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Hi there!


Rod grew up believing that life was a difficult,
troublesome, and at times, impossible journey.

He believed only in the things he was taught
since he was a child;

and that he had to always try to fit in with 
everybody else’s thinking,  
ignoring his own mind completely.

As a consequence, he was living a life full of
fear, despair and self-doubt;
worrying constantly what the others will 
think and say, if he acted on his own wishes.

He was never himself, and he had no faith
at all in who he was.
He was always weary and tired, anxious
and depressed.

he never pursued the profession he wanted;
he never developed any friends, or any
close relationships;
his total lifestyle was a big mess, without
routines or proper habits;
and all this, because he never believed in

I can’t go on like this, any more;
I’m a loser, and a failure.
I must stop being so afraid of others;
I must stop doubting myself so much.

I need to start having faith in myself.
I need to
believe that I can do all the
things I really
want to do .

He said to himself one day, feeling really
strongly about it.
And from that moment, his whole life
started changing.




Open And Shut Case


When things go wrong, and nothing moves 
the way we have planned, or they become
extremely challenging for us to handle;
we develop negative feelings, and lose faith
in ourselves and our life.

Finding faith in yourself is absolutely critical.
Faith is that firmly held feeling you have
deep inside, that everything will improve
sooner or later.

In order for you to have a successful living
in any way, you need to have faith.
Because without it, you could never expect
circumstances in your life to go well.

Faith is the basis for your entire existence.
If you have faith in yourself, you can achieve
anything you put in your mind;
and even if you fail, you will still continue
pursuing your goal.

Faith is something deep-rooted inside us;
and without it, we would be an empty nobody.


Mental Analysis

The reasons for having faith are the following:

   Faith makes people powerful;
it gives them strength and courage in difficult
times, and helps them surpass all challenges
they have to face.

   Faith fills peoples’ heart and mind with
wealth and prosperity, so they can live a
rich life.

   Faith navigates people through life, and
helps them find their purpose, and move forward.

*     Faith removes worry, anxiety and fear, and
makes people hope that better things are on the
way for them.

   Faith assists, encourages and supports people
to find the best solutions to their problems, troubles
and difficulties, and succeed in their life.


Trees on a sunny sky


All Sewn Up


Here are some simple ways to help you start
having faith, and believe in yourself.

a)     List all your past accomplishments and
successes, big or small.
This will make you feel happy, and have faith
in yourself.

b)     Find your passions, set your goals short term
or long term, and work hard towards achieving
them, no matter what else happens.

c)     Associate only with similarly thinking,
encouraging and positive people, with whom
you can communicate and feel good.

d)      Accept skepticism, because situations
change continuously, and problems can arise
any time;    and always reconnect with your
faith, hope and belief in yourself.

e)    Know exactly who you are, what you 
want, and where you are going.
Have your purpose, and always live only
your own life.

f)     Listen to motivating music and read
inspirational books.
Doing these will increase your faith to yourself.

g)     Be brave, take risks, and face challenges
and problems in your life.
Question and confront other people, and say
“No” without fear.

h)     Do not hesitate, and never postpone doing
your tasks.
Just finish them, one at a time as quickly as 
possible, and move on.

i)     Look after yourself and your hygiene.
Exercise daily, eat healthy, sleep well at night,
take time to relax, and keep your house tidy
clean and pleasant for you.

j)     Think positively, attain new skills according
to your interests, and help other people as

k)     Dress strongly, sit up straight, walk tall,
and look people in the eyes when you talk.

l)     Visualise yourself flourishing, and be kind,
proud and loving to yourself.




Dead Certainty


As soon as you notice that your circumstances
are not going the right way for you, immediately
realise that you, yourself, are more important
and more powerful than your circumstances.
Then move forward with confidence.

Having faith in yourself, and your ability to
handle whatever happens in your life, will
help you accomplish a lot;
as well as realising your dreams, your greater
purpose, and your life success.

Never allow anything or anybody to make 
you lose your faith.
Trust and believe in yourself.
Stand up, feel confident and enjoy all the
little things in life.

Live an achieved and satisfied life.





Clean Lines!


Hi there!


Manifest plainness,
Embrace simplicity,
Reduce selfishness,
Have few desires “.

Lao Tzu
604 BC  –  531 BC

Beauty of style, and harmony,
and grace, and good rhythm,
depend on simplicity .

427 BC  –  347 BC

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication .

Leonardo Da Vinci
1452  –  1519


Rose in a glass


Get Down To Basics


Our every day life gets chaotic due to the
many responsibilities, obligations and
other commitments we have to
attend to.

