Lin, a forty three year old married woman,
was going through one of the most difficult
and traumatic stages in her life:
she had caught her husband cheating.
Lin was totally devastated;
feeling heartbroken, bitter, resentful, angry
and completely at a loss.
Her pain was so unbearable, that she was
crying every day.
She didn’t have the slightest idea what to do,
and how to handle this shocking situation.
But suddenly one day,
“ I can’t let this terrible event destroy me.
I must fight for me, and my own happiness.
I must accept, honour and trust myself;
I must start loving me again “.
She said to herself out loud, wiping the tears
from her swollen eyes — and promising to
herself that these bitter tears will be the
Plain Brown Wrapper
Consciously determining to accept and love
yourself is the most vital decision you will
ever make in your life — and this will
certainly judge your whole future.
Connecting deeply with yourself is definitely
a tough, long process you have to learn;
and the main way to learn this, is only to be
told and loved by other people in your life.
It is only through your personal relationships
that you will learn to feel safe and secure;
you will free yourself and start appreciating
who you really are.
You will become your own best friend, and you
will finally develop a positive mental attitude
Here are some warning signs that you do need
to learn this process:
1) You always compare yourself to other
2) You constantly feel insecure, afraid,
worried and anxious.
3) You easily accept people hurting you, and
taking advantage of you.
4) You always feel worthless and a failure,
not deserving anything good in life.
5) You constantly need to be together with
6) You never express your feelings and emotions.
The two main reasons it is so hard and difficult
to accept and love yourself, are as follows:
a) Your genetic family.
Most people were raised by parents who never
taught them to appreciate themselves;
because most likely, they themselves were not
taught either, by their own parents before.
b) Culture and Education
Our society’s icons sadly, are based only on
external images like:
status, youth, financial situation, sex appeal,
social connections, and all the same.
As soon as you realise that you must break
all the stereotypes; and be determined and
fearless to do so — only then you will be
able to connect with your inner self and
At the same time, you will also become more
understanding about the other people, as well.
Become self-conscious, acknowledge, appreciate
and love yourself.
You do not need to change anything;
just see and recognise your true self — discover
who you really are.
Summons To Contest
There are some actions you need to take in
order to feel deep love for yourself.
a) Follow your heart, your dreams, your passions
and your own feelings; laugh and feel happy.
b) Do only what makes you personally joyful,
without seeking to impress others or listening to
other people’s opinions; be true to yourself.
c) Establish your own personal position in
the world, without comparing yourself to others.
d) Prioritise what is most important to you,
learn to say No, and distance yourself from all
unsupportive and negative people.
e) Feel confident, courageous and fearless;
and believe in yourself and your abilities.
f) Live in the present moment, educate yourself,
and grow as a person.
g) Think positively, and be grateful for all the
good things you have in your life.
h) Take good care of yourself, and be organised
with your time, your home and your finances.
i) Be understanding, truthful and forgiving,
not only with yourself but also with the others.
j) Enjoy being alone; relax, read, write, walk
in nature, take photographs.
k) Pay attention to your intuition; your inner
quiet voice will guide your decisions in life.
l) Forget all your old beliefs and negative
situations; just move forward.
m) Connect with a higher power, and fill your
heart with kindness and love.
Sum And Substance
Loving yourself is a healing process; so you
will need to practice the necessary steps in
order to achieve it.
Firstly, you will need to recognise that you are
totally responsible for your own feelings;
you must accept them and learn from them.
Also you will need to explore your true
thinking as well as your exact beliefs.
After having done all these, you can start
researching in order to find the best and most
efficient ways to heal yourself from all previous
Now you are ready to start loving yourself
exactly as you are.
The secret is to be truly aware of your thoughts,
emotions and actions;
your strengths and weaknesses, and accept both.
This is the most vital step for you to take in order
to have a complete, satisfied and happy life.
“ You yourself, as much as anybody in the
entire universe, deserve your love and affection “.
c. 563/480 – c. 483/400 BCE