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Solitaire!

 

Hi there!

 

…… “ As long as I remember, since my early twenties
I have been a person who liked collecting material
things.
It started with clothes and jewellery;   then I moved
to money;   later on I started collecting furniture
and other house items.

All these made me feel happy at the time.
Although I went through a number of hardships
during the years, I never realised that all these
things I was gathering did not really matter to me
at all.

A few years ago, I suddenly understood that I had
accumulated much more than I needed in my life.
I was still feeling dissatisfied and disappointed;
and I always felt as if something was missing.

I knew, I needed desperately to take some action.
So I sold most of my jewellery, I disposed of almost
all my clothes, and I sold almost all my furniture
and other home items.

Doing all this took me a couple of years, but I must
admit, afterwards I felt remarkably free and ready
to move on …… “.

 

Blue Lagoon

 

Mind Trip

 

There are many things in this world that are priceless.
But the most invaluable possessions are not our houses,
or our money or our cars.
They happen to be only a few things, which are not
even so obvious  —  and we only realise them when
we lose them.

So here are these few extremely important things in life:

 

a)     Health

Most people take their health for granted.
They neglect their physical and mental well-being.
They disregard exercise, and as a consequence they
are unfit and overweight.
They forget all about their diet and nutritional needs,
so they feel poorly.

Take all the necessary steps to ensure you are in good
health;    because without it, your life is a hopeless
and intolerable journey.

 

b)     Freedom

The majority of people do not have complete freedom.
That is, freedom of thought, freedom of speech, freedom
of change or freedom to be themselves.
Consequently, they live an unfulfilled life and in misery.

Freedom is a choice.
You need to be willing, determined and make sacrifices.

Take action to minimise or eliminate any boundaries
and ties in your life.
Do what really makes you happy, because this is the most
important thing for you.

 

c)     Purpose

So many  individuals just exist because they were born.
Purpose is the reason you live your life as you do, whatever
that may be.
It is the motive and the passion for you to keep going.

It enriches your every day life with special meaning and
intention.
Purpose is your guiding light in the darkness of life.
Live your life with purpose.

 

d)     Time

All humans on earth have the exact same amount of
time
in hours every day.
Nobody can ever buy more of it or take back time
already spent.

The way you use your time dictates how successful or
doomed you will be in your life.
Almost all people complain that they never have enough
time to do what they want, and they feel stressed,
anxious and depressed.

But time is always there for them to use it effectively
and efficiently  —  if only they were more organised.

Time is your whole life, and reflects your personal
values constantly.
The choices you make every day.
Use it wisely.

 

e)     Relationships

Finally, our loved ones are our support in life.
They make it interesting and entertaining.

Cherish them, be honest and sincere with them,
and you will feel happier and at peace.

 

Orange Flowers

 

The Bottom Line

 

These are the five most important things in life
to have.

Make certain that you own them, feel grateful
you do, and always act accordingly.

Life is too short.
So focus on the important and the 
necessary things;
and ignore all the rest.

 

 

 

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Ground Zero!

 

Hi there!

 

Love is an extremely strong and very effective disorder
affecting our nervous system.
It is a chemical means developed through our evolution
to benefit and promote our species to survive and prosper.

It helps us develop and maintain relationships;
it encourages us to defend and protect ourselves physically
and mentally;
it makes us want very deeply to support our offspring.

In the modern world, the most heroic struggle in one’s
life is to love themselves;   and it really is an awfully
difficult and terribly exhausting thing to do.

Most people neglect their own needs, health and
happiness, because they have been taught to do so
since they were children;
and certainly because loving others is easier than loving
themselves.

And yet, self love is the foundation of the most important
relationship you will ever have  —  the relationship with
yourself.

 

 

Bull’s – Eye

 

Self love is not a state of just feeling good by having a lot
of money, and buying and doing everything we want,
or being narcissistic.

Self love means to accept yourself exactly as you are and
what you are.
It means to know your own qualities and how significant you
are;   to know your purpose and your limits.

Self love means to always look after and be kind to yourself.
It means to really know that you do deserve your love, your
respect, admiration, and appreciation at all times.

Loving yourself is a number of actions that provide you
with confidence, determination and belief in yourself;
you will enjoy peace of mind;   you will demonstrate better
judgement;   and you will savour overall happiness.

You will be able to make the right decisions, and you will
exhibit more love towards other people.
You will be mentally stronger and balanced, and your life
will become simpler.

Certainly it must be emphasized that, self love is not
something temporary and
short-lived    but a continuous
and growing
course of actions.

