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Hi there!


Cat was a very busy woman in her thirties.
Her biggest dream was to become successful
in her career and make a lot of money.

So she was working flat out all day and every 
day, without ever stopping.
This made her feel exhausted, agitated and left
her no time at all to live her personal life.

Then one day, I feel so tired and unhappy.
I don’t really want to spend all my best years
pursuing my career.
I do need to reconsider my purpose before
it’s too late , she thought feeling worried.

She sat down and made a long list of all the 
things that mattered to her, and sworn to give
priority to her personal goals from now on;
and pursue her career accordingly.


Loving Couple


Master Sculptor


For the majority of people, life has no specific
purpose and meaning.
They just eat, sleep, go to work, get married,
have children, grow old, get sick and finally die.

This is only because these are the things you 
were told, and experienced since you were a
child, by all the people around you.

Consequently, you feel an obligation to continue
the same pattern, because these are all the things
you know.

You are even afraid, that if you do not live up to
other people’s expectations you will suffer
unpleasant consequences.

Yet, we all have a purpose in life    and it is,
the message we wish to give to our world.
This is our first step to a more meaningful and
enlightened life.
Having a purpose gives you motivation and passion
to succeed in your goals and enjoy a overall happy
and satisfied life.

No matter what you  believe, there actually is a
real reason of your existence;
and you should find out what your true purpose
in life is.


In order to do this successfully,


  the first step you need to take is to clear completely
your mind of
all previous conditioning.

   Then you need to search your soul, to reflect and

   Finally you should start taking the necessary steps
towards all the things you want, in order to become
a superior being.

The purpose you will discover will guide you through
your future life.


Waterfall Fountain


Great Performance


The following fundamentals will manifest your

1)     It should express your real interests, and who
you are as a person.

2)     It should be satisfying and pleasing to you.

3)     It should be relating specifically to general

4)     It should be guided only by positive emotions
from your heart, and not negativity in any way.


*   Also, consider the following when you try to find
your purpose:

a)     It may be a little tricky and not very obvious
to find at the beginning.
Just continue following the above four fundamentals
and you will find it eventually.

b)     Your life experiences until now and your
overall awareness will play a very big part in your
quest;    so the most extensive they are the best
and easiest it will be for you to find your purpose.

c)     Always remember to enjoy the trip no matter
how easy or difficult it is.


*    So now, here is what you need to do:

I)       Set one hour aside to be completely undisturbed.

II)      Take a clear piece of paper and pen.

III)     Ask yourself, what is your purpose.

IV)      Start writing down every answer that comes 
to your mind.

V)       Keep on writing everything;
from physical conveniences to spiritual interests.

VI)      At some point you will be writing answers
that will make you feel more excited, moved and

VII)     Choose the one that is causing you the strongest
At this point you will have found your purpose.


N o t e :


Another fast way to find your purpose, without even
thinking about it, is the following:

Every single day, and for the next four months, keep
a diary of all your thoughts, feelings and actions.

At the end of that period, read all your entries carefully.
Certainly, at this time, you will be able to find your purpose.

Remember that, depending on your age, your newly
found purpose will evolve.


Tree on The Lawn


Walk Of Life


Now that you have found your life purpose, 
the next step is to write a short statement, defining
this purpose together with the main focus in
action;    so every time you read it to feel eager 
and alive.

It is possible that, at this point, you may need 
to change a number of things in your current
life in order to fit your new passion.
Be strong and fearless, and pursue your mission
full of enthusiasm and excitement.

Now that you have discovered your purpose,
become the new you without any hesitation;
because nothing in life is permanent.
In time, everything dies out and replaced with
something different.

Although going after your passion may be very
difficult at the beginning, if you have a good
plan of action, and you live this passion on a
daily basis, you will finally succeed.

Be completely and absolutely involved and
absorbed in your proper living.
Because this is actually the real purpose of 
life    Living !!

E n j o y …..!!







Hi there!


