Kyla went to work this morning having a strong
premonition that something was going to happen.
She sat at her desk preparing her files, when her
telephone rang; she answered nervously, and
” can you come to my office immediately, please? “,
her manager asked.
She left what she was doing and hurried in his office;
Twenty minutes later she emerged looking worried.
“ He gave me this difficult project, and although I believe
I know how to handle it, if I don’t complete it properly I
will suffer the consequences.
As a result, he will not be happy with me — and it
will certainly be all my fault.
What if he becomes very upset with me and decides
to fire me!
Then, what will I do — I will have no money to live!
Since I have no other savings, I will not be able to pay
my bills or buy my food.
I also have a mortgage, which if I don’t repay, most
likely the bank will take my home “.
She kept on thinking ad nauseam all these negative
scenarios, and feeling her anxiety mounting ……..
The Insurance Policy
Many years ago, when I was in my very early twenties
I was still living with my parents, in a strict and
I remember very clearly one night, I was driving back
home after having a good night out with some friends.
It was much after midnight, and the roads were almost
I was driving very fast, and continuously thinking all
the worst things that could happen to me when I would
I was imagining my mother protesting and complaining
about my independent attitude, as well as screaming
and objecting my thoughtless and careless actions.
I used to worry so much every time I went out at night,
almost to the point of complete anxiety.
The truth is, nothing of all these fears actually came into
I usually went back home nicely, everybody was already
in bed, so I did the same thing very quietly and carefully.
But I always felt that if I expected the worst I would
not be upset and distressed when it happened.
I used negativity as my insurance.
This attitude was, and always is very wrong and a huge
mistake; because things could actually have happened
according to my fears.
Negativity can very well influence the outcome;
and even worse, according to research, self-fulfilling
predictions do really take place.
Consequently, the best thing to do is to disregard any
negative thoughts that come into your mind, and
try to imagine a positive result instead.
Sing The Blues
Thoughts, either they are positive or negative, are
generated in the subconscious mind.
They are created based on your past external and
genetic conditioning, as well as your various predictions
about your future and how you perceive your present life.
Thoughts are stored naturally in your brain as memories.
When you experience negative feelings, they start
fighting against the normal flow of your life, and
as a consequence you are suffering.
Your thoughts are just pure energy passing through,
with no power at all to influence anything.
The problem starts as soon as you start associating
yourself with any of them, obsessing and therefore
They have not any control whatsoever, until the moment
you start feeding and giving them energy by paying
attention to them.
Actually, if you ignore them completely they will lose
their dominance and fade away.
You do need to let all this negative energy flow away
by not being interested in it at all.
All our negative thoughts are connected to the following
* Exaggerated and excessive reactions to various issues.
* Impossible and unrealistic expectations.
* Outrageous and irrational thinking to extremes.
* Imagining and speculating what people think.
* Disastrous and destructive assumptions of a situation.
* Criticising and insulting one’s self.
* Predicting and visualising a negative future.
* Minimising the positive and enlarging the negative.
Avoid doing all the above mentioned in order not to be
tormented by negativity;
and focus your attention on positive endings.
Endowed With Reason
The human mind has naturally evolved to create
You must realise that you are not your thoughts.
These mental perceptions are only forms of energy.
Restraining and stopping your negative thoughts is
extremely difficult if you do not use the right technique.
You certainly need to practice how to disassociate
yourself from these thoughts, and show no interest
in them whatsoever.
This is the only true way to cause your thoughts to lose
their power, die out and disappear.
The following techniques will help you practice how
to do exactly this:
a) Focus all your attention on a specific point from
five to twenty minutes.
This point can be anything you choose like,
an external sound, some music, counting worry beads,
parts of your body or your breath.
b) Observe your mind without showing any interest
Let all this negative energy together with its images,
called thoughts, flow away without involving yourself
in any way.
Thoughts do not really exist — it is only you who brings
them to reality, by focusing on them.
Realise that the only real and true way to stop them is
Not to use any force, but Only to Stop Paying Attention
to them completely and absolutely.