 

 

End In View

 

The following routines will help you build self love:

a)     Reduce and finally eliminate all negative beliefs
about yourself, either they are routed from your past
or they are self-inflicted.

b)     Stop thinking that you must be perfect in everything
you do in order to be happy.
Perfection does not exist;   nothing in life is perfect.

c)     Focus only on your positive qualities and values,
each and every day.

d)     Be truthful, honest, realistic and sensible.

e)     Do all the things that make you feel good.
Be creative and develop hobbies.

f)     Never compare yourself to other people.
You are a unique person, so compare only to yourself.

g)     Establish healthy, explicit and precise limits to
all your actions and steps.

h)     Always give priority to yourself, because you
have earned it and you deserve to be first.

i)     Find your purpose, meaning and direction in life.
Only then you will be happy and fulfilled.

 

 

j)     Take full responsibility for your own health and
happiness.
Watch your diet, exercise, sleep, rest, relaxation, fun
and relationships.

k)     Surround yourself only with people who love you
and make you feel good, and eliminate all others.

l)     Take risks, examine various opportunities coming
your way, and celebrate your wins at the end.

m)    Every day feel grateful about something in your
life, even if it is something very small, no matter what
else is happening around you.

n)     Be very aware and wise about your own thoughts,
feelings and desires, to be able to keep things under control.

o)     Forgive yourself whenever you make any mistakes,
and try to learn from them.

p)     Envisage yourself being empowered, inspired,
motivated and encouraged.

By practising the above mentioned actions of self love,
you will learn to cherish, honour, respect, accept
and really care for yourself.

Self love is a continuous and steady passage.
Self love is something you can choose and adopt.

Select correctly and enjoy the benefits and rewards.

 

Catharsis!

 

Hi there!

 

It was 09:30am, and as every morning for the last
two and a half years, I was absolutely ready.

A last look in the entrance mirror to confirm I
was looking perfect, then I took my handbag and
sunglasses, locked the door and walked to the
garage to take my car.

In ten minutes I arrived at the High Street, parked
my car and started my dramatic adventure.
I had chosen seven fashion shops, most suitable
to me, which I was visiting alternatively.

I started following my routine:
I was walking through the whole shop floor,
examining all clothes and choosing all that
I liked.

Then I went to the changing rooms, and took my
time trying them all, checking every detail in the
mirrors around me, and finally choosing the
best to buy.

At the end, I went to the cashier’s counter and
paid for my selected items.

What an exhilarating experience…!
Sometimes, I repeated the whole process at
03:30 in the afternoon, in a different shop.

Those were the days……
Now my life has taken a new turn.
I have stopped shopping, almost completely,
unless I really need something.

 

Red Dress

 

Monkey On Back

 

Shopping is an extremely pleasant and satisfying
experience for many people.

Looking through these aisles full of beautiful
clothes …….. and all the shelves full of exquisite
shoes and handbags …….. trying and buying what you
like, and bring them home …….. taking them out
of their bags, removing the labels and price
tags …….. then trying to find the right storage
place for them ……..
So exciting !!!

Shopping is comforting, soothing, pleasing and
a lot of fun.
It gives you something interesting and entertaining
to do, when you do not work, and it takes your mind
off all other things.

I do like shopping  —  and there had been a few periods
in my life, when I was actually going around shops and

shopping centres every morning buying things.

But shopping can become addictive for many people,
and can cause a lot of problems, not only financial
but also personal and emotional.

Usually it happens when the individual ( mostly
female ) feels stressed, lonely, anxious, depressed, angry,
bored, guilty or fearful.

For the most part what people buy they do not need.
It can be anything, from clothes and accessories to
furniture, kitchen equipment and home decorations.

 

Shopping Women

 

Sweet Tooth

 

Terminating this retail therapy is all about self
control and changing your current circumstanes,
to give yourself a more interesting life.

This means, sit down, think carefully and make a
plan with various alternatives you can introduce
to your every day life.
Some examples are:

1)     Register at a leisure club.
2)     Take volunteer work.
3)     Find a job.
4)     Register at a class of your interest.
5)     Register at a club of your interest.
6)     Change city of living.
7)     Change country of living.
8)     Find a partner if you are alone.
9)     Change your partner if you are not happy.

 

Corset

 

Main Point

 

In the meantime, and until your life is actually
changed, try to keep your spending under control
by writing down all your daily expenses, in
comparison with your income or savings.

Also, try to buy only one item at a time to keep
your costs to a minimum, and still enjoy the experience.