Although being extremely busy can be very
appealing and enhances your living, at the
same time, being continuously occupied can
led to constant stress and total confusion.

Eventually, you will be seriously affected,
overpowered and frustrated.
Simplifying your life, and focusing only on
the fundamentals will help you feel more
relaxed, balanced, happy and free.

Indeed, simple life means different things
to different people.
But basically, it means to eliminate your
physical and mental clutter;
so that you can
enjoy all the valuable things
that are important
to you, and you want to
pursue in your life.

Living a simple life is not easy;    but it does
not need to be complicated either.
Certainly, simplifying your life is a long
process    and
sometimes very difficult.

Not only you need to take full responsibility
of your own issues, but also you need to be
willing to work hard to succeed.
Definitely at the end you will be greatly


Sun tree line


Put In A Nutshell


Remember that in order to simplify your
you just need to recognise and determine
are the most important things that
matter to
you, and get rid of everything else.

So, here is the guide for you to follow:

1)     Make a list of the five (5) most valuable
goals in your life, that you really want to

2)     Consider carefully all your personal and
professional commitments and responsibilities,
as well as the length of time you spend on them.

3)     Prioritise all your obligations focusing
only on the most important ones, and discarding
all the rest.

4)     Limit the time you spend talking with the
various people like, family, friends and
either this is in person, on the telephone or
over the internet.
Also reduce the time you are watching television.

5)     Remove all unnecessary, useless and unused
items from your house.
Clear all your wardrobes, cupboards, drawers,
shelves and tables, and keep all the surfaces
Also clear all your digital clutter, on your computer
and your telephone.

6)     Avoid buying unnecessary items.
Focus and buy only what you actually need and
use like, clothes, shoes and food stuffs.
Learn to want less, and decide to start saving
for various emergencies.

7)     Slow down;    perform all your tasks in a
slow pace, eat slowly, drive slowly, do your house
work slowly, and live in the moment.

8)     Establish morning and evening routines,
and try to follow them exactly.
Do one thing at a time, and concentrate on it.


Truth is ever to be found in the simplicity,
and not in the multiplicity and confusion
of things .

Isaac Newton
1643  –  1727


Red N Yellow Flower


9)     Consider downsizing;    buy a smaller,
and comfortable house, and a smaller car.
Cancel any magazine or newspaper subscriptions,
including your cable television and your gym

Cook your own food at home.

10)   Eat only healthful foods, exercise regularly,
and detach yourself from all stressful people
and situations.
Feel relaxed and peaceful.

11)   Be creative;    write, design, paint, draw,
and dance.
Have fewer goals, and enjoy the small and
simple things in life.

12)   Be organised;    your finances like, having
one bank and fewer accounts  —  perhaps one
current and a few savings (one instant and the
rest in time deposits), as well as one credit card.

13)   Eliminate all people who make you feel
stressed and under pressure;    learn to say NO.
Learn to concentrate only on the things that
really matter to you.

14)   Have a positive mental attitude, do not
or look for perfection.
Feel really grateful for all the good things you
in your life, and do accept yourself as
you are.

15)   Place some indoor plants in your house.
Not only these will detoxify the air you breathe,
but also create a calm, serene and
soothing atmosphere for you to enjoy.

16)   Find inner simplicity by meditating,
daydreaming, praying to a higher power,
spending time alone with yourself in nature,
or even by keeping a daily diary.


There is no greatness where there is not
goodness and truth .

Leo Tolstoy
1828  –  1910


Remember that in order for all the above
actions to work, you must be persistent,
them regularly, and make them
your habits.

Simplicity is something mysterious and evasive;
but it is always nearby.
You just need to know where and how to search
for it.

Practice continuously!!





Hi there!


Cat was a very busy woman in her thirties.
Her biggest dream was to become successful
in her career and make a lot of money.

So she was working flat out all day and every 
day, without ever stopping.
This made her feel exhausted, agitated and left
her no time at all to live her personal life.

Then one day, I feel so tired and unhappy.
I don’t really want to spend all my best years
pursuing my career.
I do need to reconsider my purpose before
it’s too late , she thought feeling worried.

She sat down and made a long list of all the 
things that mattered to her, and sworn to give
priority to her personal goals from now on;
and pursue her career accordingly.


Loving Couple


Master Sculptor


For the majority of people, life has no specific
purpose and meaning.
They just eat, sleep, go to work, get married,
have children, grow old, get sick and finally die.

