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Esprit!

 

Hello!

 

Sao woke up this morning with a heavy and dark
negative feeling.

Her eyes were unwilling to open, her mouth and
lips were as dry as dessert sand,
and her body
completely unmotivated to move at all.

Although she had an extremely busy day in front
of 
her, her mind was dull and flat, and she knew
her whole 
body was absolutely unfit to be seen
anywhere.

She was feeling very irritable, resentful and
generally in a
bad mood.
I must try to feel more positive and get my
energy 
back.
I’ve so many jobs to do today, and I don’t

feel alive in any way to pursue them.

She thought, while putting a huge amount of
effort 
to try and get out of her bed ……

 

Flowers

 

Out – And – Out

 

Your thoughts create your emotions.
So, the way you think and feel will shape the
course of your actions
.

So if you wake up worried, concerned and
frightened about your daily obligations and
commitments, your whole
day will be another
stressful experience.

In order to be in control of your thoughts, every
morning when you wake up ask yourself a few
powerful questions like,

What can I do today to make this new day
amazing 
for me?,
or

What do I have to look forward to this new day?,
or

What are the things I am grateful for in my life?“.

These questions will put your mind in to a positive
and happy mode for the rest of the day.

But you know by now that you are in full control
of your thoughts.
Consequently, you have the 
choice to begin
your day feeling positive and
full of energy to
face your day’s challenges.

 

Flowering Bush

 

Hot Leads

 

Follow the mentioned suggestions to wake up feeling
positive, and stay active, productive and happy
throughout the day, every day:

a)     As soon as you wake up each morning, stay
still and relaxed,
breathing naturally and trying
gently and smoothly
to enter the reality of your
day.

b)     Stretch your whole body well in every direction,
and yawn widely to feel the energy flowing inside
you.

c)     Breathe deeply, smile, even laugh, and feel
grateful.

Keep your mind empty at this stage, so you can
remain 
calm and peaceful.

d)     Oppose any negative thoughts now entering
your mind,
and focus only on all positive and
pleasant things
about your day.

e)     Try to stay only in the present moment in order
to feel serene and joyful.
Ignore completely any thoughts connected to past
or future events.

f)     Prioritise your jobs and all your tasks, and
eliminate 
whatever is not important, essential or
necessary.

g)     Pursue only positive things during the day like,
going to a club/gym, talk to someone you like, a
friend or a family member, cook a
healthy meal,
get absorbed in your chosen hobby, or enjoy whatever
work you do.

h)     Stay away from people, places, situations, and
whatever else
makes you feel stressed, anxious and
generally unhappy.

i)     Listen to the music of your choice, laugh, have
fun, eat nutritious food, and enjoy all the little things
in life.

j)     Deal with all your daily challenges and other
problematic situations in the best
way you can,
staying calm and focused.

k)     Every now and then, stop and reflect on your
emotions, feelings and concerns, and act accordingly.

 

When you arise in the morning , think of what
a precious privilege it is to be alive  —  to breathe,
to think, to enjoy, to love .

Marcus Aurelius
121  –  180

 

Realise that you are in control of your day;
and choose
to make it a wonderful and outstanding
one for
yourself.

Be mindful and aware of each day;
because every passing day is a bonus to embrace,
appreciate
and be thankful for.

 

Each morning we are born again.
What we do today is what matters most .

Siddhartha Gautama
c.563/480  –  c.483/400 BCE


Have a beautiful and peaceful day!

 

 

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Bona Fide!

 

Hi there!

 

They all met in their usual bar for an evening out,
and a good private chat about their issues of interest.
What are your experiences of being  middle aged  
now? Emi asked.

It’s a bit of a challenge to feel very positive and 
maintain my beauty, when I see my ageing face and
body in
the mirror every morning Ele replied.

I find it somewhat demanding to keep so much
active or to think so quickly as before;
sometimes I prefer to take it more
slowly in
general  Mar said.

For me it seems to be the emotional  side that is
more difficult to handle;   many times I caught myself
not feeling so happy as I used to previously Cat said.

