Tag Archive | Commitment

Backbone!

 

Hi there!

 

Bo was working in his office this afternoon when he
received an email from his colleague asking him for
assistance with his project.

As soon as he read this he felt resentful immediately,
since he knew that on the one hand he wanted to
help him, but on the other this would entail extra
time and effort for him.

Thinking more about it, he did not want to accept
this obligation, because it meant he would have to
stay in the office late, and neglect part of his own
commitments.

I have no reason to accept this other than being
helpful to a colleague, something which I can’t
afford to do at the moment he thought.

I have to say No to you this time, because I’m
extremely busy at present and I have no time
to spare for more work.
But I can recommend Jos to you, who will be pleased
to help you with your project .

Bo decided, and replied to his colleague without any
further delay.

Immediately he felt relieved and ready to continue
with his own business.

 

Yellow Flowers

 

Will Power

 

Most people dislike to say NO because they want to
help and be nice to the other person.
But saying yes all or most of the time entails a lot
of unpleasant consequences like,
    loss of valuable time,
    waste a huge amount of mental energy,
*     a great amount of pressure.

All of these result in physical and mental exhaustion.
Yet people find it so very hard to say NO.
This is happening because of many reasons like,
*     they want to avoid any arguments,
*     they want to be polite,
*     they want to fit in with the others,
*     they want to maintain good relationships,
*     they feel guilty if they do not help.

But if you really want to create your own life and
pursue your goals, you do need to be in full
control of all situations around you.

Learning to say NO is the greatest reward you can
give to yourself.
In order to be able to do so, you will need to become
decisive, confident and assertive  —  but at the same
time you must be calm and polite.

Being assertive means you must convey your message,
and at the same time to listen to the other person.
It means sharing and appreciating others.

When you manage this you will increase your
self-confidence, you will become more understanding,
you will improve your self-image and finally you
will achieve very much more.

 

Red Leafs

 

Primary Element

 

Before you decide and turn down any demands
and requests from other people, you need to
evaluate the situation.

Here are the steps you need to take:

a)     Take your time to think all requests made on
you before giving any answer.
Say you will let them know as soon as possible.
Study the demands and make certain they will
fit your own obligations and commitments.

b)     Analyze your priorities, and decide whether
the new engagement is of any significance, relevance
or magnitude to you.
If you find it is of no consequence to you, just ignore it.

c)     Consider the time length the new engagement
will need to be completed.
If it is long term, disregard it, because it will be adding
more stress on you.

d)     Refuse immediately any demand or request,
which makes you feel guilty if you do not do it.
If you accept something under these circumstances
you will feel pressed, stressed, anxious and eventually
really sick.

 

Shrubs

 

Guiding Light

 

There is no perfect way to say NO, and there is also no
way you can ever control the other person’s feelings
and reactions.

The following advice is how to do this best:

a)     Know your value as a person and have the right
attitude, independence and energy.

b)     Stand in a power pose, look calm and assertive,
and be fast and polite.

c)     Communicate your NO decision clearly and firmly,
using simple words.
Do not complicate and over-explain things.

d)     Offer an alternative solution to show your good
will and to meet half way.

e)     If at all possible and you really want to help,
offer a lesser commitment.

Do not forget, you are responsible only for
yourself,
and not for any other person’s feelings
and actions
towards you.

Nothing is perfect, including humans.
Use any criticism for your own growth.

Remember, you can not please everybody.
Never lose your self-worth.

Enjoy the long term benefits of saying NO.

 

 

 

Out-And-Out!

 

Hi there!

 

A few years ago I decided to start playing golf.
I went to my nearby club and hired an instructor so
I could learn the game properly.
I was very enthusiastic;   and playing every second
day I improved very quickly.

Suddenly one day,  “what’s wrong with you today?”
he asked me while playing.
“I don’t know, but I don’t feel so excited any more”
I replied, feeling surprised myself.

He suggested different things to bring back my focus
to the game, but I had already
lost my enthusiasm
and concentration.
Every time I was going to the club I was feeling under
pressure and not enjoying
golf any more. 

 I had started feeling really stuck and not able to
throw myself into
the game.
Consequently instead of succeeding in being a competent
golfer, which was my
original thought when I started,
I had failed — which I now regret..!

 

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Whole-Hog

 

Our brains are prone to distraction naturally.
In today’s chaotic and unsettled life our minds are
gliding along without any
difficulty.