Ed was going through a very tough time.
He had a great career, but that required him
to work sixty or more hours per week;
which not only gave him a lot of stress, but
also prevented him from having a balanced
and happy personal life.

Now he was seriously considering leaving
his top job and becoming an author;
something that would allow him to feel more
relaxed and be in control of his time and life.

Ed was really struggling, being utterly divided
and not knowing at all what to decide.

On the one hand, he had a very well paying
job with possibilities of further promotion;
and on the other he was thinking of an
enjoyable and comfortable lifestyle, but with
very much less money to go around.

How can I make the right decision!
I don’t even know what the best decision would
be for me.
I can’t see the future, so I must decide considering
only the way I feel at the moment, and the life I
want to lead from now on  —  extremely difficult .

He kept on thinking and feeling heavily pressed
and stressed more and more, for some time now ……




Policy Change


Every day in our life we are required to make 
various decisions, either small and simple or
massive and life changing.
Making the right decision is absolutely vital if
we want to live a rewarding and happy life.

The majority of people do not realise that their
decisions have serious repercussions, not only
in their 
own life but many times in the life of others.

The thing is, every single decision you make
in your everyday life, shapes who you are currently
who you will become in the future;
as well as your entire

Your whole life is decided and created by the 
decisions you make;    and this is all about paying
attention to your own intuition and gut feelings,
your knowledge, intelligence and judgement.
All these of course deriving from your personal
life experiences.

For most people, it is very common to use their
imagination, and place themselves into the 
new reality before they decide.
This is happening because they do not have enough
information as well as any personal knowledge
of the 

For major decisions, many individuals decide to
endure various hardships, discomfort and even
suffering in order to discover who they will become
in the future;    while others very well choose
to keep and accept the way of life they currently lead.




The Guilty Parties


Since people have to make decisions every day,
frequently some of these decisions are not
productive, rewarding or beneficial in any way,
due to the following reasons:

1)     Lack of enthusiasm, excitement and passion
about deciding on the specific issue(s).

2)     Fear, concern and doubt about the outcome.

3)     Many complications, obstacles and difficulties
to handle.

4)     Lack of answers and solutions for fixing the
point in question.

Making decisions is a demanding and laborious 
If you decide correctly you will feel free, contented,
happy and in peace in your future life    but it can
be a very complicated process to find the right




Strong As Brandy


If you want to make productive and rewarding big
decisions you will need to take your time and
consider very carefully all your options.
The following steps will help make your decision
process easier:

a)     Understand that your decision will start a chain
of new events to happen.
So be absolutely certain of who you want to be and 
how your life will change.
Have a complete life plan, and visualise yourself in
your future.

b)     First of all, you must follow your clear instinct,
your gut feeling.
Then start examining and evaluating the advantages
and disadvantages of your choices.

c)     If you wish to feel more certain and safe about
your decision, and avoid any problems and mistakes,
do your research and investigation on your choice.

d)     Decide and take all the necessary actions to 
complete and conclude your decision.
You must accomplish your final goal.

e)     Take pleasure in pursuing your decision.
Have fun on the way and savour the process.
Feel positive, motivated, creative, confident and


Colourful Flowers


Magnum Opus


During our life we are required to make huge 
decisions that feel hard and complicated.
Some examples of these life changing decisions are:

   Deciding or Changing Career.
   Selling or Buying a House.
   Getting Married and having Children or not.
*     Changing Country of Residence.

Also, there are some points to consider when making
any decision:

a)     There is never a guarantee that your final 
decision will be the most correct one;
which means that there will always be a risk,
and you should always be prepared for it.

b)     Many decisions can be changed if they prove
to be wrong or unsuitable.
Consequently, you must view this failure as an
opportunity to learn and experience new things.

c)     Do not ever doubt and question your final
Once you have made up your mind, you must
follow it through and experience the journey
no matter what happens at the end.