I understand all these issues you mention, because
I feel similarly at times.
But I must say that, I personally see a huge benefit
being at this age now.
I do feel completely free to be myself Emi said and
smiled.
And she did mean it, absolutely.

 

Woman pondering

 

Twenty – Four Carat

 

Life can be ambitious and overwhelming when you
are going through the middle age years;
that is
between the ages of forty five ( 45 ) and sixty
five ( 65 )
years old.

Some people fight this, while some individuals deny
it altogether.
A number of people get depressed, and some others
become completely confused and puzzled.

But at the same time for many people, this period
can be a very powerful, satisfying, successful and
rewarding
stage in their life.

In order to feel really positive about your middle
age years, you need to practise the one and most
important thing for you    and this is Self Love.

This is the time when you need to examine carefully
what direction your life is taking, and work towards
this target.
Life is all about moving forward, and experience
whatever is coming your way.

 

Red Cactus

 

Manna From Heaven

 

Here are a number of benefits you enjoy at this
twenty ( 20 ) year stage of your life:

a)     You feel you have collected valuable experience
and knowledge during the previous years;
and as a result, you can now develop and improve
your life as necessary.

b)     You know that each and every day offers you
a new opportunity to love and be loved.

c)     You recognise that life is too short;
so you try to enjoy every moment, follow your
passions, and you are really grateful for your
total existence.

d)     You realise that you deserve to live in peace
and harmony;
consequently, you do not allow other people  to
destroy your well-being and happiness.

e)     You are not afraid to be yourself, and support
your beliefs and the things that are important
to you.   

f)     You still feel you possess the female sex appeal,
to attract other people to you.

g)     You acknowledge and value highly your own
worth and qualities;
you do not rely on your external appearance any
more as when you were younger, and you do
like yourself for that.

 

Balcony Scene

 

Common Sense

 

The fundamental thing to consider here is the
actual freedom you have from now on, like:

1)     Not having to try hard to succeed in your
profession any more.
2)     Not having to try and please anybody
apart from yourself.
3)     Not having to feel guilty about any personal
or professional issues.
4)     Not having to compete for anything in your
life any more.
5)     Not having to feel stressed and anxious
about missing deadlines.


Believe that now you are at the heyday of your

strength, patience and understanding.

You are free to express yourself as you feel.
You are free to accept your appearance as it is.
You are free to accept your whole life.
You are free to just be.

Growing old is your biggest advantage and benefit,
because not everybody does.

Honour and celebrate your age.

You are here  —  Now !

 

 

 

Quagmire!

 

Hi there!

 

……..” I don’t know what to do;    I feel stuck
and confused, it wasn’t meant to be like this.
My life is desolate and empty;    and I feel so very
lonely    although I seem to have a good marriage,
a fantastic home, a beautiful car, and enough
money to spend.

It still feels as if I can not move on with my life,
and
follow the path I want;    I can not live the
life I’ve
always wished.
How can I break free now and be myself?
I feel so helpless!

But, just a minute!   I do have the Choice!
The Choice of my thinking, the Choice of my
feeling, the Choice of my doing, and the Choice
of my whole being.

I can refuse to do things as usually, and I can stop
being captive to my old routines.
I have the power to move forward and pursue
new goals.
I am willing, eager and ready to carry out the 
change in my life ……..”

 

Rock and Mountain

 

Breathing Space

 

In our every day life we have to face a succession
of challenges and messages, in order to be able to
reach higher levels of consciousness.
While this is happening during our every day living,
it is 
possible that we can become stuck  on very
specific 
situations.

This is happening only because we have already
created a certain cage according to our personal
reality, in which we live.
As a consequence, we are not able to see the big
picture.
In order to improve the situation and evolve, we 
need to change our whole mindset and attitude.