This is only because these are the things you 
were told, and experienced since you were a
child, by all the people around you.

Consequently, you feel an obligation to continue
the same pattern, because these are all the things
you know.

You are even afraid, that if you do not live up to
other people’s expectations you will suffer
unpleasant consequences.

Yet, we all have a purpose in life    and it is,
the message we wish to give to our world.
This is our first step to a more meaningful and
enlightened life.
Having a purpose gives you motivation and passion
to succeed in your goals and enjoy a overall happy
and satisfied life.

No matter what you  believe, there actually is a
real reason of your existence;
and you should find out what your true purpose
in life is.


In order to do this successfully,


  the first step you need to take is to clear completely
your mind of
all previous conditioning.

   Then you need to search your soul, to reflect and

   Finally you should start taking the necessary steps
towards all the things you want, in order to become
a superior being.

The purpose you will discover will guide you through
your future life.


Waterfall Fountain


Great Performance


The following fundamentals will manifest your

1)     It should express your real interests, and who
you are as a person.

2)     It should be satisfying and pleasing to you.

3)     It should be relating specifically to general

4)     It should be guided only by positive emotions
from your heart, and not negativity in any way.


*   Also, consider the following when you try to find
your purpose:

a)     It may be a little tricky and not very obvious
to find at the beginning.
Just continue following the above four fundamentals
and you will find it eventually.

b)     Your life experiences until now and your
overall awareness will play a very big part in your
quest;    so the most extensive they are the best
and easiest it will be for you to find your purpose.

c)     Always remember to enjoy the trip no matter
how easy or difficult it is.


*    So now, here is what you need to do:

I)       Set one hour aside to be completely undisturbed.

II)      Take a clear piece of paper and pen.

III)     Ask yourself, what is your purpose.

IV)      Start writing down every answer that comes 
to your mind.

V)       Keep on writing everything;
from physical conveniences to spiritual interests.

VI)      At some point you will be writing answers
that will make you feel more excited, moved and

VII)     Choose the one that is causing you the strongest
At this point you will have found your purpose.


N o t e :


Another fast way to find your purpose, without even
thinking about it, is the following:

Every single day, and for the next four months, keep
a diary of all your thoughts, feelings and actions.

At the end of that period, read all your entries carefully.
Certainly, at this time, you will be able to find your purpose.

Remember that, depending on your age, your newly
found purpose will evolve.


Tree on The Lawn


Walk Of Life


Now that you have found your life purpose, 
the next step is to write a short statement, defining
this purpose together with the main focus in
action;    so every time you read it to feel eager 
and alive.

It is possible that, at this point, you may need 
to change a number of things in your current
life in order to fit your new passion.
Be strong and fearless, and pursue your mission
full of enthusiasm and excitement.

Now that you have discovered your purpose,
become the new you without any hesitation;
because nothing in life is permanent.
In time, everything dies out and replaced with
something different.

Although going after your passion may be very
difficult at the beginning, if you have a good
plan of action, and you live this passion on a
daily basis, you will finally succeed.

Be completely and absolutely involved and
absorbed in your proper living.
Because this is actually the real purpose of 
life    Living !!

E n j o y …..!!






Hi there!


Ed was going through a very tough time.
He had a great career, but that required him
to work sixty or more hours per week;
which not only gave him a lot of stress, but
also prevented him from having a balanced
and happy personal life.

Now he was seriously considering leaving
his top job and becoming an author;
something that would allow him to feel more
relaxed and be in control of his time and life.

Ed was really struggling, being utterly divided
and not knowing at all what to decide.

On the one hand, he had a very well paying
job with possibilities of further promotion;
and on the other he was thinking of an
enjoyable and comfortable lifestyle, but with
very much less money to go around.

How can I make the right decision!
I don’t even know what the best decision would
be for me.
I can’t see the future, so I must decide considering
only the way I feel at the moment, and the life I
want to lead from now on  —  extremely difficult .

He kept on thinking and feeling heavily pressed
and stressed more and more, for some time now ……




Policy Change


Every day in our life we are required to make 
various decisions, either small and simple or
massive and life changing.
Making the right decision is absolutely vital if
we want to live a rewarding and happy life.

The majority of people do not realise that their
decisions have serious repercussions, not only
in their 
own life but many times in the life of others.

The thing is, every single decision you make
in your everyday life, shapes who you are currently
who you will become in the future;
as well as your entire

Your whole life is decided and created by the 
decisions you make;    and this is all about paying
attention to your own intuition and gut feelings,
your knowledge, intelligence and judgement.
All these of course deriving from your personal
life experiences.

