Bo had everything he wished in his life:
the perfect job offering him a high income, a couple
of houses and cars to enjoy, a beautiful wife
and a huge bank account.
But Bo was not a happy man, because he was
feeling his control over everything in his life
was very limited.
In his business, he was always trying to make
people work according to the way which would
be acceptable to him.
Obviously, the real world disregarded him, and
his wishes never took place.
When he returned home, he was always struggling
to control his wife’s plans and actions.
Again, to no avail. She still acted her own ways.
“ I must change my attitude; I need to understand
and learn to do my best, and believe that things
will come out all-right “.
He said to himself one morning.
Since then his life has changed completely.
Control happens to all humans instinctively.
But our control and mastery over the majority
of things in life are actually very limited.
For example, your financial situation, your friends,
your family, your job, your health, ageing and dying;
are these all really under your full control?
Certainly not; because most of these situations can
change very quickly at any time, and others will
come naturally any way.
Most people have a great number of things they
manage in their every day life.
But in reality, there are only very few things, you
can truly control.
Life is very complicated, but if you manage to learn
how to command these very few things under your
control, not only your life will improve immediately,
but you will become a powerful and happy individual.
Here are four important things that are actually
under your control:
Prioritize your goals; all the things that mean
most to you like, family, work, relationships.
Concentrate on making them work as best as
possible for you.
Realise that when other people or situations
upset you, this is happening only because you
personally have allowed them to do so.
Choose to keep your thoughts under control,
and you will feel much happier and in peace.
Stop being resentful and furious when something
Instead give your utmost attention and improve
a difficult and demanding situation.
Stop suffering and accept that you are not in
Stay committed to your targets, but do not be
attached to the results.
Do the best you can, but stay emotionally detached
because you cannot predict the outcome, and you
will feel angry if things do not come as you have
expected them to.
Over And Above
There are also a few more basic things you can
actually control like,
your breathing, your self-talk and body language,
as well as your diet, exercise and sleep.
Never expect to have full control of everything;
because control is an illusion.
The clever thing to do is, to ignore everything
you can not control;
and try to understand, learn and handle well
the things you can.
Focus on your own existence.
Only then you will live your best life ever.
Believe in yourself.