The Reasons of Feeling Stuck

 

a)     You have nothing to look forward to.
It is absolutely vital to have goals to achieve, so
that your life has a purpose.

b)     You live in fear of any change.
It is important to experience different new things
in your life in order to feel fulfilled.

c)     You are a perfectionist.
Nothing in life is perfect;   so learn not to expect
too much from yourself or any one else.

d)    You feel worthless and you do not love yourself.
Self love is necessary for feeling happy, as well as
realising that the most important person in your
life is You.

e)     You live a very stressful life.
You need to relax and prioritise your tasks, obligations
and responsibilities in order to feel more satisfied, 
as well as learning to be patient with your 
relationships.

f)     You do not appreciate your good luck.
Certainly you need to be grateful for all the things
you have in your life, and never compare yourself
with other people.

g)     You are not capable of recognising  yourself
as a separate individual.
Definitely you need to understand your own values.

h)     You have negative influences.
Certainly you need to avoid associating yourself
with negative people in order to start feeling more
positive in your own life.

 

Ocean Rocks

 

High Signs

 

Here are some signs for you to identify whether
you are actually stuck:

1)     You have no interest, energy, enthusiasm or
any motivation at all to do anything.

2)     You are complaining and moaning all the time
about everything, as well as criticising and accusing
every body else.

3)     You have become a cynic, distrusting people’s
motives, and accepting every situation considering
it to be 
futile and worthless.

 

The Realisation of Feeling Stuck

 

Understand the following facts whenever you
find yourself stuck:

i)     Realise that your mind has been trained to
believe certain things, and behave accordingly.
Feeling stuck is only a feeling;
and not a fact of life.

ii)     Realise that feeling stuck means that you 
have reached the edge, and now you need to
change your course:    your heart, your mindset,
your attitude, your routines and habits.

iii)    Realise that you need to accept your
situation 
without resistance , and surrender to
being stuck.

The situation will improve because it is only in
your mind.

 

The Questions to Ask

 

Ask yourself the following when you feel stuck
in order to help yourself make the change:

a)     Who you want to be, and what you want
to do with your life from now on.

b)     Do you need to distance yourself from your
current circle of relationships:   close friends,
relatives or family;    in order to become a more
positive and happy person.
Draining and toxic people must be eliminated
from your life.

c)     Do you need to change your own attitude, 
and start thinking more positively about yourself.

d)     Do you need to start feeling more grateful
for what you have in you life right now, as well
as everything else around you.

e)     Do you always find different excuses for not
doing anything to change your current situation.
If you do, or you are afraid, worried and anxious,
stop this immediately, and start acting.

 

Road Rocks

 

The Getaway

 

Here are the suggestions about what you can
do to free yourself:

1)     Realise that your life is your own responsibility.
Consequently, be honest with yourself and decide
to change the way you look at things;
change your whole mindset.

2)     Decide to stop paying any attention to whatever
other people think and say;
otherwise you will be their prisoner forever.
Listen only to your soul, and free yourself once
and 
for all.

3)     Decide to take action now without giving
excuses any more.

Feel confident, motivated, fearless, and move
forward.

Stop being apathetic, and take all the necessary
steps now.

Focus only on what you need to do in order to
bring about change.

4)     Feel grateful for what you have in you life.
Find joy and fulfilment, satisfaction and pleasure
in all the things life has given you until now, without
comparing yourself to any one else.

5)     Realise that it is absolutely pointless to blame
any body else for your current situation.
Search and find the actual reasons within yourself,
and take full control of your own life.

6)     Understand that the way you feel is not the
reality of the things.
So avoid fantasising and having high expectations;
but keep your mind and emotions under full control.

7)     See the big picture and think positively.
Set new goals for yourself, and feel continuously
motivated to pursue them.

8)     Understand that there is always a solution to
any problem    perhaps not the one you would
like, but nonetheless, the solution is there.

9)     Be flexible, explore all your options, and choose
the one that suits you most.
This is the only way you will become unstuck.

 

Rhododendron

 

Mental Image     

 

Feeling stuck is necessary, so that you can enjoy
better things coming your way.
Living is difficult, but you can make it an
enjoyable experience.

Feel good and positive, and accept your current
situation.
Be authentic and patient, grow internally, and 
focus on your goals and desires without ignoring
your best supportive relationships.