Sunny Sky


Innate Knowledge


Never ignore or underestimate your intuition.
This inner voice is extremely important to guide 
you in the right direction.

Your instinct connects your subconscious with
your conscious mind, and makes it possible for 
you to figure out, foresee and visualise a specific
situation in your life.

By following your intuition you will be able to
make superior decisions and enjoy a better way
of life.
If you feel the need to develop more this excellent
of knowledge you have, then the following
suggestions will help you:

1)    Seek silence and empty your mind.
Listen only to your inner guide;    notice messages
and understand feelings and emotions you

2)     Gradually and with daily practice you will
learn to believe and feel confident about it.

3)     Now that you have started trusting your gut
feeling, pay complete attention to it in order to
fully comprehend all the hints and messages it
is sending to you.

4)     Every night before you sleep, reflect on all
your daily issues and let your subconscious find 
the solutions you need.

Always remember to notice, observe and listen 
to everything that is taking place around you
every day.

This will give your subconscious much more 
information to enable it to find the best and
right solutions for you, as necessary.

Develop this extremely useful skill and enjoy
all the benefits it has to offer you.

Good Luck!!





Hi there!


During the Paleozoic era, in the Devonian period,
around 370 million years ago, the first amphibians
developed from the bony fish,  whose fins evolved
into extremities.
These creatures were able to live in the water, and
on land as well.

Later on, in the Carboniferous period, around 310
million years ago, the first reptiles evolved from 
the most dominant amphibians.
These reptiles were very primitive, and small lizard
type animals.

Since then and until now, the lizards still have a primeval
brain, which is only concerned with instinctual




The Reptilian Brain


The amygdalae ( Greek for almonds ), are two almond
shaped groups of neurons located deep in the temporal
lobe of our brain.
Their main concern is,  (a)  basic survival instincts like:
body growth and maintenance, food, reproduction and
fight-flight-freeze;   and  (b)  emotions like:   
fear, anger, memory and pleasure.

This is the most primitive part of our brain  —  and
although it has been developing for almost 280 million
years, it is still similar to the total brain of a Lizard, as
far as its capacity and perception are concerned.

Unfortunately, this Lizard brain’s education is still 
based on the many million years of evolution, without
developing and adjusting    and it 
is most irrelevant to
our modern way of life. 

As a consequence, we choose to behave in such primal,
savage and crude ways, that cause us thousands of
problems during our life.
Those primitive threats of the past do not exist any more,
for us to react in the same way as those prehistoric times.
Therefore, our survival instinct instead of helping us, it is
doing exactly the opposite    hurting us.

Fear, one of the strongest emotions, is an extremely
uncomfortable feeling.
Fear can paralyse you by triggering the fight or flight
response, and actually make you ill.


Wild Waves


Come Out On Top


The physical feelings of fear are very scary, because
your Lizard brain keeps on sending danger signals
to your body;    even though you, yourself, can see that 
there is nothing life threatening, and your fear is 
obviously out of balance.

So you do need to use mental and physical ways to 
overcome this extremely disturbing feeling:


M o d u s


a)     Realise that fear is only a primeval feeling 
that exists merely to save your life    and most 
likely you are not in a life threatening situation.
Therefore, do not give it any priority, and dissociate
yourself from it.

b)     Decide whether your fear is justified and valuable
in any way at all, or you are simply disrupting and
obstructing yourself from succeeding in your goals.

c)      Know  deeply within yourself that you really are
of handling everything;   and do trust yourself.

d)     Recognise that when you take decisions with 
the attitude of  just in case , this again is your fear
disguised as protection.
So refrain from any Just In Case resolutions.

e)     Ask for spiritual guidance to assist you in fighting
your fear.
This will make you feel connected to an entity that
is greater than yourself.

f)     Always, try to surround yourself only with brave
and courageous 
people, who can make you feel positive,
strong and inspired.

g)     Always, try to stay active and exercise on a daily 
basis to take your mind away from your fears.