Finally, if you adopt one or more of the above
mentioned suggestions, you will have a goal
to achieve.

This will take your mind off wasting your money
shopping for unnecesary items;
it will improve your emotional state;
and it will enhance your personal relationships.

Taking all the necessary steps will change your
life almost completely.

Take control of yourself and your whole life.

 

 

 

Backbone!

 

Hi there!

 

Bo was working in his office this afternoon when he
received an email from his colleague asking him for
assistance with his project.

As soon as he read this he felt resentful immediately,
since he knew that on the one hand he wanted to
help him, but on the other this would entail extra
time and effort for him.

Thinking more about it, he did not want to accept
this obligation, because it meant he would have to
stay in the office late, and neglect part of his own
commitments.

I have no reason to accept this other than being
helpful to a colleague, something which I can’t
afford to do at the moment he thought.

I have to say No to you this time, because I’m
extremely busy at present and I have no time
to spare for more work.
But I can recommend Jos to you, who will be pleased
to help you with your project .

Bo decided, and replied to his colleague without any
further delay.

Immediately he felt relieved and ready to continue
with his own business.

 

Yellow Flowers

 

Will Power

 

Most people dislike to say NO because they want to
help and be nice to the other person.
But saying yes all or most of the time entails a lot
of unpleasant consequences like,
    loss of valuable time,
    waste a huge amount of mental energy,
*     a great amount of pressure.

All of these result in physical and mental exhaustion.
Yet people find it so very hard to say NO.
This is happening because of many reasons like,
*     they want to avoid any arguments,
*     they want to be polite,
*     they want to fit in with the others,
*     they want to maintain good relationships,
*     they feel guilty if they do not help.

But if you really want to create your own life and
pursue your goals, you do need to be in full
control of all situations around you.

Learning to say NO is the greatest reward you can
give to yourself.
In order to be able to do so, you will need to become
decisive, confident and assertive  —  but at the same
time you must be calm and polite.

Being assertive means you must convey your message,
and at the same time to listen to the other person.
It means sharing and appreciating others.

When you manage this you will increase your
self-confidence, you will become more understanding,
you will improve your self-image and finally you
will achieve very much more.

 

Red Leafs

 

Primary Element

 

Before you decide and turn down any demands
and requests from other people, you need to
evaluate the situation.

Here are the steps you need to take:

a)     Take your time to think all requests made on
you before giving any answer.
Say you will let them know as soon as possible.
Study the demands and make certain they will
fit your own obligations and commitments.

b)     Analyze your priorities, and decide whether
the new engagement is of any significance, relevance
or magnitude to you.
If you find it is of no consequence to you, just ignore it.

c)     Consider the time length the new engagement
will need to be completed.
If it is long term, disregard it, because it will be adding
more stress on you.

d)     Refuse immediately any demand or request,
which makes you feel guilty if you do not do it.
If you accept something under these circumstances
you will feel pressed, stressed, anxious and eventually
really sick.

 

Shrubs

 

Guiding Light

 

There is no perfect way to say NO, and there is also no
way you can ever control the other person’s feelings
and reactions.

The following advice is how to do this best:

a)     Know your value as a person and have the right
attitude, independence and energy.

b)     Stand in a power pose, look calm and assertive,
and be fast and polite.

c)     Communicate your NO decision clearly and firmly,
using simple words.
Do not complicate and over-explain things.

d)     Offer an alternative solution to show your good
will and to meet half way.

e)     If at all possible and you really want to help,
offer a lesser commitment.

Do not forget, you are responsible only for
yourself,
and not for any other person’s feelings
and actions
towards you.

Nothing is perfect, including humans.
Use any criticism for your own growth.

Remember, you can not please everybody.
Never lose your self-worth.

Enjoy the long term benefits of saying NO.

 

 

 

Ataxia!

 

Hi there!

 

Matty was an executive manager, working hard
until early evening every day.
He enjoyed a lot of benefits and rewards, but
also plenty of troubles.

There was always something going on in his mind.
That voice inside his head would never become
quite;    all he could hear was his boss reminding
him of his many obligations.

He was feeling overpowered and utterly confused.
His mind was full of clutter that made him 
nervous, agitated, even anxious and unable to focus.

I know I need to find the proper means to fight 
this huge problem I have    and very soon!
he thought one day.
He certainly understood the situation, and he knew
he could be in control of his circumstances.

Finally he took all the necessary steps to change
that troublesome position he was in, and clean
some space in his head.

