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Backbone!

 

Hi there!

 

Bo was working in his office this afternoon when he
received an email from his colleague asking him for
assistance with his project.

As soon as he read this he felt resentful immediately,
since he knew that on the one hand he wanted to
help him, but on the other this would entail extra
time and effort for him.

Thinking more about it, he did not want to accept
this obligation, because it meant he would have to
stay in the office late, and neglect part of his own
commitments.

I have no reason to accept this other than being
helpful to a colleague, something which I can’t
afford to do at the moment he thought.

I have to say No to you this time, because I’m
extremely busy at present and I have no time
to spare for more work.
But I can recommend Jos to you, who will be pleased
to help you with your project .

Bo decided, and replied to his colleague without any
further delay.

Immediately he felt relieved and ready to continue
with his own business.

 

Yellow Flowers

 

Will Power

 

Most people dislike to say NO because they want to
help and be nice to the other person.
But saying yes all or most of the time entails a lot
of unpleasant consequences like,
    loss of valuable time,
    waste a huge amount of mental energy,
*     a great amount of pressure.

All of these result in physical and mental exhaustion.
Yet people find it so very hard to say NO.
This is happening because of many reasons like,
*     they want to avoid any arguments,
*     they want to be polite,
*     they want to fit in with the others,
*     they want to maintain good relationships,
*     they feel guilty if they do not help.

But if you really want to create your own life and
pursue your goals, you do need to be in full
control of all situations around you.

Learning to say NO is the greatest reward you can
give to yourself.
In order to be able to do so, you will need to become
decisive, confident and assertive  —  but at the same
time you must be calm and polite.

Being assertive means you must convey your message,
and at the same time to listen to the other person.
It means sharing and appreciating others.

When you manage this you will increase your
self-confidence, you will become more understanding,
you will improve your self-image and finally you
will achieve very much more.

 

Red Leafs

 

Primary Element

 

Before you decide and turn down any demands
and requests from other people, you need to
evaluate the situation.

Here are the steps you need to take:

a)     Take your time to think all requests made on
you before giving any answer.
Say you will let them know as soon as possible.
Study the demands and make certain they will
fit your own obligations and commitments.

b)     Analyze your priorities, and decide whether
the new engagement is of any significance, relevance
or magnitude to you.
If you find it is of no consequence to you, just ignore it.

c)     Consider the time length the new engagement
will need to be completed.
If it is long term, disregard it, because it will be adding
more stress on you.

d)     Refuse immediately any demand or request,
which makes you feel guilty if you do not do it.
If you accept something under these circumstances
you will feel pressed, stressed, anxious and eventually
really sick.

 

Shrubs

 

Guiding Light

 

There is no perfect way to say NO, and there is also no
way you can ever control the other person’s feelings
and reactions.

The following advice is how to do this best:

a)     Know your value as a person and have the right
attitude, independence and energy.

b)     Stand in a power pose, look calm and assertive,
and be fast and polite.

c)     Communicate your NO decision clearly and firmly,
using simple words.
Do not complicate and over-explain things.

d)     Offer an alternative solution to show your good
will and to meet half way.

e)     If at all possible and you really want to help,
offer a lesser commitment.

Do not forget, you are responsible only for
yourself,
and not for any other person’s feelings
and actions
towards you.

Nothing is perfect, including humans.
Use any criticism for your own growth.

Remember, you can not please everybody.
Never lose your self-worth.

Enjoy the long term benefits of saying NO.

 

 

 

Ataxia!

 

Hi there!

 

Matty was an executive manager, working hard
until early evening every day.
He enjoyed a lot of benefits and rewards, but
also plenty of troubles.

There was always something going on in his mind.
That voice inside his head would never become
quite;    all he could hear was his boss reminding
him of his many obligations.

He was feeling overpowered and utterly confused.
His mind was full of clutter that made him 
nervous, agitated, even anxious and unable to focus.

I know I need to find the proper means to fight 
this huge problem I have    and very soon!
he thought one day.
He certainly understood the situation, and he knew
he could be in control of his circumstances.

Finally he took all the necessary steps to change
that troublesome position he was in, and clean
some space in his head.

 

Cloudy Skies

 

Topsy – Turviness

 

The challenging combination of external and
internal demands, as well as your personal
expectations  can cause your mind to clutter
and be confused.

Most people are experiencing this unpleasant 
situation all their life.
They seem to forget that removing all litter from
their mind and heart, is the most important thing
they can do, in order to enjoy a balanced and
peaceful existence.

Their fast moving every day living together with
their survival basics, is full of various 
obligations
at home and at work
;
so they ignore their internal peace.