It is absolutely and utterly your personal choice,
whether you will spend the rest of your life
complaining 
and feeling fearful, negative and
stuck;

or you will be powerful, positive and strong to
move forward to where life takes you.

It is a clear fact that if you really want to do
something
you will always do it  (unless you are
seriously ill without any hope of surviving).

Clear your head, be determined, driven and
persistent,
and start living now.

Conquer all!

 

 

Antipositivism!

 

Hi there!

 

Kyla went to work this morning having a strong
premonition that something was going to happen.
She sat at her desk preparing her files, when her
telephone rang;   she answered nervously, and
” can you come to my office immediately, please? “,
her manager asked.


She left what she was doing and hurried in his office;

Twenty minutes later she emerged looking worried.
He gave me this difficult project, and although I believe
I know how to handle it, if I don’t complete it properly I
will suffer the consequences.


As a result, he will not be happy with me  —   and it

will certainly be all my fault.
What if he becomes very upset with me and decides
to fire me!
Then, what will I do    I will have no money to live!
Since I have no other savings, I will not be able to pay
my bills or buy my food.
I also have a mortgage, which if I don’t repay, most
likely the bank will take my home “.


She kept on thinking ad nauseam all these negative

scenarios, and feeling her anxiety mounting ……..

 

 

The Insurance Policy

 

Many years ago, when I was in my very early twenties
I was still living with my parents, in a strict and
traditional environment.

I remember very clearly one night, I was driving back
home after having a good night out with some friends.


It was much after midnight, and the roads were almost

completely empty.
I was driving very fast, and continuously thinking all
the worst things that could happen to me when I would
arrive home.


I was imagining my mother protesting and complaining

about my independent attitude, as well as screaming
and objecting my thoughtless and careless actions.
I used to worry so much every time I went out at night,
almost to the point of complete anxiety.
The truth is, nothing of all these fears actually came into
fruition.

I usually went back home nicely, everybody was already
in bed, so I did the same thing very quietly and carefully.


But I always felt that if I expected the worst I would

not be upset and distressed when it happened.
I used negativity as my insurance.
This attitude was, and always is very wrong and a huge
mistake;   because things
could actually have happened
according to my fears.

Negativity can very well influence the outcome;
and even worse, according to research, self-fulfilling
predictions do really take place.


Consequently, the best thing to do is to disregard any

negative thoughts that come into your mind, and
try to imagine a positive result instead.

 

Red Plant

 

Sing The Blues

 

Thoughts, either they are positive or negative, are
generated in the subconscious mind.
They are created based on your past external and
genetic conditioning, as well as your various predictions
about
your future and how you perceive your present life.


Thoughts are stored naturally in your brain as memories.
When you experience negative feelings, they start
fighting against the normal flow of your life, and
as a consequence you are suffering.


Your thoughts are just pure energy passing through,

with no power at all to influence anything.
The problem starts as soon as you start associating
yourself with any of them, obsessing and therefore
suffering.


They have not any control whatsoever, until the moment

you start feeding and giving them energy by paying
attention to them.
Actually, if you ignore them completely they will lose
their dominance and fade away.


You do need to let all this negative energy flow away

by not being interested in it at all.
All our negative thoughts are connected to the following
categories:

*     Exaggerated and excessive reactions to various issues.
*     Impossible and unrealistic expectations.
*     Outrageous and irrational thinking to extremes.
*     Imagining and speculating what people think.
    Disastrous and destructive assumptions of a situation.
    Criticising and insulting one’s self.
    Predicting and visualising a negative future.
*     Minimising the positive and enlarging the negative.


Avoid doing all the above mentioned in order not to be

tormented by negativity;
and focus your attention on positive endings.

 

Rhododendron

 

Endowed With Reason

 

The human mind has naturally evolved to create
thoughts.
You must realise that you are not your thoughts.
These mental perceptions are only forms of energy.
Restraining and stopping your negative thoughts is
extremely difficult if you do not use the right technique.


You certainly need to practice how to disassociate

yourself from these thoughts, and show no interest
in them whatsoever.
This is the only true way to cause your thoughts to lose
their power, die out and disappear.