 

Cloudy Skies

 

Topsy – Turviness

 

The challenging combination of external and
internal demands, as well as your personal
expectations  can cause your mind to clutter
and be confused.

Most people are experiencing this unpleasant 
situation all their life.
They seem to forget that removing all litter from
their mind and heart, is the most important thing
they can do, in order to enjoy a balanced and
peaceful existence.

Their fast moving every day living together with
their survival basics, is full of various 
obligations
at home and at work
;
so they ignore their internal peace.

They fail to remember that if they wish to live a 
meaningful and rich life they will need to achieve
inner peace.

Obviously you can continue holding close to your
heart all emotions, feelings and experiences you 
have been and are going through, only because this
is much easier than clearing them all out.

But keep in mind that although getting rid of your
internal clutter needs you to be brave, fearless,
determined and powerful, this is actually the only
way you can transform your life.

 

Glittering Water

 

Smack In The Middle

 

Follow the below mentioned tips to clear some
of your internal clutter:

a)     Be decisive and solve your problems as soon 
as they arise, so they do not become massive.
If you are not able to find a solution, then accept
that your difficult situation is not a problem, but
a fact of life, which needs to be handled as such.

b)     Discard your desire to control everything and
everybody.
Live your life without demands and requirements
in order to feel free.

c)    Give the greatest gift to yourself :  Forgiveness;
because it is only then that you will feel relieved
and liberated.

d)     Be an optimist, and think positively.
Do not worry about the wrong things around you,
and non existent situations
.

 

Clear Skies

 

e)     Distance yourself from anybody who keeps you
back and brings you down or hurt you.
Doing so, you will grow and evolve.

f)     Eliminate past memories of any kind that do
not contribute anything to your present life.

g)   Prioritize all your responsibilities and set all
daily routine jobs on automatic.
Organize your day so that you can deal with only
one thing at a time.

Mental clutter leads to psychological blockage.

You can not think clearly and focus on the important
things in your life any more.

It is only when you erase this mental confusion that
you will make space for all the things that really
matter to you.

You will then feel healthy, satisfied, cheerful, peaceful
and happy in your life.

Do it now !!

 

 

 

 

Desideratum!

 

Hi there!

 

This morning she woke up feeling very strange.
She wished she could get up every day feeling
excited and with a thirst for life;
but unfortunately
it wasn’t so.

She had no energy and passion for anything;
she had no purpose, not a driving force to guide
her;   she was feeling dead empty.

She sat quietly by the window, closed her eyes
and kept on thinking ……..
there’s definitely a reason for everything in life.
I’m a unique person with my own qualities.
I must reign and control my mind to become successful.
I need to believe in the power within myself and be
determined to do anything necessary to create a
happy future .

She got up and went to the kitchen, put the kettle
on and made some tea.
From now on I’ll be thinking positively and
constructively so that I’m able to support my real
purpose in life she thought decisively.

 

Flowering Plant

 

Sine Qua Non

 

Purpose is a very unique and individual message
to all humans.
Many people believe that there is a reason for
their existence.
Quite a few do know what exactly they want to
do with their life, naturally.

Certainly there are some people who do not believe
that their life has any meaning at all;    they do
not seem to have any purpose for living, either
it is a big one or a small, but they just exist only
because they were born.

Either you believe the one or the other you can
still discover your own personal genuine purpose
in life.
The fact is that if you do not wake up every morning
feeling energetic, excited and full of enthusiasm,
then you are not living your life purpose;
your living is not meaningful and happy.

Living with purpose will help you become a positive,
passionate, driven and authentic person without
wasting your time and energy unnecessarily.
It will help you find the initiative and enthusiasm
to achieve success, and you will be properly
aligned with your life.

 

Rocky Fountain

 

Name Of The Game

 

If your life purpose is not so obvious the
following concepts will assist you to connect:

a)     Sit quietly alone, breathe deeply, connect
with your psyche and picture your life as you would
want it to be.

b)     Consider what you currently do and think of
all the changes you will need to make.

c)     Consult your past achievements, just in case
you notice a consistent pattern to guide you.

d)     Recognise any, if existed at all, guiding
advisers on your route to development and growth.

e)     Assess what you are good at, really enjoy
doing and does reflect the person you truly are.

f)     Consider the people in your life you have
feelings for as well as everything that makes you
genuinely happy.

g)     Fix your life purpose on timeless fundamentals
like, relationships, personal growth, health, success
and spirituality;
as soon as you start feeling excited and passionate
about a single one, identify this as your life purpose.

h)     Make a list of the exact actions you need to take
to reach and fulfil your purpose;
now divide these concrete actions into short, medium
and long term steps to take, and start realizing the
kind of life you want to live.

