MTJ was going through a rough patch in his life.
He had just become redundant from his powerful
and very well paid job.
He was feeling lost, disappointed, and utterly confused
He really didn’t know what to do, and where to turn.
At the same time, his financial situation was deteriorating
fast, to the point where his credit cards were filling up.
Sleepless nights were the normal thing for him, since
he was constantly thinking what steps to take to save
His future was now totally uncertain, and he couldn’t
take any decisions any more.
He was feeling so heavily distressed that he started
having regular anxiety attacks.
Finally, he managed to start implementing some actions,
to reduce his destructive overthinking and suffering;
at least until he could find a solution to his problems.
Over-thinking comes naturally to most people — and
especially to women, according to studies.
It happens when you feel stressed, worried or anxious
about a certain situation, or when you are faced with
a crisis; and you do need to decide your next steps
Obviously, analyzing your troubles and determining
your course of action is a great thing;
because this will enable you to find the correct solutions
and follow the right path.
The problem starts when you lose control of your
mind, and keep on thinking ad nauseam meaningless
and worthless things, without actually addressing
your issues and difficulties.
This will finally result in negative and irrational
thinking, as well as total misery.
Obsessive thinking is a learnt habit to defend yourself
against troublesome, demanding and challenging
It can be relating to previous mistakes, current life
difficulties, relationship problems, shortage of money,
individual experiences, or various things that can
always go wrong.
It really is an absolutely destructive habit;
because the only thing you see, is negativity in your
past, again negativity in your present and even
more negativity in your future.
You lose courage, confidence and belief in yourself;
you perform very poorly in your every day life;
you do not meet your obligations and responsibilities;
you develop mental and emotional complications;
you suffer from insomnia, tension and restlessness;
you are held back from the life you wanted to live.
Here are the most useful ways to change your
obsessive thinking and free yourself:
a) As soon as you start obsessing about something,
breathe deeply a few times, get up wash your hands
in the sink, and get out of the room walking through the
door and into another area.
b) Immediately try to replace your negative thought
with a positive and more pleasant one;
or say the word STOP to disrupt your thinking.
c) Get out of the house, go for a long walk, or go for
a drive, or go to a gym to exercise, in order to distract
d) Focus on a target, a goal, a hobby or another
activity committing yourself to it completely.
e) Tell yourself that you will be over-thinking only
for a specific time, say 5, 10, 15 minutes;
then forget about it and move on with your tasks.
f) Make a plan about your next steps to solve this
disturbing situation, and write it down to impress on your
mind and make you feel more relieved.
g) Try to see the big picture — how things will be in
the next months to next years.
h) Focus only in the present moment, and discard all
negative thoughts entering your mind.
i) Learn to go with the flow.
Accept that all things happen for a reason, and everything
will work out at the end — and it should.
j) In general, always try to avoid people, places and other
situations that can lead to unnecessary obsessive thinking.
k) Also avoid over-thinking traps like, your bad financial
situation for example; and you should not be calculating
your debts every day and checking your accounts.
l) Keep very active during the day.
This will make your physical body tired, so you can relax
and sleep better later at night.
Your thoughts will shape and form your reality.
As a consequence, you must be extremely careful
of what you are thinking.
Because, if you constantly worry about an issue, either
this is relating to work, health, relationship or any
other situation, you will be increasing your possibilities
of actually suffering that specific issue.
Realize that life is not perfect, neither are humans.
Just be grateful for what you currently have in your
life, and always do your best.
At the same time be patient, because success will
Learn to forgive people; this is the only way to be
in peace, to improve your health, and to uplift
Feeling fearful and stuck are not your reality,
but only your own feelings at the specific time.
Life changes every moment, and you have to
If you do want to create a happy, fulfilling and
successful life, you must live in the present
moment and keep your thoughts under control.
It is only your personal choice to create the
future life you wish, and live peacefully.
Good Luck !!