Bring To Pass


Overcoming your fears is very difficult and challenging;
but when you have finally managed to conquer them,
you will immediately feel relieved and free.

Defeating fear is a skill.
Learn it well, in order to live a peaceful, successful and
happy life.

” Men are not afraid of things, but of how they view them ”
  Epictetus   c. 55 AD  –  AD 135

” There is no illusion greater than fear ”
Lao-Tzu    6th – 5th century BCE  –  531 BCE




The Companion!


Hi there!


It was Saturday evening, and she had already
started feeling restless, and so stressed to the point
of experiencing anxiety.

In a few hours she was going to meet him for the
first time;   and although she was so nervous, at
the same time she was feeling very excited to meet
that attractive man.

She double checked that everything was perfect on
her, and decided to start early enough because she did
not want to arrive feeling breathless.

She was mostly concerned whether the date would
go well or poorly;   but she managed to keep herself
under control at the end.

Arriving at the meeting place though, she was already
having jittery feelings and various sensations in her
body;   entering the café she noticed her palms were
extremely sweaty.

She ordered a drink, tried to think positively and
relax as much as possible.
The fun was starting now ……


Rocky Shore


Power Source


Eu ( meaning good in Greek ) stress is extremely
important for a healthy life.
This is a positive type of stress, either psychological,
like falling in love, or physical, like exercising.

You usually feel this good stress when you are
excited about something new happening in your life.
You perceive it as a positive challenge, and it keeps
you feeling vibrant, energetic and lively.

Consequently, to feel this way, you need to choose
only whatever makes you feel good, pleasant,
satisfied, joyful and happy in general.
At the same time, you do need to eliminate everything
else that has the opposite results.

However, although this good stress is greatly beneficial
to your health, you must make certain that you do
do not experience excessive amounts of it;
because it is still accumulative stress with consequences.

In order to keep all stress in your life under control,
you must change your perception towards it.
You should feel challenged by the situation and not
threatened by it in any way.


Pink Plant


Manna From Heaven


Stress offers a good amount of benefits, as follows:

a)     Motivation

It encourages you to work harder to accomplish
your various tasks, to fulfil your duties and obligations,
and to reach your goals.

b)     Resiliency

It assists in your building up resistance to all future
stressful situations, and helps you adjust better to any
conditions in your life.

c)     Mental Performance

It generates new nerve cells in the brain;
therefore, you perform much more efficiently
in all aspects of your life.

d)     Physical Body Function

It supports the body’s antioxidant and immune
It restores any cellular damage.


The most vital task for you is to keep your stress
under control, so that it does not become harmful.
In order to get all the health benefits, your stress
should be in short bursts  —  not for long periods
or chronic.


Rocks and Blue Sea


Primum Mobile


It is very important to get enough good stress in
your life to keep you motivated and full of spark.
Here are some ways to achieve this:

1)     Develop hobbies to provide you with meaning,
fun and pleasure like;
Photography, Painting, Studying and Writing.

2)     Set goals to feel pleased, satisfied and happy like;
Removing clutter from your home, Organising your time and
Looking after yourself  ( diet, exercise, sleep ).

3)     Develop relationships, maintain your sense of
humour and have fun.

4)     Embrace all situations that cause short term
stress like;
Going on a first date, Attending a celebration, Giving
a speech, Riding a roller coaster.

5)     Train your brain to view stress positively, and
find ways to use it to your advantage.

6)     Attach a purpose to a stressful situation in order
to see its benefits and handle it properly and efficiently.


Remember that brief episodes of stress, with time of
recovery in between, are extremely beneficial to
your health.

Make stress your friend, and accept it as part of your
life’s journey.







Hi there!


Bo was working in his office this afternoon when he
received an email from his colleague asking him for
assistance with his project.

As soon as he read this he felt resentful immediately,
since he knew that on the one hand he wanted to
help him, but on the other this would entail extra
time and effort for him.