 

Blue Flowers

 

Straight Stuff

 

The most vital and crucial move, in this process
of finding your life purpose, is to appreciate
and understand that you must empty your
mind of all the wrong dictated and enforced
purposes, you have been told by other people,
and start thinking only for yourself.

Find the strength and courage to clear your
head of all the confusion and social brainwashing
during the previous years.

Consider your purpose as your mission in life,
and avoid any activities that can distract you
from your target.
Only then you will really live a conscious life.

Also, accept that as you grow older you will evolve,
therefore it is obvious that your life purpose will
have to change to reflect this evolvement.

Consequently you will need to review your
mission on a regular basis to make certain that
it always reflects the person you are becoming
as you age as well as your new beliefs.

Find what is important to you    your values
and your principles.
Find the power to create your own destiny.

Have Faith !!

 

 

 

Vir Fortis!

 

Hi there!

 

Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability,
but comes through continuous struggle.
And so we must straighten our backs and work for
our freedom.
A man can’t ride you unless your back is bent .

Martin Luther King. Jr.

The weak can never forgive.
Forgiveness is the attitude of the strong .

Mahatma Gandhi

The depth and strength of a human character are
defined by its moral reserves.
People reveal themselves completely only when
they are thrown out of the customary conditions
of their life, for only then do they have to fall
back on their reserves.

Leonardo Da Vinci

 

Group of trees

 

Nerves Of Steel

 

In these very unsettled and unstable times
we live, we do need to have a very strong mind
to be able to conquer all difficulties and
hurdles in our way.

To be a determined and courageous person
means being so resilient as to handle all life’s
challenges effectively, overcome them and
become more powerful.

Consequently, not only you will need to be
physically and mentally competent but also
to have the necessary reserves to allow you
to face these challenges and win.

A powerful individual needs to have the perfect
combination of intellect, determination,
flexibility, self-discipline, alertness, willpower
and finally guts.

All the above will help you defeat all barriers,
threats as well as various disappointments in
your life    and if you finally manage to cope
with all your problems as they happen, you
will really be a peaceful, pleased, fortunate
and outstanding human being.

 

Spider

 

Part And Parcel

 

Most people wish to be invincible in all aspects
of their life, either it is personal, professional
or family.
The following list of habits will help you become
really a strong human:

a)     Stop worrying about what other people think
and say;   always stay focused and seize opportunities
as they appear.

b)     Be motivated, optimistic, confident, determined,
independent
and believe in yourself;   always do what
you want
by taking calculated risks.

c)     Be persistent and organised;   focus on your goals
and plans, learn from your mistakes and work hard
until you succeed ignoring any setbacks.

d)     Be fearless, courageous and tolerant when things
go wrong;   be responsible for your own actions.

e)     Relax and see things clearly and precisely;   be in
control of your own mind so that you can forge
your destiny.

f)     Keep on learning and educating yourself, because
knowledge is power;   develop hobbies and be
observant and productive.

g)     Exercise daily to improve your body and mind;
listen to motivational music.

h)     Look after your physical and mental health;
adopt a healthful diet.

i)     Take care of your appearance;   dress smartly,
cut your hair, walk and sit tall and talk with confidence.

 

Berry shrub

 

Solid Gold

 

Life is full of challenges and we need to be 
resilient in order to handle them effectively.
If you do not belong to the few people who
are born mentally tough you can learn to be.

*     Never waste your time and energy feeling
sorry for yourself.
   Never allow anybody to make you feel bad
or hurt you.

*     Never complain about situations and
other people.
*     Never rely on others to make you happy
or be afraid to be alone.
*     Never ever do anything you do not want
to do;   just say No.

You need to deal with your problems one at
a time and without letting them affect you in
any way.
Also you need to balance your negative and
positive thoughts in such an efficient way as
not to become overly excited that you do not
control what you say and do, by using logic.

 

Panda

 

World Class

 

Take advantage of any obstacles and turn them
into progress and prosperity.
Change what you can control, accept what you
cannot and be grateful for what you have in
your life.

Eliminate everything that is futile and has no
meaning as well as anything unproductive and
wasteful.
Use your past experiences as a priceless
education, live only in the present moment so
you can see all things as they really are, and
create the best future for yourself.

Take love and give love!
 Live with purpose!
Be strong!