Once again Bo was spending most of his day
at his desk; but instead of focusing on his work
he kept on wondering, ” what is Taffie doing at
this moment? Does she really love me? Why is
she not paying much attention to me? “.
He carried on worrying, even wondering whether
she was flirting with other men.
Bo was not happy in his relationship, without
He was dependent on Taffie for his happiness.
He was jealous, insecure and needy.
Under the circumstances, he was feeling extremely
stressed all the time and totally unhappy.
Stress is the feeling of not being in control.
In our life we want very specific things to happen;
and we worry that these things may never happen
because we do not believe we are capable of
handling something completely different.
Basically we lack confidence and conviction.
We feel confused, fearful and always reluctant.
The degree of our suffering depends only on
our own personal perception of things.
No matter how helpless you may feel, you
still have much more control than you might
Certainly you can control your thoughts,
emotions and actions, as well as your whole
The following will help you cope:
a) On The Spot Techniques:
* Deep Breathing
* Muscle Relaxation
* Meditation (Mantra)
* Walking Barefoot
* Going for a Walk
* Massaging & Smelling Lavender
* Doing Housework/Gardening
* Singing & Dancing
* Drinking Chamomile with Honey
* Eating salty almonds
b) Long Term Techniques:
* Prioritising Your Obligations
* Learning to Say NO to Demands
* Accepting Things You Cannot Change
* Looking Forward to Things Happening
* Taking Up Writing
* Creating a Calming Area in Your Home
* Organising your life
c) Psychological Technique:
Changing your perception of the stressor.
Meaning — Remove Negativity and
* Decide the reason you feel stressed (Why).
* Decide the way you can deal with it (How).
* Apply logic to your negative thoughts and
hold on to the new truth of the situation.
* Think positively about yourself,
stay in the present moment and
start feeling confident, strong and powerful.
To build your defences against future stressors
you must practice most of the above mentioned
techniques, which suit your current situation,
your life and your character.
At the same time, you must adopt:
— Healthy Eating Habits
— Good Sleeping Habits
— Daily Moderate Exercise
— Adequate Rest
— Healthy Lifestyle
Also always try to have, at least, one person
in your life very close to you, so you can
share your thoughts and concerns.
The Acupressure & Reflexology
— Point 1 : Wrists (Inner Gate P6)
Find the pressure point in the middle
of your wrist, three fingers down.
Press this point for at least 5 minutes.
Do this to both wrists.
— Point 2 : Ears (Reflexology)
Massage your ears with your thumb
and forefinger for 3 minutes.
— Point 3 : Scalp (Reflexology)
Massage your whole scalp gently using
circular movements for 2 minutes.
— Point 4 : Breastbone (Sea of Tranquility CV17)
Find the pressure point on the centre
of the breastbone three thumb widths
up from the base of the bone.
Press or tap on this point with your
Bear In Mind
All our problems stem from unhappiness
Always remember, it is never the stressor,
either this is a person or a situation.
It is your action based on your reaction to
C h i l l O u t !!