The following techniques will help you practice how

to do exactly this:

a)     Focus all your attention on a specific point from
five to twenty minutes.
This point can be anything you choose like,
an external sound, some music, counting worry beads,
parts of your body or your breath.

b)     Observe your mind without showing any interest
at all.    
Let all this negative energy together with its images,
called thoughts, flow away without involving yourself
in any way.


Thoughts do not really exist  —  it is only you who brings

them to reality, by focusing on them.

Realise that the only real and true way to stop them is
Not to use any force, but Only to Stop Paying Attention
to them completely and absolutely.


Good Luck!

 

 

Självtillit!

 

Hi there!

 

Greg had many means of escape from his emotional
needs, and connect with other people;
yet, he was feeling miserable and depressed.

He needed others to make him feel happy;
he wanted encouragement about his professional choices;
he constantly required reassurance about the actions he
was taking in his personal life;
and he was always seeking support from his family,
friends and colleagues.

Greg, as most people, was programmed to have all his
needs, either physical or emotional, met by other 
people, and not himself.

So, whenever he was not getting all the things he needed
in his life, he was blaming everybody else for his
misfortune and complete unhappiness.

Greg had totally forgotten how to belong to himself !

 

Bush Clinging to rock

 

Sure Of Oneself

 

These days most individuals rely hugely on other people
to figure out all the things for them.
As a consequence, they become psychologically weak,
they have no confidence in themselves, and finally they
fail to succeed in their life.

But in order to find total happiness in your life, you must
realise that the only thing you actually need is to be
emotionally self-reliant.
You must understand that you have to stop depending
on others for your happiness and peace of mind.

At the end of the day, either you develop self-confidence
and independence, and you accept that your own right
judgement will guide you through your actions;
or you will remain an eternal slave to the judgement,
right or wrong, of the other people.

Self-reliance is to deny absolutely and completely to
depend on any one else, but your own self for your
happiness in life.
To actually rely only on your own honest, genuine,
and meticulous thoughts, drive and actions.

 

Flowers

 

The Explanation

 

The most common reason for the majority of people
not to have developed self-reliance is that, 
as children they always relied on their parents or relatives
to provide for all their emotional needs.

Then they grow up and become adults without having
learnt to be emotionally independent individuals.
As a result, they always expect someone else to help
them find the happiness they need in their life.

The even worse thing is that, when things do not work
out as they expect them to, they start blaming and accusing
everyone else;     and consider themselves a sufferer and
a poor victim of the circumstances.

Certainly, this is the most inappropriate and definitely
wrong thing to do;
because the real and authentic happiness can be found
Only inside ourselves    and Never from others.

 

Garden

 

The Advantages

 

Being self-reliant and independent means,

   Under any circumstances, you will be able to
find numerous solutions to your life’s various
situations and be successful.

*     You will develop initiative, and acquire 
knowledge to decide for yourself what is good
and useful for you.

   You will never feel lonely, even when you are
sitting alone.

   You will become psychologically strong,
determined and resilient.
You will be able to handle all difficult situations
better and without being hurt.

   You will be feeling internal happiness and
satisfaction in the present moment;
because you yourself will be creating it.

 

Bush on the coast

 

Home Rule

 

If you want happiness you will have to become
self-reliant    and here is how to develop this
vital tool.

a)     Trust Yourself

Never ask for other people’s approval and consent,
whenever you think about any personal issues.
You only need to trust your own instincts and your
judgement in order to handle any situation,
even if you fail at the end.

b)      Acknowledge Your Decisions

Always be accountable for your decisions;
believe in them, and follow them through to
the end.
Become your own advocate.

c)     Be Determined

Always fight your own battles.
Get to know yourself well, and learn how
to turn your setbacks and failures into
advantageous opportunities.

d)     Be Responsible

Do not blame others for your unhappiness;
do not complain about everything around you;
and do not ever feel you are a victim.
Always take full responsibility for your own
emotions, thoughts and actions.

e)     Avoid Negativity

Avoid completely or spend less time with 
people who influence you against your will
and personal choices.
Become emotionally independent, and enjoy
a happier life.