In order not to regret over not having done what
we have always wanted in
our life, we must have
thought through
our targets, calculated them
and be
precise.

 Try to stay focused on your goals and do not allow
confusion, interruptions or
any interferences to
lead you astray.

 

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Deep-Rooted

 

Usually our attention is hopping between our
past and the future.
The only way to succeed is to focus our mind in the present.

 Practice the following three principles:

 

1)    Never Look Back:

 

We learn from our experiences and mistakes in the past,
but we do not
live in the past.

 

2)    Never Live In The Future:

 

We look forward to our plans and goals, but we do not
contemplate
tomorrow in order to escape today.

 

3)    Stay In The Present:

 

Concentrate to living now in order to have a better future.
Certainly living only in the present is extremely difficult,
and it needs
complete self-control;   but it definitely is
the only way to have a successful life.

 

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Ever-Present

 

Imagine your life for the next 5 years.
Picture where you want to be, what you need to do,
the people you want
to associate with.
This will help you focus today so it can materialize tomorrow.

Be enthusiastic and excited about your plans and targets.
Be fascinated by them as well as the whole process
to achieve them.

Adopt the following technique to train your mind:

  Commit your attention to a single assignment for
15 minutes, and get rid
of all distractions.
Do become completely engaged with your task.

As soon as you notice your mind starts wandering,
press it immediately to return
to your assignment.
Keep doing this again and again until you finally succeed.

It is only a matter of discipline,and your mind will get used to it.

Try to keep your body still and stay on your chosen path.

  

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Die-Hard

 

Naturally we all want to grow and achieve our dreams.
This is an adventure which should be an enjoyable and pleasant
experience;   not an ordeal and misery.

You can alter your life by changing your attitude and focus.

The starting point is to believe you can change;
then reshape the way
you are looking at various situations.

Be loving, forgiving, grateful and spiritual.

 

 

 

Simplicite!

 

 Hi there!

 

Izzy was living a comfortable middle class flashy life,
in a beautiful house in the
suburbs of this cosmopolitan city.
She had everything she ever wanted — or so she thought.

For a long time now, almost two years, she has been
feeling very stressed.
Every day was a big struggle to stay in control;
and the only therapy she had
found was shopping — and
more
shopping on a daily basis.

Suddenly one morning:  “there has to be a better way of
controlling my anxiety
than this daily waste of time and money”,
she thought.
She decided something needed to change otherwise the
consequences
would be serious soon.

“This is it.  I have to define my values and prioritize
my needs” she thought
decisively.
It was then when she made up her mind to move on with
downsizing all aspects
of her life.  

This included:

her expensive house and car, her designers’ clothes
and shoes her valuable hand made
furniture and
carpets — even this fashionable
neighbourhood she was living.

The journey for a simpler, organised and fulfilling
life had just begun.
She started feeling as if she was taking back the helm of her life.
She decided to sit in the wheel and pursue happiness
instead of appearances!!

 

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Joie De La Vie

 

Life is simple but we do seem to try very hard to make
it so complex
and difficult that it becomes almost impossible
to handle.

People decide to downsize for a variety of reasons:
job stress, life change, more
family time.
It means making a conscious
choice towards a different
lifestyle like,
working from home or developing more
interests or even change country of living. 

You must identify what is important to you and simplify
all parts of your life.
This cutting down will give you peace and harmony,
comfort and well-being, space,
mindfulness, joy and
pleasure, happiness and
freedom to be flexible and independent.

 

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Secret Du Bonheur

 

The following changes will stop the daily suffering.

 

1)     Honesty:   

Always speak the truth.
Avoid negative gossip and do not lie to yourself and
other people.

 

2)     Acceptance: 

Do not deny the reality of any situation;
accept your choices, what
you want and who you are.

 

3)     Communication:   

To be able to communicate with others you have to
listen to what they say.
Use fewer words and speak less.

 

4)     Commitments:   

Do not find excuses to avoid doing things or meeting
other people.
Plan ahead to avoid stress, and only keep the engagements
which are of greater
value to you.   

 

5)     Focus:   

Reduce the number of  your goals for better success,
and
concentrate to finish one task at a time so you
can be productive.

 

6)     Happiness:   

Think about yourself and what matters to you.
Decide what is
important (actions/people) and focus on
your true values.
Find happiness within.