For most people, it is very common to use their
imagination, and place themselves into the 
new reality before they decide.
This is happening because they do not have enough
information as well as any personal knowledge
of the 

For major decisions, many individuals decide to
endure various hardships, discomfort and even
suffering in order to discover who they will become
in the future;    while others very well choose
to keep and accept the way of life they currently lead.




The Guilty Parties


Since people have to make decisions every day,
frequently some of these decisions are not
productive, rewarding or beneficial in any way,
due to the following reasons:

1)     Lack of enthusiasm, excitement and passion
about deciding on the specific issue(s).

2)     Fear, concern and doubt about the outcome.

3)     Many complications, obstacles and difficulties
to handle.

4)     Lack of answers and solutions for fixing the
point in question.

Making decisions is a demanding and laborious 
If you decide correctly you will feel free, contented,
happy and in peace in your future life    but it can
be a very complicated process to find the right




Strong As Brandy


If you want to make productive and rewarding big
decisions you will need to take your time and
consider very carefully all your options.
The following steps will help make your decision
process easier:

a)     Understand that your decision will start a chain
of new events to happen.
So be absolutely certain of who you want to be and 
how your life will change.
Have a complete life plan, and visualise yourself in
your future.

b)     First of all, you must follow your clear instinct,
your gut feeling.
Then start examining and evaluating the advantages
and disadvantages of your choices.

c)     If you wish to feel more certain and safe about
your decision, and avoid any problems and mistakes,
do your research and investigation on your choice.

d)     Decide and take all the necessary actions to 
complete and conclude your decision.
You must accomplish your final goal.

e)     Take pleasure in pursuing your decision.
Have fun on the way and savour the process.
Feel positive, motivated, creative, confident and


Colourful Flowers


Magnum Opus


During our life we are required to make huge 
decisions that feel hard and complicated.
Some examples of these life changing decisions are:

   Deciding or Changing Career.
   Selling or Buying a House.
   Getting Married and having Children or not.
*     Changing Country of Residence.

Also, there are some points to consider when making
any decision:

a)     There is never a guarantee that your final 
decision will be the most correct one;
which means that there will always be a risk,
and you should always be prepared for it.

b)     Many decisions can be changed if they prove
to be wrong or unsuitable.
Consequently, you must view this failure as an
opportunity to learn and experience new things.

c)     Do not ever doubt and question your final
Once you have made up your mind, you must
follow it through and experience the journey
no matter what happens at the end.


Sunny Sky


Innate Knowledge


Never ignore or underestimate your intuition.
This inner voice is extremely important to guide 
you in the right direction.

Your instinct connects your subconscious with
your conscious mind, and makes it possible for 
you to figure out, foresee and visualise a specific
situation in your life.

By following your intuition you will be able to
make superior decisions and enjoy a better way
of life.
If you feel the need to develop more this excellent
of knowledge you have, then the following
suggestions will help you:

1)    Seek silence and empty your mind.
Listen only to your inner guide;    notice messages
and understand feelings and emotions you

2)     Gradually and with daily practice you will
learn to believe and feel confident about it.

3)     Now that you have started trusting your gut
feeling, pay complete attention to it in order to
fully comprehend all the hints and messages it
is sending to you.

4)     Every night before you sleep, reflect on all
your daily issues and let your subconscious find 
the solutions you need.

Always remember to notice, observe and listen 
to everything that is taking place around you
every day.

This will give your subconscious much more 
information to enable it to find the best and
right solutions for you, as necessary.

Develop this extremely useful skill and enjoy
all the benefits it has to offer you.

Good Luck!!





Hi there!


During the Paleozoic era, in the Devonian period,
around 370 million years ago, the first amphibians
developed from the bony fish,  whose fins evolved
into extremities.
These creatures were able to live in the water, and
on land as well.

Later on, in the Carboniferous period, around 310
million years ago, the first reptiles evolved from 
the most dominant amphibians.
These reptiles were very primitive, and small lizard
type animals.

Since then and until now, the lizards still have a primeval
brain, which is only concerned with instinctual




The Reptilian Brain


The amygdalae ( Greek for almonds ), are two almond
shaped groups of neurons located deep in the temporal
lobe of our brain.
Their main concern is,  (a)  basic survival instincts like:
body growth and maintenance, food, reproduction and
fight-flight-freeze;   and  (b)  emotions like:   
fear, anger, memory and pleasure.