 

Purple Bush

 

Carte Blanche

 

Inherently all humans want to be independent.
Unfortunately, our families and society teach us
to be dependent    and the majority of people
stay so;    because sadly, this has become a really
deep and strong habit since childhood.

As such, certainly it can be changed.
But only with very hard work, and extreme and
heroic willingness;    to teach your subconscious
mind to dig deeper into this imposed habit.

Otherwise, you will remain a dependent person
forever    and certainly far away from your
natural path to do things your own way.

This, of course, will result in your being a very
unhappy and totally neurotic person.

You need to develop your personal initiative
according to your own principles and perspectives.
Obviously, on your way you may have to suffer
the consequences of your actions in order to learn,
and eventually change this forced programming.

It is absolutely important to understand that,
if you do not become independent you will never be
free to 
achieve complete happiness in your life.

Because you will always be needing validation,
recognition and acceptance in your personal as
well as your professional life.

When you finally manage to become truly self
reliant, you will be able to be more efficient and
understanding of all the circumstances around you.

You will be able to make the right decisions for
yourself, and change, if possible, or accept what is,
without worrying about other people’s thoughts,
opinions, judgement and actions.

Self-reliance is being absolutely free from the 
influences of others, and completely responsible
for your own needs, in order to create the life you
really want for yourself.

Embrace Freedom !!

 

 

 

 

 

Conundrum!

 

Hi there!

 

……” When I was young I believed the world was
a huge possibility and hope, for me to achieve
everything
I ever wanted.

I expected to get countless opportunities to succeed
in my life my own way.
I understood that people were nice, friendly and
caring for each other.

Unfortunately, as I grow older I am discovering
that this is not the case;    and all those things I
believed in do not exist.

I now realise that the world is an inhospitable
and
really rough place, where successful survival is
too hard
to achieve.

I also notice that the majority of people are exactly
the opposite than what I anticipated;
being self-interested, selfish, greedy and extremely
financially
orientated.

I do not feel enthusiastic and excited anymore,
but actually disillusioned and embittered seeing all
this toxicity
around me ……”

 

Shrub out of Rocks

 

Bitter Pill

 

Disillusionment, a very old word since the 1600’s,
is an uncomfortable and distressing state of mind.
You feel disappointed because you have found out 
that some things are not as great as you believed
them to be.

You have actually lost your faith and trust in your
hopes, goals and ideals.
You feel dissatisfied because the things you thought
as real, important, valued and pure, are not as 
such any more.

Certainly it is natural for you to feel disillusioned
as you grow older, as most things you knew as a
young person are changing too fast.

I have been feeling disillusioned in recent times
with various global events and other issues    even
in my neighbourhood situations keep on changing.

Unfortunately, disillusionment is a destructive
feeling, which is not helping our life in any way.
It is sabotaging your happiness, and damaging
your overall well being.

You can be feeling bitter and furious, frustrated,
upset and generally bad.
It can even make you feel that your whole life 
is in trouble.

Finally, you become a cynic distrusting other
people’s sincerity, motives and actions.

 

Shallow Rocks

 

Relative Importance

 

Here are the four suggestions how you can cope
better with disillusionment, and start feeling happier.

a)     Take as long as you need to realise the new
situation, and develop a comprehensive and wide
perspective on the specific issue.
Consider how much time you need to adjust your
mindset, without taking anything personally.

b)     Analyse and re-evaluate your expectations,
in case they have been impossible and unrealistic.
Try to re-adjust them according to the new reality.

c)     Understand and acknowledge that no matter
how disappointed you feel, that certain things are
not as you thought they were;
still it is very much better for you to be aware of
the new situation, 
than keep on living in an
illusion and a fantasy.

d)     Decide to take immediate steps to either
change, if you can, or accept the new situation;
not only for your own personal benefit, but also
for other people concerned.

 

Blue Flowers in Rock

 

Stamp Of Approval

 

Many times in life the only solution to a
problem/situation is acceptance.
Acceptance is your ability to develop a positive
attitude towards that situation.

The following steps will help you learn to accept
things more easily.