 

7)     Silence:   

Avoid media, and cut down all relationships that
complicate your life and
distract you from your
own development.
Take time with yourself, be confident, true and natural.

 

8)     Control:   

It is impossible to master everything in life.
Just relax and let things
be.
Slow down whatever you do:  cooking,
eating, walking,
talking, driving, so that
you can enjoy the benefits.

 

9)      Clearance:   

Only buy the items you need in your everyday life,
including food, and
eliminate anything unnecessary
(clothes,
accessories, shoes).
This way you will feel
free and satisfied.

 

10)    Downsize:   

Material possessions complicate our life and take our energy.
Sacrifice luxury for freedom.
Have a comfortable home, the size you actually need,
and savour quality of life.

 

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Pleine Conscience

 

A simple life has less worries and responsibilities, and more freedom.
Learn to create a balanced and quiet space in your life and
you will enjoy
priceless benefits like: peace, space, contentment,
awareness,
happiness and personal growth.

Enjoy the simple things.
Whatever the reason there is no better time than the present to
get rid of any excess baggage in every part of your life
and create
space for new opportunities to appear.

 

 

 

Nosce Te Ipsum!

 

Hi there!

 

Habits are automatic behaviours, which we
are used to over the years and hold on to them
in our every day life.

They are our fixed ways of thinking, feeling
and acting daily.

Some of these though, are not very good, so
we may decide to change them.

Changing a habit is not easy;  it takes a lot
of hard work and a serious commitment to
stop doing something we are so used to doing.

Because of this, the majority of people live
their whole lives under the control of external
or internal circumstances.

 

Bright Red

 

Success Story

 

There are specific steps we need to take in order
to be able to break a bad habit.
1)  Recognize the wrong fixation you want to
change.

2)  Take full responsibility for your life, and do not
be a victim.
Imagine your future both ways.

3)  Decide to commit to change this destructive
habit.

4)  Believe in your ability to do anything you put
your mind to.

5)  Track the ruinous habit and find what triggers it.

6)  Stop the addiction by interrupting its pattern.
Replace the empty space with either a fun
or a physical new habit.

7)  Focus on only one bad habit at a time for best
success results.

8)  It takes four weeks to get used to a new habit;
so be patient and consistent.

 

Pinkish

 

Having good habits is the magic secret to living
a really successful life.

Only then we will be in control of our thoughts,
feelings and actions.

The sooner we do it the better, because the older
we are the more difficult it becomes.

 

 

 

 

Ta Panta Rei!

 

 

Hi there!

 

They both stood waiting in the lounge of the terminal.
“When is this air plane due?” she asked anxiously.
“It is landing now;  was delayed an hour” Izy replied.

Passengers started arriving and soon the lobby was
full of people.
Before long she heard the attendant calling her flight.

She now began to feel all physical signs of anxiety.
“I don’t know if I can go through with this” she thought.

Although she was very excited about her new life
abroad, at the same time she was finding it very hard
to separate herself from her familiar way of life,
security and friends.

But she had already decided to give it a go.
“Perhaps this time will be the last” she reminded herself.

 

BoatLeaving Sent

 

The Disruption

 

During our life we meet many people, and sometimes
if the circumstances are right we can develop friendships,
which make us feel good.

Often though, life throws situations which cause people
to have to move away to other cities or even to other
completely different countries.

When distance comes between us and our friends, it
really is very unpleasant and distressing.
Maintaining a long distance relationship requires
conscious hard effort.

It is very difficult and many times impossible, due to
factors like, a completely different way of life, new
obligations and responsibilities, change in the way of
thinking.

 

Fish Taverna _Sent

 

The Preservation

 

A)  Commitment:

Decide to keep your friendship alive even though you
both live in distant cities or countries.
 

B)  Contact:

Try to connect by telephone, text messages and emails
on a regular basis.
 

C)  Communication:

On birthdays and other occasions and holidays send cards
and photographs of yourself to hold the picture active.
 

D)  Visit:

Plan trips once or twice a year and spend time together
to catch up with all the latest.
 

E)  Variety:

From time to time surprise your friend by offering small
gifts either by mail or in person during your visits.

 

FishingBoat Sent

 

It is very challenging to maintain long distance friendships,
but if we try to make the time and put some effort,
it can be rewarding.

Life is hard and difficult, and the world we live in is full
of responsibilities, obligations and continuous stress.
However, it is possible to keep distant relationships active.