Tag Archive | Self care



Hi there!


Lyd was a great author.
She usually wrote seated 
in her desk;
but today it was such a beautiful, 
warm and sunny
spring day, that she decided to 
finish her writing
in her regular cafe, not very 
far from her home.

She sat in her usual corner table on the balcony,
ordered her familiar drink and started preparing
her notes in order to finish her writing.

As she was sitting there writing, she started noticing
all these people walking past on the pavement.
She observed how many young people were hurrying
to work;  a number of youthful women carrying their
shopping and some mothers pushing their prams.

All these people seem as if they have a specific
purpose, and they seem pleased with it.
I wonder, when all these people pass the age of 50 and they
lose their life stage activities, how will they manage
to find happiness in their later years ………! “


Blue flowers


Moment Of Truth


Midlife, that is the twenty year period between the
ages of forty five (45) and sixty five (65) is a nerve-racking
time without a doubt.

Most people have to struggle with their personal and
social circumstances, and some of them with their
professional ones as well.

Many individuals feel disturbed, nervous, miserable
and worried about their future and health;
so it is very difficult 
for them to feel particularly happy.

All life transitions are mentally agonising.
You feel angry, sad, empty, lost, confused and frightened.
But they are a natural part of life, and you can never
avoid them.

Anything can happen;    from losing your job  or
retiring, from having to face a loved one’s illness or
death, from downsizing your house or moving to
a new city or even country.

Finally you may be feeling sick and tired or bored and
your purpose.
The secret is to be able to do whatever it takes to
find happiness and get the most out of your life at
any stage you are.


Yellow Rose


Turn Of The Tide


There are always a lot of things you can do to 
enhance and strengthen your satisfaction during
these life transitions, as follows:

a)     Acknowledge that circumstances are changing;
evaluate and determine what is going to make you
strong and happy from now on.
Follow what really matters to you most.

b)     Look after yourself physically and mentally in order
to be able to face all the new changes in your life.
Self-care must be your priority now.

c)     Follow a proper diet and exercise regularly
to keep your body and mind active and healthy.

d)     Develop a few interests and hobbies.
Be confident and follow whatever makes you feel
fascinated and enthusiastic.

e)     Socialise and connect with other people.
Doing this will make you feel mentally healthy
and much more pleased.
Try to maintain good relationships throughout
your life.

f)     Connect with your spouse as deeply as possible,
to keep your relationship and marriage solid and
strong forever.
How happy you are in your relationship will influence
your total health, in a similar way to self care.


Pink Bell Flowers


Zero Hour


The important thing is to recognise what you have
in your life now, and really feel very grateful about it.

Be most grateful you are alive and able to breathe,
and enjoy everything around you.

Take responsibility and create your own happiness;
find meaning and purpose in your life, and make
this new chapter a joyous one.

Make your personal contentment your priority now.
Believe you can, be patient, and always remember
that the biggest secret of well-being is just living
in the present.

Happiness and peace of mind are absolutely necessary
if you want to 
have good health and live a long life.

Enjoy your journey !!





Curam Sui!


Hi there!


…… ” Talk to me about yourself. 
I want to know who you are, and how you
live your life , Sev asked him one day.

I go to my regular work every morning,
and I do some counselling in the evenings.
During the weekends I do a bit of volunteering
work, and
whenever I have some free time
usually support people I know
Lex replied smiling.

Then suddenly he stood still.
He had just realised that this hectic way of
living had left him with no time for himself.

With this thought he felt bitter and distressed.
I must take steps to change this self sacrifice
because it’s draining my life he thought
decisively ……


Classic Boat Ride


Pavlovian Response


Self care is an instinctive behaviour in nature,
but it does not exist in the same way in humans.
Individuals need to be willing to learn it and
practice it;   and over time as they are progressing
they will start feeling more comfortable and
relaxed about it.

Self care is taking any actions necessary to improve
your lifestyle and your total wellbeing.
Self care is to take full responsibility for your
pursuits, and honour and respect yourself.

The quest for good health and happiness is not
a selfish hunt.
It means to take care of your own needs, and listen
and pay attention to yourself.

It is something completely individual for every
person, and you should engage in whatever feels
most right for you.
It can change how you see yourself, and show you
new opportunities.

You will set up new habits, which will make you
feel in control of your whole life.
You will have much less stress and you will be
more decisive and resilient.

Also you will be able to look after yourself better
without having to rely on others, and you will
feel more confident to change direction when
things do not work for you any more.


Three Girls Dancing The Charleston


Get On Line


You need to slow down and make space for
relaxing your mind, exercising your body and
taking time for deep thinking and planning.

If you manage these you will have a genuine
and very happy life.
To start prioritising your own needs follow
the steps below:

a)     Determine what self care means to you and
make a full plan in writing.

b)     Practice self awareness to be able to recognise
your actual needs:   physical, emotional, mental
and spiritual.

c)     Identify all these thoughts that are holding
you back from taking care of yourself.

d)     Realise that nothing is perfect, and start
taking small steps towards accomplishing your
ambitions and goals.

e)     Redefine your relationships by placing
boundaries and really stick to them.

f)     Understand that NO is a complete sentence.


Bicycle Race


Believed Abstraction


Here are some fascinating examples of
self care projects, pursuits and special

1)      Go shopping or window shopping.
2)      Taking photographs.
3)      Nurturing your body.
4)      Going to a mini retreat.
5)      Swimming and sunbathing on the beach.
6)      Reading inspirational books.
7)      Walking or hiking in nature.
8)      Driving and admiring the sights.
9)       Pampering in a day spa.
10)     Watching a film.
11)      De-cluttering your wardrobe.
12)     Growing plants and flowers.
13)      Researching and Writing.
14)      Exercising in a gym.
15)      Baking and cooking health foods.
16)      Being spiritual.
17)      Going out to coffee shops.
18)      Taking short breaks regularly.
19)      Going to the cinema.
20)      Going on holidays.


Swaying Girls


Turn On Steam


Making time and space for yourself is absolutely
critical to your total wellbeing and happiness.

Do something you really love every single day.
Put yourself first and make self care your habit.

Start treasuring yourself now and you will feel
in harmony and very proud.
You will feel healthy, strong, fulfilled and happy.

Make self care a constant and true part of your
daily life.
Do not fear;   give this great gift to yourself now.

Your are No I !!