1)     Eliminate the uncertainty you feel about the
new situation, by examining all the facts and
proving to yourself, that this is actually the new
reality now to acknowledge.

2)     Start thinking and developing a plan to include
all options you have at your disposal, in order to
deal with this new fact effectively, as well as your
own personal feelings.

3)     Understand that accepting a situation is not
your personal preference;
but it is just allowing it to be as it is, without
believing that you can change it or control it in
any way.

4)     Realise that acceptance will bring peace and
comfort in your life.
You will gradually get used to the new situation,
and you will not be reacting to it any more.
Finally, you will be feeling more relaxed, happy
and positive.

5)     Recognise that the new situation is a natural
occurrence;
it will open a new chapter in your life, with new
experiences and interests, as well as more knowledge
about yourself.

 

Purple Flowers

 

The Big Picture

 

Our response to disillusionment is usually, either
to withdraw within ourselves and stay away, or
to get angry and start accusing other people.
Certainly, both approaches are wrong and lead

nowhere.

Feel your feelings and breathe deeply to relax.
The world is not perfect, and you are not alone.
Educate yourself, show understanding and
compassion.

Try to improve yourself and your life, as well as
the people around you, as much as you can.

Feel capable, competent, strong and powerful.

Good Luck !!

 

 

Abyssus!

 

Hi there!

 

…… “ It all happens suddenly and unexpectedly.
One day you feel good as always, and the next
you notice something different on your body.

You feel the pain of doubt when you discover
new wrinkles and other unusual changes on
your face;    or you experience surprising soreness
and discomfort in various parts of your body.

You feel disappointed, distressed and depressed.
You then realize that the avalanche of time is
going to make it a continuous battle, between
you and the slap of hardships and troubles to follow.

You refuse to believe in a declining future for
yourself, and you’re trying to think positively
about all these.

It is true that life leads to ageing and deterioration
of your body, no matter how much you do to
maintain it.

You are just becoming aware that you are going
through a later life crisis …… “.

She said to me one morning, while we were
drinking our tea, relaxing on the balcony.

 

Clouds

 

Point Of No Return

 

Any crisis is a period of several yeas, during
which we experience a number of negative
emotions;     and we do need to cope with all the
major transitions happening to us, overcome
them and conquer them.

There are crises episodes taking place between
the ages of twenty five ( 25 ) and thirty five ( 35 ).
Also, it is extremely usual to experience a crisis
episode during middle age, that is between the
ages of forty ( 40 ) and fifty ( 50 ).

But there is another crisis instalment waiting for
us around the corner.
This third chapter is relating to completely different
areas of our life.

People go through a later life crisis due to the following:

1)     Major life events like, a serious illness on themselves
or a loved one, or loss of a loved one.
2)     Divorce and moving out.
3)     Retirement from work.
4)     Acceptance of their past, present and future.
5)     Loss of a job.
6)     Finding new purpose and goals.
7)     Moving to a new area or country to live.
8)     Realising the limits of life.
9)     Becoming aware of the body’s lack of strength.
10)   Worrying about their financial security.
11)   Caring for loved ones.

 

Grass

 

Cover All Bases

 

Life transitions influence people in many
unexpected ways.
Adopt the following advice in order to be able
to protect yourself from all negative consequences:

a)     Be grateful for all the good things you have
in your life at the present moment like, your
relationships and your home.
Only in this way you will feel more optimistic
for the present and the future.

b)     Examine and determine who you are and how
you feel at this
moment.
Finally decide what you want to
do in your life
from now on.

c)     Keep active and fit, so that you can be strong
and ready to handle all happenings, as well as any
other incidents properly.

d)     Accept what is going on at this moment
without any complaining or suffering.
Be open to various opportunities life is bringing
your
way every day.

e)     Socialize more and develop hobbies to feel
more engaged and connected.


As long as you are alive your life will be expanding;

because things happen every moment.

Perhaps new adventures or new ways of thinking
or something great and fantastic is taking place.

Life is short, so raise your spirits, sail away and
enjoy every bit of it.

Good luck!