Thinking more about it, he did not want to accept
this obligation, because it meant he would have to
stay in the office late, and neglect part of his own

I have no reason to accept this other than being
helpful to a colleague, something which I can’t
afford to do at the moment he thought.

I have to say No to you this time, because I’m
extremely busy at present and I have no time
to spare for more work.
But I can recommend Jos to you, who will be pleased
to help you with your project .

Bo decided, and replied to his colleague without any
further delay.

Immediately he felt relieved and ready to continue
with his own business.


Yellow Flowers


Will Power


Most people dislike to say NO because they want to
help and be nice to the other person.
But saying yes all or most of the time entails a lot
of unpleasant consequences like,
    loss of valuable time,
    waste a huge amount of mental energy,
*     a great amount of pressure.

All of these result in physical and mental exhaustion.
Yet people find it so very hard to say NO.
This is happening because of many reasons like,
*     they want to avoid any arguments,
*     they want to be polite,
*     they want to fit in with the others,
*     they want to maintain good relationships,
*     they feel guilty if they do not help.

But if you really want to create your own life and
pursue your goals, you do need to be in full
control of all situations around you.

Learning to say NO is the greatest reward you can
give to yourself.
In order to be able to do so, you will need to become
decisive, confident and assertive  —  but at the same
time you must be calm and polite.

Being assertive means you must convey your message,
and at the same time to listen to the other person.
It means sharing and appreciating others.

When you manage this you will increase your
self-confidence, you will become more understanding,
you will improve your self-image and finally you
will achieve very much more.


Red Leafs


Primary Element


Before you decide and turn down any demands
and requests from other people, you need to
evaluate the situation.

Here are the steps you need to take:

a)     Take your time to think all requests made on
you before giving any answer.
Say you will let them know as soon as possible.
Study the demands and make certain they will
fit your own obligations and commitments.

b)     Analyze your priorities, and decide whether
the new engagement is of any significance, relevance
or magnitude to you.
If you find it is of no consequence to you, just ignore it.

c)     Consider the time length the new engagement
will need to be completed.
If it is long term, disregard it, because it will be adding
more stress on you.

d)     Refuse immediately any demand or request,
which makes you feel guilty if you do not do it.
If you accept something under these circumstances
you will feel pressed, stressed, anxious and eventually
really sick.




Guiding Light


There is no perfect way to say NO, and there is also no
way you can ever control the other person’s feelings
and reactions.

The following advice is how to do this best:

a)     Know your value as a person and have the right
attitude, independence and energy.

b)     Stand in a power pose, look calm and assertive,
and be fast and polite.

c)     Communicate your NO decision clearly and firmly,
using simple words.
Do not complicate and over-explain things.

d)     Offer an alternative solution to show your good
will and to meet half way.

e)     If at all possible and you really want to help,
offer a lesser commitment.

Do not forget, you are responsible only for
and not for any other person’s feelings
and actions
towards you.

Nothing is perfect, including humans.
Use any criticism for your own growth.

Remember, you can not please everybody.
Never lose your self-worth.

Enjoy the long term benefits of saying NO.






Hi there!


Bo had everything he wished in his life:
the perfect job offering him a high income, a couple
of houses and cars to enjoy, a beautiful wife
and a huge bank account.

But Bo was not a happy man, because he was
feeling his control over everything in his life
was very limited.

In his business, he was always trying to make
people work according to the way which would
be acceptable to him.
Obviously, the real world disregarded him, and
his wishes never took place.

When he returned home, he was always struggling
to control his wife’s plans and actions.
Again, to no avail.   She still acted her own ways.

I must change my attitude;   I need to understand
and learn to do my best, and believe that things
will come out all-right .
He said to himself one morning.
Since then his life has changed completely.


Couple next to car


Driver’s Seat


Control happens to all humans instinctively.
But our control and mastery over the majority
of things in life are actually very limited.

For example, your financial situation, your friends,
your family, your job, your health, ageing and dying;
are these all really under your full control?