This is the most primitive part of our brain  —  and
although it has been developing for almost 280 million
years, it is still similar to the total brain of a Lizard, as
far as its capacity and perception are concerned.

Unfortunately, this Lizard brain’s education is still 
based on the many million years of evolution, without
developing and adjusting    and it 
is most irrelevant to
our modern way of life. 

As a consequence, we choose to behave in such primal,
savage and crude ways, that cause us thousands of
problems during our life.
Those primitive threats of the past do not exist any more,
for us to react in the same way as those prehistoric times.
Therefore, our survival instinct instead of helping us, it is
doing exactly the opposite    hurting us.

Fear, one of the strongest emotions, is an extremely
uncomfortable feeling.
Fear can paralyse you by triggering the fight or flight
response, and actually make you ill.


Wild Waves


Come Out On Top


The physical feelings of fear are very scary, because
your Lizard brain keeps on sending danger signals
to your body;    even though you, yourself, can see that 
there is nothing life threatening, and your fear is 
obviously out of balance.

So you do need to use mental and physical ways to 
overcome this extremely disturbing feeling:


M o d u s


a)     Realise that fear is only a primeval feeling 
that exists merely to save your life    and most 
likely you are not in a life threatening situation.
Therefore, do not give it any priority, and dissociate
yourself from it.

b)     Decide whether your fear is justified and valuable
in any way at all, or you are simply disrupting and
obstructing yourself from succeeding in your goals.

c)      Know  deeply within yourself that you really are
of handling everything;   and do trust yourself.

d)     Recognise that when you take decisions with 
the attitude of  just in case , this again is your fear
disguised as protection.
So refrain from any Just In Case resolutions.

e)     Ask for spiritual guidance to assist you in fighting
your fear.
This will make you feel connected to an entity that
is greater than yourself.

f)     Always, try to surround yourself only with brave
and courageous 
people, who can make you feel positive,
strong and inspired.

g)     Always, try to stay active and exercise on a daily 
basis to take your mind away from your fears.




Bring To Pass


Overcoming your fears is very difficult and challenging;
but when you have finally managed to conquer them,
you will immediately feel relieved and free.

Defeating fear is a skill.
Learn it well, in order to live a peaceful, successful and
happy life.

” Men are not afraid of things, but of how they view them ”
  Epictetus   c. 55 AD  –  AD 135

” There is no illusion greater than fear ”
Lao-Tzu    6th – 5th century BCE  –  531 BCE




The Companion!


Hi there!


It was Saturday evening, and she had already
started feeling restless, and so stressed to the point
of experiencing anxiety.

In a few hours she was going to meet him for the
first time;   and although she was so nervous, at
the same time she was feeling very excited to meet
that attractive man.

She double checked that everything was perfect on
her, and decided to start early enough because she did
not want to arrive feeling breathless.

She was mostly concerned whether the date would
go well or poorly;   but she managed to keep herself
under control at the end.

Arriving at the meeting place though, she was already
having jittery feelings and various sensations in her
body;   entering the café she noticed her palms were
extremely sweaty.

She ordered a drink, tried to think positively and
relax as much as possible.
The fun was starting now ……


Rocky Shore


Power Source


Eu ( meaning good in Greek ) stress is extremely
important for a healthy life.
This is a positive type of stress, either psychological,
like falling in love, or physical, like exercising.

You usually feel this good stress when you are
excited about something new happening in your life.
You perceive it as a positive challenge, and it keeps
you feeling vibrant, energetic and lively.

Consequently, to feel this way, you need to choose
only whatever makes you feel good, pleasant,
satisfied, joyful and happy in general.
At the same time, you do need to eliminate everything
else that has the opposite results.

However, although this good stress is greatly beneficial
to your health, you must make certain that you do
do not experience excessive amounts of it;
because it is still accumulative stress with consequences.

In order to keep all stress in your life under control,
you must change your perception towards it.
You should feel challenged by the situation and not
threatened by it in any way.


Pink Plant


Manna From Heaven


Stress offers a good amount of benefits, as follows:

a)     Motivation

It encourages you to work harder to accomplish
your various tasks, to fulfil your duties and obligations,
and to reach your goals.

b)     Resiliency

It assists in your building up resistance to all future
stressful situations, and helps you adjust better to any
conditions in your life.

c)     Mental Performance

It generates new nerve cells in the brain;
therefore, you perform much more efficiently
in all aspects of your life.

d)     Physical Body Function

It supports the body’s antioxidant and immune
It restores any cellular damage.


