“ I don’t love you as if you were a rose of salt, topaz,
or arrow of carnations that propagate fire:
I love you as one loves certain obscure things,
secretly, between the shadow and the soul.
I love you as the plant that doesn’t bloom but carries
the light of those flowers, hidden, within itself,
and thanks to your love the tight aroma that arose
from the earth lives dimly in my body.
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where,
I love you directly without problems or pride:
I love you like this because I don’t know any other way to love,
except in this form in which I am not nor are you,
so close that your hand upon my chest is mine,
so close that your eyes close with my dreams ”.
Cien Sonetos De Amor 1959 Santiago
1904 – 1973
As we all know, nothing in life is perfect;
and the same goes about intimate relationships.
As simple human beings, not only we all make
mistakes, misjudge and misunderstand a
person or a situation; but also we never
appreciate and recognise the worth of what we
have until we have finally lost it.
A strong, loving relationship can make you
feel complete, full of life, happy, contented,
fulfilled and greatly satisfied.
A healthy, stable and lasting relationship is
only based on equality, mutual respect, deep
love and understanding.
You should always treat the other person
as you would want to be treated yourself
Here are the most important characteristics
of an ideal romantic relationship:
a) Both parties are responsible for their
own actions, and always they mean what
b) They are able to communicate about all
issues, and find the best and most suitable
c) They are willing to understand each
other’s opinions and views, and negotiate as
d) They discuss and share all financial
matters between them, and ensure that they
both benefit from all agreements and decisions.
e) They are aware of each other’s needs,
they use humour, and they do many things
together, while maintaining their sense of self
at the same time.
f) They value and respect their relationship,
as well as each other, feeling secure and
comfortable between them.
g) They support, accept and rely on each
and they discuss their thoughts and feelings
in a positive way.
h) They show affection by holding hands,
kissing, and embracing;
and they feel physically connected.
i) They feel strong and optimistic about their
future together, due to their love, friendship,
dedication, commitment and closeness;
in thought, in word and in deed.
j) Certainly they share similar beliefs and
values, and they trust each other fully.
k) They are patient and forgiving, accepting
their mistakes without being selfish.
l) They use kind and affectionate words, as
well as compliments and praises between them
when they speak.
The Key Points
The following are some vital actions for you
to consider, if you want to sustain a happy
and long lasting intimate relationship.
1) You need to appreciate that in order to
have a healthy relationship, you will always
have to work hard and put a lot of effort to it.
2) You certainly have to convey your thoughts
and needs to your partner clearly.
Otherwise he or she will never be able to
understand you, because nobody can guess
what is in anybody else’s mind.
3) Make absolutely clear from the beginning
what you want from your relationship, in
order to avoid any misunderstandings later.
4) You must always recognise that your partner
can not satisfy all your demands;
and you should never press him or her to change
in order to do so.
You will need to accept the reality of the situation
if you want your relationship to be successful.
5) Always expect that sometimes you will
have to negotiate on any differences between your
partner and yourself.
6) Always remember that you do not have to
agree on all issues, in order to show respect,
recognition and appreciation.
Just accept the situation as it presents itself.
7) Always look each other in the eye, and listen
carefully when you talk.
You communicate your love with actions — and
not only words.
You will know that your love is real and lasting
only when you feel safe, secure, confident,
protected, satisfied and totally positive.
Lifelong and eternal love will give meaning to
your life, and make it worth living.