They fail to remember that if they wish to live a 
meaningful and rich life they will need to achieve
inner peace.

Obviously you can continue holding close to your
heart all emotions, feelings and experiences you 
have been and are going through, only because this
is much easier than clearing them all out.

But keep in mind that although getting rid of your
internal clutter needs you to be brave, fearless,
determined and powerful, this is actually the only
way you can transform your life.

 

Glittering Water

 

Smack In The Middle

 

Follow the below mentioned tips to clear some
of your internal clutter:

a)     Be decisive and solve your problems as soon 
as they arise, so they do not become massive.
If you are not able to find a solution, then accept
that your difficult situation is not a problem, but
a fact of life, which needs to be handled as such.

b)     Discard your desire to control everything and
everybody.
Live your life without demands and requirements
in order to feel free.

c)    Give the greatest gift to yourself :  Forgiveness;
because it is only then that you will feel relieved
and liberated.

d)     Be an optimist, and think positively.
Do not worry about the wrong things around you,
and non existent situations
.

 

Clear Skies

 

e)     Distance yourself from anybody who keeps you
back and brings you down or hurt you.
Doing so, you will grow and evolve.

f)     Eliminate past memories of any kind that do
not contribute anything to your present life.

g)   Prioritize all your responsibilities and set all
daily routine jobs on automatic.
Organize your day so that you can deal with only
one thing at a time.

Mental clutter leads to psychological blockage.

You can not think clearly and focus on the important
things in your life any more.

It is only when you erase this mental confusion that
you will make space for all the things that really
matter to you.

You will then feel healthy, satisfied, cheerful, peaceful
and happy in your life.

Do it now !!

 

 

 

 

Desideratum!

 

Hi there!

 

This morning she woke up feeling very strange.
She wished she could get up every day feeling
excited and with a thirst for life;
but unfortunately
it wasn’t so.

She had no energy and passion for anything;
she had no purpose, not a driving force to guide
her;   she was feeling dead empty.

She sat quietly by the window, closed her eyes
and kept on thinking ……..
there’s definitely a reason for everything in life.
I’m a unique person with my own qualities.
I must reign and control my mind to become successful.
I need to believe in the power within myself and be
determined to do anything necessary to create a
happy future .

She got up and went to the kitchen, put the kettle
on and made some tea.
From now on I’ll be thinking positively and
constructively so that I’m able to support my real
purpose in life she thought decisively.

 

Flowering Plant

 

Sine Qua Non

 

Purpose is a very unique and individual message
to all humans.
Many people believe that there is a reason for
their existence.
Quite a few do know what exactly they want to
do with their life, naturally.

Certainly there are some people who do not believe
that their life has any meaning at all;    they do
not seem to have any purpose for living, either
it is a big one or a small, but they just exist only
because they were born.

Either you believe the one or the other you can
still discover your own personal genuine purpose
in life.
The fact is that if you do not wake up every morning
feeling energetic, excited and full of enthusiasm,
then you are not living your life purpose;
your living is not meaningful and happy.

Living with purpose will help you become a positive,
passionate, driven and authentic person without
wasting your time and energy unnecessarily.
It will help you find the initiative and enthusiasm
to achieve success, and you will be properly
aligned with your life.

 

Rocky Fountain

 

Name Of The Game

 

If your life purpose is not so obvious the
following concepts will assist you to connect:

a)     Sit quietly alone, breathe deeply, connect
with your psyche and picture your life as you would
want it to be.

b)     Consider what you currently do and think of
all the changes you will need to make.

c)     Consult your past achievements, just in case
you notice a consistent pattern to guide you.

d)     Recognise any, if existed at all, guiding
advisers on your route to development and growth.

e)     Assess what you are good at, really enjoy
doing and does reflect the person you truly are.

f)     Consider the people in your life you have
feelings for as well as everything that makes you
genuinely happy.

g)     Fix your life purpose on timeless fundamentals
like, relationships, personal growth, health, success
and spirituality;
as soon as you start feeling excited and passionate
about a single one, identify this as your life purpose.

h)     Make a list of the exact actions you need to take
to reach and fulfil your purpose;
now divide these concrete actions into short, medium
and long term steps to take, and start realizing the
kind of life you want to live.

 

Blue Flowers

 

Straight Stuff

 

The most vital and crucial move, in this process
of finding your life purpose, is to appreciate
and understand that you must empty your
mind of all the wrong dictated and enforced
purposes, you have been told by other people,
and start thinking only for yourself.

Find the strength and courage to clear your
head of all the confusion and social brainwashing
during the previous years.

