e)     Distance yourself from anybody who keeps you
back and brings you down or hurt you.
Doing so, you will grow and evolve.

f)     Eliminate past memories of any kind that do
not contribute anything to your present life.

g)   Prioritize all your responsibilities and set all
daily routine jobs on automatic.
Organize your day so that you can deal with only
one thing at a time.

Mental clutter leads to psychological blockage.

You can not think clearly and focus on the important
things in your life any more.

It is only when you erase this mental confusion that
you will make space for all the things that really
matter to you.

You will then feel healthy, satisfied, cheerful, peaceful
and happy in your life.

Do it now !!

 

 

 

 

Ataraxia!

 

Hi there!

 

Izzy woke up this morning feeling very strange.
She stretched, got up slowly and
looked herself in
the wardrobe mirror when…
“oh my God, I look so tired”  she exclaimed.

This is not the first time she was catching her
reflection and thinking,  “I’m really
struggling here!”
Her eyes were puffy, her hair was awful and her body
shape was not perfect in
any way.

But she had already decided some time ago now,
not to be interested in what other
people thought of her.
She didn’t care
about their opinion any more.

“I’m not really concerned in looking perfect any longer.
I’ve abandoned
this long and painful pursuit for perfection;
so now I feel good within
myself — I’m free and relaxed, at last.
I know I don’t look my best, but life continues and I have to follow…..”

 

Atarxia_01_ed Atarxia_02

 

Law and Order

 

Peaceful means to be calm in your heart.
You need to cut out all the
worried thoughts in your head and
replace them with inner serenity.

Most people are in a state of endless unrest.
The following suggestions will help quiet an anxious mind:

 

1)    Stop caring about what everyone else thinks.
Give priority to what is
important to you, and reject
whatever
is not right for you.

 

2)    Do not worry about perfection, because nothing in
life is perfect.
Be grateful for what you have now.

 

3)    Accept and love yourself for what you are and
where you are.
Only then
you will feel positive, joyful and relaxed.

 

4)    Negative life changes are very painful, but realise
that something new
and better is on its way.
Life changes
every minute, and you have to follow and
adjust if you want to succeed.

 

5)    Accept what is and you will be really happy.
Adjust your attitude
and the way you react to things and
you will eliminate all stress from your life.

 

6)    Ignore negativity around you, and ask yourself if
it is really true.
See the
good side of everything, smile and think positively.
Keep your mind open
and you will  be peaceful.

 

7)    Realize that people who criticize others as well as
everything around them are telling
their own story.

 

8)    Letting go of things  or people means you are strong
enough to embrace the present.

 

Atarxia_03 Atarxia_04

 

Bed Of Roses

 

Freedom is to realise that you do not have to agree with
everything or everyone else,
and the opposite.

Patience is the ability we have to feel good while working
for what we want to succeed.

If you catch yourself worrying, immediately say “STOP”;
otherwise you will suffer what
you worry about.
Then take a meditative
walk focusing on the earth under your feet.

Peace and happiness are states of mind, and they require
effort to be achieved.
Peace of mind must be your highest and deepest goal.

Stay in Peace!!

 

 

 

Dance of Destruction!

 

Hello!

 

It is very attractive to act or work independent of others,
because it gives us complete freedom to do as we wish
at any time.

On the other hand, close healthy relationships can also
be very interesting and rewarding because we can share
things and play with them.

Good relationships should give us support when we need
it, and we can have fun with them.
Basically it is all about trust.

Consequently, if we feel exhausted and unhappy after
being with them, obviously, they are not the right people
for us to associate.
In unhealthy relationships they are all about them, not us.

 

SunflowerClose

 

Draining Relationships

 

We all know them — they can be our friends, our family,
our relatives, our partners, our colleagues.
We can recognize them everywhere.

The most common wearing types of people we meet in our
life and probably associate with are the following:

 

1)  The One Who Always Suffers:

 
The miserable person who complains about
everything all the time.

2)  The One Who Finds Faults:

 
The person who criticizes and judges
everybody else.

 

Tulips

 

3)  The One who Wants to Direct:

 

The dominating person who thinks he/she
knows everything.

4)  The One Who Loves Him/Herself:

  
The self-centred person who wants always to be
admired and praised.

 

I am sure most of you have/had first hand experience
dealing with such people.

Avoid these people completely.
If you  have to come in to contact with them for different
reasons, behave considerately, politely and calmly, and
limit your exposure to them as much as possible.