The most vital task for you is to keep your stress
under control, so that it does not become harmful.
In order to get all the health benefits, your stress
should be in short bursts  —  not for long periods
or chronic.


Rocks and Blue Sea


Primum Mobile


It is very important to get enough good stress in
your life to keep you motivated and full of spark.
Here are some ways to achieve this:

1)     Develop hobbies to provide you with meaning,
fun and pleasure like;
Photography, Painting, Studying and Writing.

2)     Set goals to feel pleased, satisfied and happy like;
Removing clutter from your home, Organising your time and
Looking after yourself  ( diet, exercise, sleep ).

3)     Develop relationships, maintain your sense of
humour and have fun.

4)     Embrace all situations that cause short term
stress like;
Going on a first date, Attending a celebration, Giving
a speech, Riding a roller coaster.

5)     Train your brain to view stress positively, and
find ways to use it to your advantage.

6)     Attach a purpose to a stressful situation in order
to see its benefits and handle it properly and efficiently.


Remember that brief episodes of stress, with time of
recovery in between, are extremely beneficial to
your health.

Make stress your friend, and accept it as part of your
life’s journey.







Hi there!


Bo was working in his office this afternoon when he
received an email from his colleague asking him for
assistance with his project.

As soon as he read this he felt resentful immediately,
since he knew that on the one hand he wanted to
help him, but on the other this would entail extra
time and effort for him.

Thinking more about it, he did not want to accept
this obligation, because it meant he would have to
stay in the office late, and neglect part of his own

I have no reason to accept this other than being
helpful to a colleague, something which I can’t
afford to do at the moment he thought.

I have to say No to you this time, because I’m
extremely busy at present and I have no time
to spare for more work.
But I can recommend Jos to you, who will be pleased
to help you with your project .

Bo decided, and replied to his colleague without any
further delay.

Immediately he felt relieved and ready to continue
with his own business.


Yellow Flowers


Will Power


Most people dislike to say NO because they want to
help and be nice to the other person.
But saying yes all or most of the time entails a lot
of unpleasant consequences like,
    loss of valuable time,
    waste a huge amount of mental energy,
*     a great amount of pressure.

All of these result in physical and mental exhaustion.
Yet people find it so very hard to say NO.
This is happening because of many reasons like,
*     they want to avoid any arguments,
*     they want to be polite,
*     they want to fit in with the others,
*     they want to maintain good relationships,
*     they feel guilty if they do not help.

But if you really want to create your own life and
pursue your goals, you do need to be in full
control of all situations around you.

Learning to say NO is the greatest reward you can
give to yourself.
In order to be able to do so, you will need to become
decisive, confident and assertive  —  but at the same
time you must be calm and polite.

Being assertive means you must convey your message,
and at the same time to listen to the other person.
It means sharing and appreciating others.

When you manage this you will increase your
self-confidence, you will become more understanding,
you will improve your self-image and finally you
will achieve very much more.


Red Leafs


Primary Element


Before you decide and turn down any demands
and requests from other people, you need to
evaluate the situation.

Here are the steps you need to take:

a)     Take your time to think all requests made on
you before giving any answer.
Say you will let them know as soon as possible.
Study the demands and make certain they will
fit your own obligations and commitments.

b)     Analyze your priorities, and decide whether
the new engagement is of any significance, relevance
or magnitude to you.
If you find it is of no consequence to you, just ignore it.

c)     Consider the time length the new engagement
will need to be completed.
If it is long term, disregard it, because it will be adding
more stress on you.

d)     Refuse immediately any demand or request,
which makes you feel guilty if you do not do it.
If you accept something under these circumstances
you will feel pressed, stressed, anxious and eventually
really sick.




Guiding Light


There is no perfect way to say NO, and there is also no
way you can ever control the other person’s feelings
and reactions.

The following advice is how to do this best:

a)     Know your value as a person and have the right
attitude, independence and energy.

b)     Stand in a power pose, look calm and assertive,
and be fast and polite.

c)     Communicate your NO decision clearly and firmly,
using simple words.
Do not complicate and over-explain things.

d)     Offer an alternative solution to show your good
will and to meet half way.

e)     If at all possible and you really want to help,
offer a lesser commitment.

Do not forget, you are responsible only for
and not for any other person’s feelings
and actions
towards you.

Nothing is perfect, including humans.
Use any criticism for your own growth.

Remember, you can not please everybody.
Never lose your self-worth.

Enjoy the long term benefits of saying NO.