Tag Archive | Positivity

Antipositivism!

 

Hi there!

 

Kyla went to work this morning having a strong
premonition that something was going to happen.
She sat at her desk preparing her files, when her
telephone rang;   she answered nervously, and
” can you come to my office immediately, please? “,
her manager asked.


She left what she was doing and hurried in his office;

Twenty minutes later she emerged looking worried.
He gave me this difficult project, and although I believe
I know how to handle it, if I don’t complete it properly I
will suffer the consequences.


As a result, he will not be happy with me  —   and it

will certainly be all my fault.
What if he becomes very upset with me and decides
to fire me!
Then, what will I do    I will have no money to live!
Since I have no other savings, I will not be able to pay
my bills or buy my food.
I also have a mortgage, which if I don’t repay, most
likely the bank will take my home “.


She kept on thinking ad nauseam all these negative

scenarios, and feeling her anxiety mounting ……..

 

 

The Insurance Policy

 

Many years ago, when I was in my very early twenties
I was still living with my parents, in a strict and
traditional environment.

I remember very clearly one night, I was driving back
home after having a good night out with some friends.


It was much after midnight, and the roads were almost

completely empty.
I was driving very fast, and continuously thinking all
the worst things that could happen to me when I would
arrive home.


I was imagining my mother protesting and complaining

about my independent attitude, as well as screaming
and objecting my thoughtless and careless actions.
I used to worry so much every time I went out at night,
almost to the point of complete anxiety.
The truth is, nothing of all these fears actually came into
fruition.

I usually went back home nicely, everybody was already
in bed, so I did the same thing very quietly and carefully.


But I always felt that if I expected the worst I would

not be upset and distressed when it happened.
I used negativity as my insurance.
This attitude was, and always is very wrong and a huge
mistake;   because things
could actually have happened
according to my fears.

Negativity can very well influence the outcome;
and even worse, according to research, self-fulfilling
predictions do really take place.


Consequently, the best thing to do is to disregard any

negative thoughts that come into your mind, and
try to imagine a positive result instead.

 

Red Plant

 

Sing The Blues

 

Thoughts, either they are positive or negative, are
generated in the subconscious mind.
They are created based on your past external and
genetic conditioning, as well as your various predictions
about
your future and how you perceive your present life.


Thoughts are stored naturally in your brain as memories.
When you experience negative feelings, they start
fighting against the normal flow of your life, and
as a consequence you are suffering.


Your thoughts are just pure energy passing through,

with no power at all to influence anything.
The problem starts as soon as you start associating
yourself with any of them, obsessing and therefore
suffering.


They have not any control whatsoever, until the moment

you start feeding and giving them energy by paying
attention to them.
Actually, if you ignore them completely they will lose
their dominance and fade away.


You do need to let all this negative energy flow away

by not being interested in it at all.
All our negative thoughts are connected to the following
categories:

*     Exaggerated and excessive reactions to various issues.
*     Impossible and unrealistic expectations.
*     Outrageous and irrational thinking to extremes.
*     Imagining and speculating what people think.
    Disastrous and destructive assumptions of a situation.
    Criticising and insulting one’s self.
    Predicting and visualising a negative future.
*     Minimising the positive and enlarging the negative.


Avoid doing all the above mentioned in order not to be

tormented by negativity;
and focus your attention on positive endings.

 

Rhododendron

 

Endowed With Reason

 

The human mind has naturally evolved to create
thoughts.
You must realise that you are not your thoughts.
These mental perceptions are only forms of energy.
Restraining and stopping your negative thoughts is
extremely difficult if you do not use the right technique.


You certainly need to practice how to disassociate

yourself from these thoughts, and show no interest
in them whatsoever.
This is the only true way to cause your thoughts to lose
their power, die out and disappear.


The following techniques will help you practice how

to do exactly this:

a)     Focus all your attention on a specific point from
five to twenty minutes.
This point can be anything you choose like,
an external sound, some music, counting worry beads,
parts of your body or your breath.

b)     Observe your mind without showing any interest
at all.    
Let all this negative energy together with its images,
called thoughts, flow away without involving yourself
in any way.


Thoughts do not really exist  —  it is only you who brings

them to reality, by focusing on them.

Realise that the only real and true way to stop them is
Not to use any force, but Only to Stop Paying Attention
to them completely and absolutely.


Good Luck!

 

 

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Gelotology!

 

Hi there!

 

“…… Last week Bo and I decided to stay in and
enjoy the evening together.
After having a very pleasant dinner we thought
it would be a great idea to sit closely and enjoy
a good entertaining comedy.

We have always liked the delightful Naked Gun
films, so
we decided to put on the Naked Gun 2 1/2 :
The
Smell of Fear this time, because we knew we
would find it extremely entertaining.

It really was such an enjoyable and amusing
evening;   we kept on laughing for the whole
one and a half hours it was playing.

Watching this fantastic comedy on the television
sitting together on the sofa, it was the best choice
we had made.
It really was such a great way to feel closer to
each other and relieve all stresses of the day……”

” If we couldn’t laugh we would all go insane ”
Robert Frost     1874  –  1963

 

Laughing Women

 

Har – De – Har

 

According to numerous studies laughter has
a great number of healing properties.
When we laugh we trigger pleasing, satisfying
and enjoyable feelings that calm and soothe
our body and mind.

Here are the physical and mental health benefits
as well as the social ones of a good laughter:

a)     Releases endorphins relieving any pains
in the body temporarily, and promotes general
well being.

b)     Reduces stress hormones so you can enjoy
overall health and energy.

c)     Enhances positivity, optimism and creativity
so you are able to fight life’s struggles effectively.

d)     Boosts anti ageing hormones improving
health and longevity.

e)     Makes life more enjoyable by releasing serotonin
and making you feel happier;    consequently you
can develop better relationships personally and
professionally.

f)     Improves circulation so you get more oxygen
and nutrients into your cells, as well as helping all
body organs to work more efficiently.

g)     Exercises and tones up the stomach and face
muscles.

h)     Improves the immune system by improving
T Cell production to raise resistance to disease.

i)     Increases resilience so you can become more
successful in your life.

j)     Burns forty ( 40 ) calories a day when laughing
for fifteen minutes ( 15 ) at a time.

 

Bumblebee on flower

 

Fun And Games

 

Laughter is inherited, ingrained and instinctive.
Even if you are not used to laughing or even
smiling in your life, you can learn to do so with
some practice.

The following are ways to start practising:

1)     Smile at people you meet every day any time,
any where.

2)     Associate with playful, fun and happy people.

3)     Bring humour into your conversations
with others.

4)     Watch comedies on the television.

5)     Read funny and humorous books.

6)     Do some silly things from time to time.

7)     Laugh at yourself and your own mistakes.

When you learn to laugh your life will be much
more enjoyable and pleasant.
You will be feeling renewed within yourself and
also with your relationships.

You will then find that lots of new opportunities
will start occurring to you.
You will be feeling much more relaxed, positive
and really happy with yourself and your life.

Do not wait any longer.
Start laughing now to collect all the health benefits.

The human race has only one really effective
weapon and that is laughter “

Mark Twain     1835  –  1910