Jos, a man in his early fifties, runs his own
Jos has all the necessary abilities, knowledge,
experience and skills to deal with many
complicated matters very successfully.
Jos is a true businessman.
After a really hard day’s work, he meets a
couple of friends for a drink.
They all share different stories, and enjoy
a good laugh.
Jos is a true friend.
After that, he returns home to his beloved
They have dinner during which they share
some of their day moments, and afterwards
they sit together watching a film.
Jos is a true husband.
On occasions, he calls his parents to see how
they are, and make certain they do not need
Jos is a true son.
But all these identities Jos has do not represent
who he really is as a person;
that is, a unique, remarkable and wonderful
All people have two identities:
* an external identity, that is related to various
social influences, relationships, personal and
professional life; and
* an internal identity, that is related to the
individual’s values, vision, beliefs and goals:
– their true inner self,
– their unique soul,
– their state of consciousness.
In order to know your inner self you need
to become self-aware, through detailed
examination and observation of your mental
and emotional activities.
This can be done by exercising meditation,
contemplation, reflection, self-analysis
It is a life long odyssey, and a very difficult
and laborious process.
When you are born, you do not know anything
about the world you are going to live in.
You only have one basic identity;
that of someone’s child.
As you grow up, you start liking a certain
identity/s, even if you have not succeeded
Basically, your true self is the identity that
makes you feel happy, excited and motivated
in your life.
During your childhood, youth and adult years
you have been programmed to behave in a
This will have been done by:
– your trusted friends and family,
– the religion,
– the media, and
– other external sources.
The most vital thing is that you should
always listen to your own inner voice, and
not being distracted by all these sources
Otherwise, you will never find your true inner
this will have devastating consequences
in your entire life.
Have you ever asked yourself who you
If you have never done so, or you find it
impossible to answer this question, then
certainly you are defined by one of your
Unfortunately, since you have no idea who
you really are as an individual;
as soon as your external identity is taken away,
you will be unable to find your way in life.
You will be completely incapable of coping with
any difficult situation, or take any decisions
You will be feeling powerless, out of control
and absolutely lost — and all these, just
because you have been living for all the others,
and not for yourself.
Discovering your authentic self is a life long
It is a vital process that will enhance and
benefit everything you want to do
in your life.
You will know what you need to do in any
* you will know what your purpose in life is;
* you will become much more confident;
* you will feel more powerful and complete;
* you will become more creative and fulfilled;
* you will feel peaceful and happy.
This journey of discovery will take you to
the person you were always meant to be;
it will take you to your unique destiny.
You should never worry about wanting to
find your inner true self.
Instead, you should be eager to know, interested
and excited to become you, and live the life
you have always imagined.
It is really challenging for all adults to discover
their true self and their destiny.
But as soon as you manage to find it, your
whole life will change for the best.
Here are some very useful steps to take
towards this very personal exciting experience.
a) Write a detailed list of:
* Your past history, successes and failures;
and all the lessons you have learnt until now.
* A good assessment and analysis of your
* All the things you believe in life.
* All your moral principles.
* Your talents, passions and hobbies.
* Your ambitions, targets, purpose and
objectives in life.
b) Now, make a detailed plan of your current
life and all the things you have.
Mark on it any of the items mentioned on your
c) At this stage, you should be able to see all
the similarities and differences.
This should help you find the steps you will need
to take from now on, in order to achieve your
goal of being your true inner self.
d) Try to meditate on a daily basis.
Doing so for ten minutes, will help you connect
with your inner self, and clear your mind.
e) You can also write in a journal on a daily basis.
Again, this will give you the opportunity to fully
understand yourself, your thoughts and feelings.
You must realise what makes you a different
and independent individual, so that you can
achieve your future goals.
You must stop being influenced by all external
You must stop living your life according to the
obstructive identities given to you, either by
society or family.
Only then, you will be able to do what you want,
and live a satisfying and rewarding life.
The following steps will help you differentiate
and free yourself from your past.
a) Become aware of all the negative thoughts
you have developed about yourself;
thoughts which are rooted inside of you
through various past experiences.
Decide their origin, and now challenge them
in your own way.
b) Become aware of all the negative features
you are always acting on;
features that are based on your parents’ and
other people’s reactions to different life situations.
c) Become aware of all your own negative
approaches you have been using until now,
in order to protect yourself against various
Stop using them from now on.
d) Now that your mind is cleared, start
developing your own principles and ethics,
standards and morals, attitude and
Plan your life and set your goals according
to your own thinking, and ignore everything
and everybody else.
e) Recognise that you are a powerful,
confident and capable person;
and you can do what you want in your life.
Stay motivated, rely on yourself, be responsible
and in full control.
As an adult human you can create the family
you want for yourself; by pursuing only
relationships that make you feel inspired,
happy and excited about life.
Doing so, will contribute greatly to your
finding your inner self, and becoming the
person you have always wanted to be.
When you finally discover your true self,
you will be able to become more successful
in your life, and you will feel in peace
with yourself and the world.
In the end, you will be able to meet your destiny.