Consider your purpose as your mission in life,
and avoid any activities that can distract you
from your target.
Only then you will really live a conscious life.

Also, accept that as you grow older you will evolve,
therefore it is obvious that your life purpose will
have to change to reflect this evolvement.

Consequently you will need to review your
mission on a regular basis to make certain that
it always reflects the person you are becoming
as you age as well as your new beliefs.

Find what is important to you    your values
and your principles.
Find the power to create your own destiny.

Have Faith !!

 

 

 

Vir Fortis!

 

Hi there!

 

Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability,
but comes through continuous struggle.
And so we must straighten our backs and work for
our freedom.
A man can’t ride you unless your back is bent .

Martin Luther King. Jr.

The weak can never forgive.
Forgiveness is the attitude of the strong .

Mahatma Gandhi

The depth and strength of a human character are
defined by its moral reserves.
People reveal themselves completely only when
they are thrown out of the customary conditions
of their life, for only then do they have to fall
back on their reserves.

Leonardo Da Vinci

 

Group of trees

 

Nerves Of Steel

 

In these very unsettled and unstable times
we live, we do need to have a very strong mind
to be able to conquer all difficulties and
hurdles in our way.

To be a determined and courageous person
means being so resilient as to handle all life’s
challenges effectively, overcome them and
become more powerful.

Consequently, not only you will need to be
physically and mentally competent but also
to have the necessary reserves to allow you
to face these challenges and win.

A powerful individual needs to have the perfect
combination of intellect, determination,
flexibility, self-discipline, alertness, willpower
and finally guts.

All the above will help you defeat all barriers,
threats as well as various disappointments in
your life    and if you finally manage to cope
with all your problems as they happen, you
will really be a peaceful, pleased, fortunate
and outstanding human being.

 

Spider

 

Part And Parcel

 

Most people wish to be invincible in all aspects
of their life, either it is personal, professional
or family.
The following list of habits will help you become
really a strong human:

a)     Stop worrying about what other people think
and say;   always stay focused and seize opportunities
as they appear.

b)     Be motivated, optimistic, confident, determined,
independent
and believe in yourself;   always do what
you want
by taking calculated risks.

c)     Be persistent and organised;   focus on your goals
and plans, learn from your mistakes and work hard
until you succeed ignoring any setbacks.

d)     Be fearless, courageous and tolerant when things
go wrong;   be responsible for your own actions.

e)     Relax and see things clearly and precisely;   be in
control of your own mind so that you can forge
your destiny.

f)     Keep on learning and educating yourself, because
knowledge is power;   develop hobbies and be
observant and productive.

g)     Exercise daily to improve your body and mind;
listen to motivational music.

h)     Look after your physical and mental health;
adopt a healthful diet.

i)     Take care of your appearance;   dress smartly,
cut your hair, walk and sit tall and talk with confidence.

 

Berry shrub

 

Solid Gold

 

Life is full of challenges and we need to be 
resilient in order to handle them effectively.
If you do not belong to the few people who
are born mentally tough you can learn to be.

*     Never waste your time and energy feeling
sorry for yourself.
   Never allow anybody to make you feel bad
or hurt you.

*     Never complain about situations and
other people.
*     Never rely on others to make you happy
or be afraid to be alone.
*     Never ever do anything you do not want
to do;   just say No.

You need to deal with your problems one at
a time and without letting them affect you in
any way.
Also you need to balance your negative and
positive thoughts in such an efficient way as
not to become overly excited that you do not
control what you say and do, by using logic.

 

Panda

 

World Class

 

Take advantage of any obstacles and turn them
into progress and prosperity.
Change what you can control, accept what you
cannot and be grateful for what you have in
your life.

Eliminate everything that is futile and has no
meaning as well as anything unproductive and
wasteful.
Use your past experiences as a priceless
education, live only in the present moment so
you can see all things as they really are, and
create the best future for yourself.

Take love and give love!
 Live with purpose!
Be strong!

 

 

 

Green Light!

 

Hi there!

 

She was a successful woman happily married
to an attractive man.
For some time now she had started feeling
out of control and anxious about her changing
body, showing real signs of ageing.

I don’t feel old;   I’m not old she exclaimed
one morning.   But she was very disturbed
because she sensed she was losing the battle
to stop the time passing.

I must change the way I view getting older.
I do need to accept it, because this is a battle
I can never win.   I must take control over how
I see myself she thought, looking at her
image in the mirror.

She was maturing fast and feeling very
uncomfortable about it.
Finally, she came to terms with the fact that
her whole body was gradually changing.