Certainly not;   because most of these situations can
change very quickly at any time, and others will
come naturally any way.

Most people have a great number of things they
manage in their every day life.
But in reality, there are only very few things, you
can truly control.

Life is very complicated, but if you manage to learn
how to command these
very few things under your
control, not only your
life will improve immediately,
but you will become
a powerful and happy individual.



Motocross Driver


Cause Celebre


Here are four important things that are actually
under your control:

a)     Focus

Prioritize your goals;   all the things that mean
most to you like, family, work, relationships.
Concentrate on making them work as best as
possible for you.

b)     Emotions

Realise that when other people or situations
upset you, this is happening only because you
personally have allowed them to do so.
Choose to keep your thoughts under control,
and you will feel much happier and in peace.

c)     Attitude

Stop being resentful and furious when something
goes wrong.
Instead give your utmost attention and improve
a difficult and demanding situation.

d)     Actions

Stop suffering and accept that you are not in
full control.
Stay committed to your targets, but do not be
attached to the results.
Do the best you can, but stay emotionally detached
because you cannot predict the outcome, and you
will feel angry if things do not come as you have
expected them to.


Luxury Yacht


Over And Above


There are also a few more basic things you can
actually control like,
your breathing, your self-talk and body language,
as well as your diet, exercise and sleep.

Never expect to have full control of everything;
because control is an illusion.

The clever thing to do is, to ignore everything
you can not control;
and  try to understand, learn
and handle well
the things you can.

Focus on your own existence.
Only then you will live your best life ever.

Believe in yourself.


Deja Vu!


Hi there!


Last week Seve celebrated her birthday.
A big new decade was starting;   she was entering
a new era in her life, and 
she had to create her new self.

I’m right on top of everything she said to her
long-time partner.

Everyday is mine to do as I please:   I take good care of
myself by eating healthy and
looking after my appearance;
I go for daily walks, I love and laugh a lot;   I have a mission:
to be creative and help
people like me she continued.

She walked into the bedroom and looked  herself in the
wardrobe mirror    but
she could not see very clearly
without her
glasses anymore.

No matter what happens, I do love myself as I am now,
and I do feel powerful she
thought to herself………




Razzle – Dazzle


Every day we are alive we age.
Women in their 50s and 60s are now more self-confident,
fearless and feel more
secure with themselves.

They know who they are, what they want and certainly
how to dress.

It is a false belief that older women are sexless,
old-fashioned, dull and out of sight.

On the contrary, they are strong, sensual, bold and
glamorous as ever.

In fact a great number of these older women
are now more stylish than when they were young.

They can still have glowing skin and manage
to attract a lot of attention wherever they go,
outshining many younger women.

They are growing cooler with age, and have kept
their enthusiasm and passion for all nice things
including fashion.




Driving Force


It is all about motivation.
How to make the most of your life at the age
you are now:
to be grateful for all your blessings and be true
to yourself;
to be creative and enjoy all things in life.


Basic Steps To Become Motivated


a)     You will need a specific powerful thought
to inspire and encourage you, like
I Am The Master Of My Own Fate “.

b)     Choose and remind yourself the peak moment
when you were doing extraordinary well in your
life, and use this to fuel yourself to feel strong
and powerful now.

c)     Keep your body busy and active.
Go walking in nature and look at the trees and
plants around you.

d)     Be optimistic, think positively about
ageing and love yourself.
Take positive action to achieve your new goals
and make things happen.




Spark Plug


Welcome this next chapter of your life, and
understand that you are entering into a
phase of liberation and total freedom.

You are entering a
period of maturity and
sophistication, a
stage of wisdom and intelligence.

How you age is a personal choice to some
Do not panic or overreact to the
new changes.
Feeling distressed is not
going to help in any way.

Get the hang on the new you and celebrate
Value and cherish your time on
earth, and age
like a fine wine.

You are only as old as you feel. 

Keep saying FORWARD.

Feel young and be stylish forever!