I want to believe that my changing body
will carry on serving me so well as it has been
doing until today.   That’s who I am;   I must
value myself on the inside, because I’m not
my external fading appearance she decided
smiling………….

 

Climber on mountain

 

Seal Of Approval

 

Self-acceptance is to acknowledge and trust
all aspects of yourself completely and absolutely.
You need to examine and analyse all parts
of yourself without judging;   you need to be
kind and sympathetic, and finally to appreciate,
like and love yourself positively.

Because it is only then that you will feel totally
peaceful and happy.
If you hold any negative feelings relating to
either other people, behaviours, your
intelligence or your appearance, you need to
investigate them deeply in detail, understand,
forgive and eliminate all negativity from
inside you.

Certainly the key to self-acceptance is your
willingness to recognise and make peace with
all parts of yourself, negative and positive,
which have been sabotaging your life until now.
Otherwise you will never ever reach unconditional
self-acceptance.

 

Purple Flower

 

Rubber Stamp

 

Follow the undermentioned steps to build
self-acceptance:

a)     Decide and be willing to make a U-turn
and enter the world of acceptance.

b)     Make a list including all your negative
thoughts, opinions and beliefs about yourself
and start clearing each item at a time.

c)     Acknowledge all your feelings, accept, respect
and value yourself as you are at this moment.

d)    Decide to be courageous, take risks and
tolerate failure.

e)     Trust yourself and never compare to other
people, but always do your own best.

f)     Recognise that perfection does not exist, so
do not look for it;   just be responsible for yourself
and you will be free.

 

Woman resting

 

Blank Check

 

To honestly accept everything about yourself
is an extremely hard and very active process.
But you have to go through it;    any other way
is self-rejection.

It is absolutely vital to accept and love yourself
for the person you are in order to grow and reach
your utmost capacity.

Develop self-compassion and accept yourself
precisely as you are today regardless of your
imperfections;   carry on becoming better
and better enriching your life every day.

Tout comprendre, c’est tout excuser.

 

 

 

 

 

Masterpiece!

 

Hi there!

 

Pygmalion  :  The mythical sculptor who
carved the statue of a woman that was not
only extremely beautiful and dazzling but
also so utterly lifelike.
He was captured by it and actually fell in love.

He then visited the altar of Aphrodite, the
goddess of love and beauty, and he wished
for a bride exactly the same as his wonderful
statue.

His wish came true.
His incredible statue came alive;    so he
married the woman he had created, and lived
happily ever after.

 

Bright Light Fountain

 

Drawing Power

 

Manifesting is the series of actions we take
to achieve the life we want.
It is bringing our desires to reality.

Every minute of our life we are sending out
our thoughts and hopes, and attracting back
very much alike responses.

Consequently, if our mentality and attitude
are negative we will attract back negativity,
while if they are positive we will invite
positivity;    just like a magnet.

Unfortunately, most people are still living in
darkness and do not realise this;    so they
keep sending the wrong thoughts, and then
they complain that their life is full of problems.

You must understand that all the experiences
you have been through during your life have
been formed by you, and only you;    either
out of ignorance or intentionally.

You are free and able to take charge and
control
your own life and become a worriless
and fearless
human being.
The power of your mind is immensely amazing,
and if you open its potential you will really
enjoy abundance.

 

Skier Jumping

 

Brass Tacks

 

To be effective in attracting all the things
you truly desire in your life you have to train
your mind to focus absolutely on your
dreams  —  one at a time.

You need to rewire your brain to genuinely
believe that anything is possible, so you
can enjoy a glorious and triumphant reality.

T h e     S t e p s

a)     Firstly, you must know exactly what it
is that you want, and you feel extremely
enthusiastic about getting it.

b)     Secondly, you need to sincerely believe
that your desire has already happened.
Visualize and feel everything in detail.

c)     Thirdly, you must become an active
player in the pursuit of your goal on a daily
basis until it happens.
You can use any means like:    imagination,
thought, pray, gratefulness, affirmation,
writing, as well as taking physical actions.

d)     Fourthly, be patient because things do
not happen immediately.
Have faith, surrender to the universe, and
eventually it will happen.

 

Bumblebee on Flower

 

Grand Slam

 

Cosmos is energy    you are made of
energy    your thoughts are energy;
and your thoughts can materialize.

Some examples for you to consider:

    Positive thoughts of wellness will
maintain you in good health.

*     Feeling really grateful for what you
already have in your life will bring you
more of the same.

*     Focusing only on the good qualities
of your partner will help you experience
only these good things.

Discover the enormous power of your
mind, and create your own future.